A question for mothers with grown sons with girlfriends you don't like?

My boyfriend's mother is not too fond of me and I don't know what to do. I've been dating him for going on 4 years now, we live together and I moved 8 hours away to do so. I'm a few years older than him, a little over 4. We're both in college but I had taken a bit of a break from school until I moved here. This did not sit well with his mother from the beginning. She always questioned why I took so much time off from school. She went as far as asking my boyfriend if I did drugs. (I certainly do not.) It's just that my parents did not have a lot of money and because I wanted to live on my own, I had to work a lot and when you get into that habit it's hard to make time for school. I always wanted to go back and now I'm getting enough financial aid to do so. Anyway, for the most part we always got along but I always felt like things were a little forced on her side. She has only two sons and she is very controlling. At one point she even admitted to my boyfriend that she felt like...

I was trying to take him away from her. Those kind of things never crossed my mind, actually I think it's a bit creepy. So because I live so far from my family and only an hour away from her, we stayed there a lot on the weekends. I wouldn't have if I wasn't invited to I might add. My first semester back to school I decided to not take a job to get adjusted and all that. I had enough money set aside to pay my bills. This is something my boyfriend and his brother both did for their first year under their mother's recommendation. Apparently though, this did fly when it came to me. One Friday we went up for a visit to the ol'parents house and for some reason my boyfriends dear mother was in some sort of snit. Before I even knew what was going on she starts going off on me, saying all sorts of insulting things about how I'm mooching off my boyfriend and her. She ended with telling me to go back and mooch off my own parents. Well needless to say I left in tears. I thought this woman cared..

My mother in law hates me too and I do not care. My husband has three brothers and one of them has been married twice. She has hated all of us so it is her. The woman needs put in her place. It is none of her business who pays for what at your house. I would stop staying with her and only see her when it is necessary. Your boyfriend is a grown man and he needs to tell her and both of you need to stick to it. If she continues to act this way stay away from her, she will get the idea that you are serious. Mine was told how it was going to be and my husband agreed. We do not see them much.

My mother-in-law hates me. But get this, she hated her oldest sons wife before they had kids, now LOVES her. SHe hated her middle sons girlfriend until she had a kid, and now LOVES her too. She hates me, and continues to ask why I havnt had children yet (I'm only 19!). Some women can't take the fact that their children GROW UP. Just remember how NOT to be if you have children, and they bring someone home that you dont like.

one of those things you are just going to have to live with. he is her son and she has reservations.

Sorry to hear that. I dated a gurl who was 22 and i was 18 yeah. Pretty much my mom didn't like her from the beginning. End up my relationship but opened my eyes because the girl wasn't what she portrayed to be in the beginning. So it maybe the opposite for you. Mother protect sons or daughters no matter what. They always question the bf/gf. But it's a defense like you had before you went out with the guy you are dating. In the end she might like you. Or she could hate you forever. LOL Give her time and show her the you(the kind you are to your BF)