What would you do if you were in my situation?

I've been engaged for over a year. The deal that my fianc茅 sorta made with my parents to get their blessing was that we'd wait 4yrs/ I'd get my bachelors degree. The thing is that they were supposed to send me my first 4yrs of college and I haven't went a day because they won't give me their tax info. for financial aid. So for well over a year I've dropped my life completely (including most of my friends) to help my mother take care of my grandmother who has Alzheimer. My parents seem unconcerned with whether or not I go to college or have a life outside of them (especially considering that I'm like a maid, cook, and sit with my grandma anytime they need it). They see nothing wrong with my life as is, all though I've been depressed for most of this yr . I see no light at the end of the tunnel if I continue with my life as is, so my fianc茅 and I are considering getting married (we don't believe in living together before marriage). Would you continue as is or chose to get out?

I understand this is a hard decision especially since your family is involved, but enough is enough. I know what it's like to have to baby sit someone whenever they rang a bell, but sometimes I just ran out and didn't tell them where I was going. They seem like they're being selfish since you probably don't complain to them, but you have to tell them that you want to go to college, you have a future planned, and that you feel like your life is wasting away. My parents often get selfish with me because I'm the oldest and can do more than my other siblings, but sometimes I just straight out tell them that I can't take it anymore. I can't handle taking care of 10 kids all under the age of 6 just because I'm available at the moment. Do what you have to do. Don't let them treat you like a slave. Ask them to support you for college or tell them you have to go and support yourself.

I would get out and get a job. SAve your money, and find a place to live. Taking care of your grandmother is NOT your responsibility. You can establish yourself as an independent student. Don't wait for them. Get on with your life!

good luck to you. :)

I would get out and marry your fiance. If you parents want to bring up the "deal" that was made - throw it back in their face and say that you haven't been able to keep it because they make it difficult for you to even attend college.

they broke the deal they made. If they wont help you with something as simple as tax info then the deal if off! Get married, get a job, go to school, whatever you want! Its great to help family but you still need to carry on with you life.

If you and your fiancee want to get married now, do it. Your parents can put this off indefinitely if they want to prevent you from getting married..(and losing the household help).

GET OUT!! Your old enough to make these decisions and you don't need your parents approval. It's nice that your helping your family, but if you keep doing this, you'll never start your own!

maybe you should consider thinking about your future and your fiance for a change.

Elope or get married with or without your parents blessings, HOWEVER, please remain helping your grandmother and do everything you can for her. You are still so very lucky to have a grandparent at your age.

Talk to your parents about your education, that you would like to get it, but if they are not willing to help, you can apply for student loans and/or part time job or your fiance or new husband can help you. Talk to him about it and see what he says. An engagement should only last one year. Your parents sound selfish and controlling.

But, please, continue to help your grandmother.

well..if i were u..i'd rather choose to get out with the first planned of getting married with your fiance..we can find the true happiness if we got no problems with our family,right?..just tell your fiance to wait..if he can't wait therefore it's his lose..and surely he will wait for you 'coz he loves you..one day you will continue your bachelor's degree..not now maybe because as what you've said that it seems your parents are unconcerned with your education..you just felt it because they are busy thinking your grandmother's health..just understand your parents..and try to confront your parents 'bout your plan my dear..i know they will agree for what's best for you..good luck!