Is it haram: To write love letters on someone else鈥檚 behalf?
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So earlier today, I got this email from a younger brother of one my former classmates, direly requesting my aid in order to write HIS 鈥榗onfession of love鈥?letter.
As some of more seasoned folks, here might know of those 鈥榮ecret admirer/ lover鈥?types. You know, those cheesy, corny and quite dodgy ones [like 鈥溾€ver since I saw her, I loved her鈥︹€漖.
I admit a year back, I wouldn鈥檛 鈥榟ad have asked this, as I would have clearly helped the kid [he is ~15 years old], but now it鈥檚 a moral dilemma and quite a different story. I鈥檝e evaluated this solely on 鈥榬ational鈥?thinking as:
-For: the kid is like a younger brother to me, how can I turn him down? I do owe some [minor] gratitude to his older brother [my mate], so here is an opportunity of payback. I am not responsible for what he does with the letter or [later] consequence related to it.
-Against: WHAT IF? The letter is a success? And the girl [as age as the other kid] falls for it? And they do something un-Islamic [touching, kissing and astagfiruallah] will I鈥檝e a share in their doings (sin)? I mean I 鈥榳as鈥?the instrument who 鈥榝acilitated鈥?this transaction in the first place! Will I be as guilty as them, in their [if happened] affair de Coeur.
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BUT the thing is by the law of probability it鈥檚 a 50-50 chance of success or failure, but should I?
Cheers. Wazgud get married at 16 ? I don't want to give him such a head start over me !
*wink wink* sOo if this child asked for YOUR help to write a love letter on his behalf, then this means that he knows something, like he knows that you're eligible to write such letters..
hmm...this leaves me wondering that you're a romantiC guy... are u a guy yeh? im not even sure sorry...
I dont think its haram to write love letters, on your behalf or someone elses...Good Luck' whether u write it or nO't... ;] * decided to write one that is bound to be Report Abuse
Touching and kissing is not allowed ,unless they are married.
So get knowledge about teachings of Islam about man-woman relationship outside marriage.
Tell him that we should only see good.We should only do good. we should only think good.We should only write good .We should only say good. Report Abuse
Your duty as a grown up is to discourage what is wrong. Report Abuse
Thanks Jane, a very valid point. Cheers. If I don't do it, he may find some one else to write it for him. Report Abuse
thx for the BA...Im not a die-hard on turkish delights too...I looovvee baklava tho'.... mmmm... Report Abuse
i wouldn't do it... its kind of childish not to mention an act that i am most certain will provoke something. it isn't worth it, is it? also its something that will lead him to believe that in every case of infatuation he can 'write' a love letter & that isn't exactly an idea you would want a 15yr old to have... Yes it is okay to write the letter.
If you are wahabi/salafi/neo-khawarij...break the pen, coz in your cult writting is bidah, make sure all books are burnt, and as for the girl, she should be chained like an animal. Now go and blow yourself up killing as many innocents as possible. Yes it is haram sis . That letter might be the first step for something more haram . Don't help him and take part in it . no it's not w/in a marriage
but it counts as irresponsible flirting if not married
now i'm going to read what the master of words and damsels in distress has written
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hmm, quite a dilemma indeed! and it is not only damsels this time eh?
now, all emotions aside and thinking rationally:
-as an older bro's buddy, you do owe him some acknowledgment, yea? but instead of possibly facilitating wrong, shouldn't you aim to guide him to right?--and he can take or leave the advice, but you wouldn't be at fault if you gave him bad advice and he took it...
if these are muslim kids and he really loves her, then it's best to avoid the extra flirting (cuz that's not islamic) and be straightup...if he's not ready for marriage, then should he honestly be concerned? harsh to say, but it's reality right?
it's not about whether or not the end result is success or failure, but rather if you are promoting an islamic way of proceeding through such situations
that would be your role in this dilemma, no?
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don't be selfish
but seriously, doesn't heartbreak and/or sin often result from acting on such emotions w/o the intention to marry?
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peace This is what I'd say:
"Brother, these emotions of love have to be sincere and come from within. I advise you to use your discretion to do what you think is right and pray to God things work out as He has planned. I would like to help you but a) I have no experience in this stuff and b) I don't want to give you some advice that will end up screwing up your chances. You're a smart guy, I'm sure you can handle these emotions. And if it helps at all, I'm guessing your feelings for this girl will pass by soon. Good luck"
Salams. nobody can answer this question and give you the certain answer.
its haram to get in the way of true love between two ppl.
its haram to break a bond of love , something too strong that it is not just physical, but spiritual and emotional.
what kind of god calls love between a man and a woman 'haram' ??
sick , very very sick twisted ppl believe this to be haram.
write your love letters - not a55hole mullah or islamic scholar can stop you. number one point :
DON'T GET INVOLVED IN SILLY TEEN LOVE XD
trust me man, the kid is just going thru a phase. lol and yea u would be part of the sin
LEAVE THAT WHICH IS DOUBTFUL ;) so be on the safe side, and forget it inshallah :P tell the kid to stay a kid and to stop acting older :P
@ Truthseeker - stfu. u over exaggerate man. u c when ppl speak about shia's they tell the TRUTH, whereas when a shia speaks about a salafi, they always have to LIE cos they know that they following properly... you darling of course not.
Arabs might not agree with me on this topic but here in turkey many people fest in Ramadan and we only do not eat and drink anything additionally not have sex during the required time. That is all.
Well, when you say "a love letter", it is an innocent thing but if one's "love letter" is full with passion and erotic fantasies than i think it must be considered as a sin, because you also need to avoid unwanted sexual fantasies. | 