This is for any parents with kids in their 20s, or ppl with experinece in this area, please help me!!!?

My boyfriend and I want to get married, we're 21 and 22. We've thought of just about everything, we're thinking that we'll get married next year after he graduates from college and has a full time job; we know that we'd live in an apartment for a while; with us being married, I'd get financial aid(I don't get it now b/c my parents make too much money); we don't want to have kids until we've paid off our college loans(we're thinking even longer, like 30); and since we're both Diabetic, we'd get health insurance settled first because that's almost as important as our financial problems.
I guess my question is, If your child came to you with all this information and proof that they're not just jumping into it head first and put some thought into it, would you have any objections? What would they be? What would you say to your child? Do you have any experience with this situation? What happened?

I am the mother of 3 daughters, who are 27, 24, and 21. None of them are married although my oldest does have a son.
I find it quite refreshing that they are independent and not willing to marry for the sake of being married. I am proud that young women have so many more options than my mom did.
Educating yourself is extremely important. Most marriages end in divorce today, many end in the death of a spouse.

Having said all of that-----If any of my girls wanted to get married that would be a decision that I could not make for them. At 21, you do not need permission. You don't even need approval, but it makes it easier.

When my oldest girl got pregant at 17, her then boyfriend wanted to marry her. I sat them at the table with pen and paper and went thru a budget. How much do you make, how much is your rent, truck payment, price of diapers, shoes, school supplies etc............

It seems as you and your boyfriend have been through this, but just how do you plan to get insurance? It is so expensive almost no one can afford a private policy, and many employers have restrictions before you qualify for a group policy.

My biggest concerns for my daughter would be: how long have you known this man, how does he treat you, how does he handle his temper, does he take his frustration out on you?

While I do support the instution of marriage, I know , after almost 1/2 of my life.. that is not always fun. A woman does give up a lot of herself in being a wife. (maybe a man does too, but I can't speak of that)...it is not about having wild sex anytime you want to and not having to worry about being caught! When you marry, you set up a home and HOUSEKEEPING together. Discuss these responsiblilites and chores with your intended.

But dear daughter, I will love you whatever you do or don't do. All I have ever wanted for you is that you make choices you can live with and then live with the choices you make........

Good luck to you young woman.........

It sounds to me like you two are very mature & capable of making your own decisions. My daughter is 22 & she is married. There comes a time when you have to live your life & make your own decisions. Good luck & congrats.

it's natural for a parent to say your too young which you both are and no matter what any one tells you your going to do it anyways cause you think your in love and this is mr right but you got your whole future in front of you and getting married now sounds good but who knows how you will fill later on when you get tired and realize you did it too young and it's easy to say will get an apartment and things will be happily ever after but it's hard out there on your own it's not only rent it's phone cable water power gas food etc . my 2 kids are 22 and 25 and so far they are still both single and trying to achieve what they want first as far as a car etc once you get married you can no longer come and go or have the nice things if your single .but then again it's possible it can work good luck in what ever you decide.