Such a thing as too mature? Not fitting in?

I always considered myself to be very mature..I'm 21 yrs old and still a virgin and I stay away from all the baby mamma drama. Most of my friends started having kids at 15 are on their 3rd kid or so or at least married...It's hard for me to fit in because to me all that baby drama, my man had some other girls digits on his cell, B.S. is so stupid...silly and imature. I also don't drink 2 get drunk, I like wine coolers for the taste but cool aid would satisfy that craving too. Well, I'm at parties and everybody starts drinking and acting well drunk & laughing at things that aren't really funny...the guys start hitting on me but I run away. I say no to drinking, to drugs, to guys....and I'm starting to feel like I am not mature even for my own sake. But it comes natural to me to say no cause I feel guilty that its bad. I'm also tired of being to good, and not having friends because of it. Would it be wrong to give in? I'm a 21 yr old virgin, good girl..will I regret not having fun later?

Thanks everyone. It's just that I live in a small town and there's only so many people to hang with but I feel better I thought it was something i was doing wrong or that maybe I had to change. Thanks for all the positive comments :)

You're so far on the right track that it's unbelievable.

You don't always have to conform to society and what is considered "normal". It's great to be an independent person, and you seem to have a lot of sense about you.

Keep it up!

carry on as you are,fun isn't giving yourself away

Well, its good that your responsible, but you should let loose every once in a while so that you know what your missing out on.

kids at 15? get new friends. Anyone would look mature in comparison. Not having sex at that age has nothing to do w/ maturity, its just a personal choice. I would say you sound more responsible than anything.

I think you are one smart cookie.

How much "fun", do you think people REALLY have when they are drunk. How much fun is it to have 3 children to pick up after..

Your friends will be quite jealous of all the freedom you have. Don't change who you are to try and fit in with people who's life styles you don't agree with. Drunks are not funny.

You ask will you later regret not having fun... There is still a lot of fun out there for you, and you will not be tied down to a bunch of kids and an alcoholic "baby daddy", when it comes your way.

You're not mature. Everybody else is just immature. Once you're married, you'll be so thankful that you didn't give up your virginity to someone else's future husband.

I guess so ummm. Do you think your mature if you do then dont ask silly question.

moveeee. you dont need to drink to have fun. people have all different ideas of what fun is. you should enjoy yourself but your to young to be having kids, thats not too fun.

you should just be u! dont change to make other people happy, u want to be a mature person and thats great! thats not something u shud throw away to be friends with immature people. try going to places where u can do things u enjoy doing and im sure ull meet more people who are just as mature as you. do what you wanna do, or else ull regret it later

life is to short you dont have to be a party girl im not one but im living my life there is nothing wrong with having sex or getting married you never kno when you will die so live it up im getting married in 2 years dont be sm1 you aren't just live a little

i think you will regret not having fun later.
you're young! live it!
thank god that there is still young virgins out there.
dont give that up just yet. but do try and have more fun.
you'll have time to be mature for the rest of your life! :]

I think most men (real me) would love to be with you. And to know that you are still pure in all ways. Good luck to you, Mr right will come along.

Possibly. Always remember, to each his own. Or in your case, to each her own. Everyone has different lifestyles. Don't do something just to fit in. If it's your personality then try it. But there are other people out there just like you that aren't particularly found of the party scene and etc. Maybe you need to find new friends, or explore your party side. Nothing to be guilty about, your young. Live it up if you want or find new friends and live it up in different ways. Getting plastered drunk is not fun though. Having a buzz is enough for me. Otherwise people just make asses of themselves, including myself. Part of growing up is learning limitations.

WOMAN!! i know for a fact that being too mature only gets you a boring life. If you decide to have sex, do it with someone you care about whether it be a really good friend or a long time BF. You'll regret not having fun one day and don't ever get drunk, if you wanna see a video of me drunk all my homeboys take turns being video tapped looking like they are humpimg me lmao cause i'm passed out. i only got drunks once and i will never get drunk again anytime soon. Remember when you were once immature. try being about 65% mature and 35% immature. i know you have friends who are immature and they are still your friends for that reason am i right? your friends with people who are immature because they are not boring people.

