Whenever i break up withmy loser husband,whom is abusive ,he wants to seek revenge Why?

i am on strong pain releiver that i pick up daily cause i don't want a large quatity in the house,he has used my meds against me for so long that really me picking it up daily across the street is for the best.He always phones my pharmasict and tries to say things that arent true,or he will phone the childrens aid,and tell them stories, or even try to phone my doctor and say thiongs that arent true,when i met him 5 years ago he swept me off my feet, he had nothing just his clothes on his back,all the furniture is mine and my sons 15 and 13 boys,great kids but dont need it anymore.he has lived with his 91 yr old mother since he broke up with his first wife,hasnt worked at all welfared his way threw the 70s 80s and 90s, a mamas boy. Why does he want to ruin me? and any other info on this kind of man also i would love to hear.

he has nothing without u, so now that u have left his life he is seeking some sort of revenge against u, so u will hurt the same way as he does. he wants to ruin u, because his life is ruined. this is a man who can't make it on his own, and will blame u for it all. he wants to make u look bad in the eyes of others. that kind of man will always seem to sweep u off your feet, but this man is a coward, who picks on women and when he doesn't get his way he will think of something else mean to do to u.

Why does he want to ruin you? Because you are probably the only woman other than his mother who truely understands him and now that you have hurt him and there is no chance of getting back together, he wants to make you feel how he feels. and that is Pain. Hurt. Unwanted. in the heart.

Please do a google search on emotional abuse. This man is trying to control you. Some men like this cannot be changed. If he is this manipulative it could lead to further, physical harm. You are not in a good relationship and you and your children will continue to suffer until you realize for yourself that you are worth more than what he is trying to put you through. You can go to the family courts and file a TPO (temporary protective order) that will remove him from your household, require him to seek therapy, and make sure he is financially responsible for you and the kids while he is away.


I lived this for YEARS and sufferred from depression and thought it was me all the while. I was wrong. While my husband is now in therapy and anger management, I am still divorcing him as I cannot get past the years of torment and will NOT give him another chance.

Please don't do this to yourself or your kids. You CAN get help for yourself. There are women's shelter's in your area that you can call that can place an emergency protection order over the phone for you and give you all the resources you need to escape this hell of a life you have been living in.

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