How many heterosexual Christian women would marry an ex-gay?-ukcoalition.org

Do you honestly believe homosexuality can be cured?wouldn't you be afraid such claims would only lead to unfaithfull sneaking around by your spouse seeking to fullfill their homosexual need? Wouldn't their greater sin be in marrying you to only commit adultery?What if you were to catch aids because the therapy didn't work as been evidenced by all the scandals?

Sorry if I offended anyone by the way I wrote my question but I felt it was the best way.I know that homosexuality doesn't need to be "cured" but those who use it to belittle people do.

I answered this question a few days ago and I'll post the link to my answer...http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

I found out that my very first boyfriend turned out to be gay. He later got married and had two children, with a Fundamentalist Christian. He was also a very strong Christian at that time, and incredibly musical. Then later on, he divorced his wife. They have been involved in custody battles ever since for their two children. She's a fundamentalist homeschooling mom living in the midwest, and her ex is now living in San Francisco.

What's sad is that I don't think he realized that he was gay when he got married, but then admitted the truth later on. It has left his ex-wife very bitter and resentful and his children very very confused.

I wish my ex-boyfriend had been able to be honest about his sexuality and not have tried to live a straight life. It has caused a lot of heartache for the 3 people left behind. From what I've heard, he's happy now in a same sex relationship.

So, as a Christian, I don't believe that you should try to reform a gay or a lesbian. If that person truly wants to leave the gay/lesbian lifestyle and is willing to commit to abandoning that lifestyle for the rest of their life, that's one thing. But not if there is any chance they will stray from their marriage vows.

Homosexuality cannot be cured bc its not a disease, its what one is, therefore i would never marry a man who claimed he had been cured at all. It sets your marriage up for a greater rate of failure. Im a christian and I think ppl are what they are, no judgements

cured? you make it sound like a disease. it's already proven that homosexuality is something you are born into, it's genetic makeup not a choice or something you get by touching a toilet seat.

You could catch aids from a partner that was always heterosexual too....and being heterosexual doesn't mean you have less of a chance of cheating either.

I would.

That's a tough one. I suppose really it wouldn't be any different than someone having an ex of the opposite sex and fear of them sneaking out to go see them. You have to have that trust regardless and not live your life worrying. If you feel it may happen, probably not a good idea.

There is no "ex-gay", there's just denying that you are gay. The only reason someone would pretend not to be gay is because they feel ashamed/their family disowned them. It seems to me if they were going to do that, they would just never marry, at least to not bring anyone else into the problem.

I don't think you could ever trust them to remain ex, not that i don't believe some have, but I also believe that many of them would lie

You're basically right. But you're wrong in speaking of cure as if it were a disease.

If I would find a men who was gay, but not anymore and I would really like him, then what's the matter? Also a heterosexual men can cheet on you, and if he finds out after a while that he's still gay, then you weren't really lucky....! Why would you be more afraid that he has aids, than a men who was alwas heterosexual? I think, that you can change, and I don't think it should be called a cure, when you get heterosexuel, because the people were not sick.....!!

Fair question. All of us can fail, not just the gays. You are correct that aids has been prevalent in the gay community in the past.

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There is no such thing as an "ex" gay.

Gay is not something you choose to be, nor do you just stop being gay.

They would marry anyone with a big enough wallet.

homosexuality can be cured, through the blood of Jesus our past has been erased. look at the testimony of multi-platinum gospel artist Donnie McClurkin. after being raped by 2 male relatives, he became gay until the Lord saved him.

How does one become an ex-gay? Either you are or you aren't. Furthermore, gay people are just as capable of fidelty as non-gays, and equally(or in some cases) more capable of morality than people like you.
I would also like to point out heterosexuals also get AIDS.
And speaking of scandals, just how many evangelical men, Catholic priests or Republican "God fearing" senators have we seen messing with other men(or boys) lately?
Airport bathroom sex anyone?

No, I do not. There is nothing to cure. It'd be nice if people realized that and just gave us rights already.

As many people have already stated, homosexuality is not a disease, but neither is it something that "cannot be helped" or "is genetic" and that person is "born that way". Homosexuality is sin, plain and simple. It is an abomination in God's eyes and a choice that those individuals make. God made man and woman for each other. They are wired differently to complement each other and those in this world that are to marry have a mate that God specifically designed for them. He never made one man for another man or one woman for another woman. He is utterly disgusted by that. It is NOT natural no matter what a person may say. The only way those kinds of habits will be "cured" is by repentance.

It is quite possible for a person who previously claimed to be gay, to later not be...but again, that will only happen through Christ. Unless he or she accepted Christ and bore fruit that comes from a relationship with the true God, I cannot say that I would trust their claim that they've changed.

As for marrying a person who claims to have changed their ways...he'd have to be a Christian otherwise I wouldn't consider him at all. The Bible says not to be unequally yoked. Also, that would ensure that he is walking with the Lord and therefore has become a new creation and is walking in the Truth. If he is doing those things, there is nothing to worry about. All men are still men and subject to sinning...saved and unsaved alike. So there is always that chance that a person would cheat, but there is trust and discipline and many other factors that come into play by which people judge the odds of it happening.

I myself, for example, know that my fiance would never stray unless I gave him reason to. It is my responsibility to make sure I serve him, meet all of his needs (physical, spiritual, emotional and otherwise), and don't give him any reason to leave. If I'm not doing my job, then yeah he's more likely to wander. Same with any man.

So really the issue isn't whether or not the man might still lean toward homosexuality, but where he stands with the Lord. From there it is easy to see what may happen...more so if the woman herself is in right standing witht he Lord.

Also, something else to note...all sin is equal in the sight of the Lord. The person would not be committing a greater sin by having an affair due to their previous homosexuality...he'd just be sinning twice (or perhaps more times depending on what the specific situation entailed). Either way, God will judge Him for it...and He'll also forgive him for it if he repents.

Dear Quaoar Rocks,
Now that's a really intelligent way to deal with a legitimate question... Call her names.
In all honesty Amy is right, and it's vary possible that all that is being accomplished is the browbeating of gays back into the closet.
So any woman that wold wed such a "cured" man would always be "looking over... His shoulder" and fretting.
You know鈥?I make a point of giving vary few thumbs down in Y!A as I believe everyone has the right to express there ideas鈥?But in Rocks鈥?case I鈥檒l make an exception I think.
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