You know so many people nowadays have absolutely no morals, and it sounds like you are not one of them. Don't compromise that. Fun does not have to be all about partying and having sex. But if you feel that you are not having enough fun, find positive activities that make YOU feel good. And about not having alot of friends: Its all about QUALITY not quantity.

You can have good clean and sober friends and have a ton of fun. I think you are hanging around the wrong people. Remember birds of a feather flock together. It sounds like you have out grown your friends. And if they are getting drunk it's not fun for them the next day. It could lead to alcoholism too. I can't tell you what to do but I know if I could go back in time I would have not drank and not gave myself away to the first guy who said he loved me. Think this all through and think of what being drunk could and can brings. I would suggest getting new friends and detaching from you drinking friends.

Even though I'm younger than you, I realy understand how you feel. I've always felt out of place with my peers, not just in that they make me feel like Polly Pure, but in that I just don't seem to fit in with them. Most of my friends by now have had serious boyfriends, whie I've done ZIP with a guy.

You'll have fun later, when all the people you know who are married now end up getting married 3 more times and having children they didn't want, while you're living happily ever after.

Don't give in. I'm just like you. I'm mature and old fashioned. And I think that being mature puts you in a more confident and superior position than others. From what I know, guys like girls that are confident in themselves, but not too ostentatious either. So keep being the way you are and someday you'll find a gentleman who's just as mature as you.

You're perfectly fine. But I think that you should choose a different crowd to hang around because you'll never get the enjoyment you want out of life by being around the things you don't like.

i think you should find new friends! you sound like a very good person, don't give in just to fit in..you'll regret it later, and besides, you don't have to get stone drunk and have sex to have fun..that's just stupid! I'm 19 and a virgin too, i don't drink either, but my friends are just like me and I feel completely comfortable around them. So find new friends! trust me, you'll find 21 year-olds who are just as mature as you and a whole heap of fun, you just have to look for them=)

You don't have to give in to have fun.

At 21, don't take yourself or life to serious, get out and enjoy yourself, but with like-minded people.

21, no drinking and no sex? You will probably find more llike-minded people in church, religious young adult groups or just moral social groups.

If you aren't in or haven't gone to college, then go, even if it's just one class iin Photography. It's where I found many of my interest and my life long friends. Don't change you to get friends, change your friends.

I was virgin until college also, so sometimes weekends would be a little lonely. I was lucky to find a Friday Night volleyball at a Church of Maranatha that was open to 16 to 25 year old, any faith or none at all. There was also bowling and softball and an alchohol-free club. Search around in your town, I'm sure you'll find something.

i only see your positive side

and the fact that you are hanging with a bunch of losers
at 21

you should be in college getting a degree

the loser life is nothing to be proud of much less emulate

you are all ready getting affected by even saying the word baby mamma....

you offer so much yet you risk so much

i learned a long time ago that there is you and there is losers
and losers stick together, it all they live for and all they know, they have screwed up their life early on and so the want others to join in their misery. they know they will never accomplish anything much less be anything in life.

why pay that price?

i learn to believe in yourself means you will go farther in life than they will, that you are different because you want more out life than simply parties and sex, and that such people as you will find are not your friends, but rather leechers in need of company.

on your own or with a good set of friends, you will find a much better life and will be more ambitious about it. this is why the term water seeks it own level comes in. a college educated women can expect to marry a college educated man and love a good life.

a party girl can expect to get knocked up early on, smoke and then look like an old hag at 25 or so, working for Walmart becuase she has no job skill and has no choice.

is that what you want for the want of loser "friends" ?

you need to find yourself a much better class of friends who can be a more positive influence on your life and thus will remove any thoughts of regressing.

good luck

no hun your friends will regret alot of the choices theyve made but you think with your head thats not a bad thing and by being a virgin you are 100% std free nothin wronge with that. me i had a kid at 17 and to tell you the truth i feel like i have missed out on alot of things. i think the main thing you would regret is not doing what you want with your life because you spent it being to high or drunk,or you didnt get to fullfill your dream cause you have a kid to tend to, and you know you are healthy and not sick due to hiv. i think you just need to make friends that are into the same things you are into. do something positive with your life another thing i think you might regret is not going to college but hopefuly your already there good luck live your life the way you want you are the secret to your own happieness