Should people with Hiv have children?

I am an Hiv positive male and my child mother is also and we have a 18 month old who is negative.. Before she got pregent I research and found that less then 0.5% of babies are borned positive. Afriend toild me that was selfish of me what are your thoughts on this subject? Please I don't want to hear anybody say anything stupid like the child is going to get Aids and die or we are goiing to die because if you do i expect you to bring facts to this discussion which you want be abole to bring and i can easily rebuttle.

well so far I have goten good and some stupid responses.
1. Mr. Sfdfdsfs I want yuo to know that this is a serious discussion and not a rap concert
2. Dog or what ever you call yourself tell me what are the statisics of someone with Hiv dyeing (death)? Please post facts about the chances of death? tell us all are we living longer or left to die like in the early 80's?

Yes why not? I found out I was HIV + in the 36th week of my pregnancy .

Im a HIV + mother and I'm a better mother than half of the moms I know !

Having HIV doesnt mean your any different, your just sick thats all !

Having HIV should never hinder your ability to have a good life !

Chances are your child will not have HIV if you girlfriend goes through the nesscessary procattions like c- section , taking meds and having your baby take anti retrovirals.

This person and their rude thoughts is NOT a friend , procedd with caution friends support friends.

Good Luck !
BTW My daughter is not HIV + and is 20 months old :O)

hello i am ozzierobbie and i think that you had a lot of courage to be so open as there are so many closed minded people out there and i really loved your responses from these small minded people Report It

and also the lady who you chose with her answer was also a person who hit the nail on the head with what she said take care and enjoy your beautiful family Report It

NO!!

HOW ABOUT NO!

i wouldn't want to risk that with my baby.

Well I dont know... It might be selfish.... What if you both die? Where will your kids go? How will they feel?

I believe it is up to them as parents to make the best decision.

There are preventative measures that can be taken for both parties to have an HIV- child. a child none-the-less is a blessing no matter what challenges they bring into the world.

I do not believe the government should ever control reproductive rights.

no, even 0.5% is a lot Do not risk

You have the same right as anyone to have a child. There are plenty of bad parents out there, and nobody stopped them from having kids. Some will get sick or die in car accidents too, but nobody knows who they are going to be. It's a crap shoot anyway.

Well first of all what a relief that ur child doesn't have HIV! Im so happy and may God bless and protect your son, I don't say it with wrong intention just for the well being of the little angel.
Now I am glad you had studied the chances of them getting AIDS which results you in a caring person. I am sorry for the HIV you have but I think you and her desrved to have the blessing of having the child
After all if God din't want you guys to have a child he would have done somethign in his power to prevent that happening

That being said, you have the same right that anybody else has to have a child

Well people with Hiv live alot longer now and since the baby doesn't get it automaticaly from having parents with it, I don't see why not. As long as you are a good parent, I don't see a problem with it.

i think they absolutely have the right to have children, especially if the proof shows there is a little chance of the child being affected...

Yes, under very careful medical supervision, why not? Its quite a difficult question to ask on here though, I am astounded at peoples lack of knowledge of HIV, sad isnt it?

My 1st reaction to your question is no because this child may end up an orphan but this could happen to any child . I guess it's a personal decision that I won't judge you on.Some may say this was a selfish decision but it was also a brave one . I wish the best for you & your family ,take care.

I believe no. If you know there is a possibility of giving your child a disease or life hindering defect, it is very unfair to that child.

If someone with genetic problems or diseases wants a child, they should lean more towards adoption. They are giving another child who is already born a chance at life instead of giving an unborn child a chance at a young death.

So long as you take care not to pass the disease onto the child, I see no reason why not. However, you should make provisions for the child in case you should die young. That is not as big an issue nowadays as modern anti-retrovirals are quite effective, but it is still a possibility and should be planned for. It is not acceptable to figure the state will look after your child and support it if you can't.

Honestly I think it would be a bit reckless to try to have another child. Yes the chance is slim, but what if your child falls into that slim category of childrens that ARE born HIV positive??? Are you willing to accept that you and/or your wife passed this one to an inoccent child if it was to happen? I am not saying that you dont deserve to have kids at all. Your 1st child was born negative and that is great! It is what it is, but I wouldnt TRY to have another one just out of fear that my child could be born with HIV... if it was me personally, I wouldnt have had 1 child and if I did and my child was safe the first time, I definitally wouldnt do it again... my luck runs out easily.

No, just as if you had cancer or brain tumor or Alzheimer's. Why bring a child into the world that is destined to be an orphan? It is selfish and short-term minded.
Everyone is going to die. YOU, too.
Also, quit having babies without MARRYING THE MOTHER.
We don't need anymore innocent babies out there who KNOW their mom and dad didn't care enough about each other to commit to each other and them. Makes children grow up feeling like victims.
I hope English is your second language, because you do not have much command of it for a native.

congratulations on your beautiful child ,you gave this a lot of thought and you looked into this ,you and your wife have a lot of courage so give yourself a pat on the back .Just because you are HIV doesn't mean you are going to die .Your friend should respect your decision on having children it has nothing to do with him/her they are free to have there feelings on thing but unless its a positive one close your mouth and keep it to yourself he should be full of joy for you and your wife god bless you and your family :-)

As we know AIDS is not usually transferred in utero. So the risk is small. Breast feeding has a higher risk again as you know. Your first child is neg most likely your second child would be too if that was your desire but thats not the question you ask. I feel if you have backup for your children such as a friend that knows the situation well or close relative, that if your AIDS does progress to the next stage and you become very sick they can take on the role of carer of these children. If the children are well provided for who are we to say that you cannot have them. Anyone that has a child does it for selfish reasons (Im very selfish I have 4) Its after we have them we learn to become selfless. Many of us have a need for a child the want to share the love as a couple. I will not decide or even attempt to judge whether you should have a child as this is your choice. If done responsibly and with care this choice is yours nobody elses. How many children are born into this world that are bashed, mistreated brought into familes that are starving malnourished and neglected from parents who are "well" I understand your choices but as I am not in your position would not judge one way or the other as long as you take into consideration that if your virus progresses you have the children needs condsidered. We are all going to die at some point but as you have this virus you are aware of the steps you need to take to protect your family.

ANYONE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO HAVE A CHILD! All babies are at risk of some illness. Do you think any parent ever meant for their child to have downs syndrome or leukemia? Of course not. You know the risks and you have taken the right steps in protecting your family. Any parent can die and leave their children behind. But you know how to take care of yourself and make sure you are around for a long time.

Dr. Kaiser replies:

I believe that we now have the knowledge and tools necessary to keep someone who is newly infected with HIV alive for a normal, healthy lifespan.

So, yes I think you have all the right to have as many kids as you can handle.

Congratulations that your baby is healthy
Don't worry about what other people think, you already have one so it's a little late to contemplate it now.

You got really lucky the first time. I would not risk it again.

NO!

How selfish are you, anyway?

Even if your child is healthy, do you think your child wants to be an orphan after seeing you waste away?

Love your child by not having one.