Is it wrong?

Is it wrong that I am 16 1/2 years old and my parents have never come to me and have the "talk"? My parents never talk to me about sex, the cons of premarital sex, condoms and safe sex, stds, aids, they never let me watch movies that have sexual motives but don't respectly show the act, and they never told me anything about puburty or growing up...

I wouldn't have found out for myself and done my own research if I disobeyed my parents and used the internet when I wasn't supposed to. Sometimes I am so grateful for the information I find, because my parents never tell me anything. And it's not like I don't know how to handle the wrong information....I'm always mature about throwing away the garbage.

Why don't my parents inform me? I'm not going to be their little ignorant kid my whole life. I was scared when I went through puburty cause I thought I was dieing.

to the last poster: I don't go to school, I'm homeschooled. That's just more isolation.

U should walk up to ur parents and say "Mom, Dad, Where do babies come from?" They will probably give u a stupid look, but all u have to say is "My friend got this girl pregnant... Can that happen from kissing? I kissed this girl on the bus! Does that mean she's pregnant?!" That should open up the lines of communication. :) Good luck!

They feel uncomfortable with the situation at hand (pardon the pun) or they simply trust you. You seem trustworthy for having the audacity to bring your query to us at Yahoo! Inform your questions of this and take them to a teen site with information on Sex and talk openly about it

well duh they dont want you to grow up . BZut why does it matter if you found out you self ?

They probably don't want to tell you because they don't know how or they are just afraid to. You are doing the right thing by doing research.

My parents and I never really had "the talk" but i found things out on my own....

yes i think is wrong at your age is good to know you are a teenager already telling you doesn't mean that you have to go and do it but you have to learn how to protect yourself so tomorrow they won't regret anything because they never tell you on time.

I guess sometimes parents are just uncomfortable with giving their kids 'the talk'. It was wrong of them to just let you experience it all on your own, though.

if you go through puperty you do die. so youl have about 3 days left. btw ya mams not gone through it yet.

that sucks yes i believe it is the parents duty to talk to their kids about sex and puberty your parents are wrong for not saying anything to you

You should go to your parents a ask to have the talk with them.Maybe they a afraid if they have the talk with you that you might go and try it.They are just scared and don't know how to approach you with the talk.Go on go talk to them and keep the lines of communication open.GOOD LUCK.

This is really common, some parents (or people) are just not comfortable talking about sex, or about things that are personal. I have a close relative like that, and he married a woman like that too...Eventually it will probably be ME having 'the talk' with his daughters. Don't blame your parents, they are probably doing the best they know how to.

When I was a young girl (child) I knew about sex, but thought only wicked people did that. (I was born in 1959 so I grew up in California in the era of free love, half the people I knew were naked all the time...) Back then, in fifth grade, they showed you movies in school about where babies came from. I was so appalled that my mother had done THAT and that I was proof of it that I did not speak to her for a week.

When I was 14 and it was time for 'the talk' she wrote me a note. It had some flowery stuff about "sex is a butterfly feeling in your stomach" - that's a quote - I still remember laughing with my friends over that note. That was back in the 70s and everyone was having sex, including me and all my friends. The note contained no concrete information or warnings whatsoever - thanks mom.

At least you have the internet (and the various levels of quality of information there). I learned about sex from my friends, who were all as ignorant as I was.

my parents don't inform me either my guess is that there parents did not inform them either but just learn from their mistakes be smart always and now you know that you can inform your kids

sorry dear,but you don't have to blame your parents.sometimes we parents are more protective to our children more than ourselves and we tend to do what our parents did to us.I know you feel bad ,and what you are say is true that, they need to talk to you on different topics.my advance to you ,try not to do the same mistake they did.DO you know what? ...........not expressing your feelings .always solve your problems with communication o.k.you meant think they are doing this on purpose,to realize they are not aware of there mistake.may be to them,since they know you are getting this kind of education in school they think is enough for you...........so talk and let them hear you out

I never ever got that talk and the schools did nothing, now I am pregnant.

I do find that quite weird. I think that once kids hit that tween/teen stage, all parents should have "the talk" with them. Maybe your parents are embarrassed. Maybe they don't know what to say. But that is no excuse. It is neccessary for all young people to be informed. Look at all of the kids on YA who don't even know that the "pull out method" is a reliable form of birth control!

Maybe if more kids were educated, we wouldn't have such a high rate of teenage pregnancies and STD. And let's face it, we shouldn't rely solely on the schools. It is our job as parents to educate our children about sex, give them as much information as we can to prevent premarital sex, or at the very least, prevent teen pregnancy and STDs.

Have you ever confronted your parents about this? I really think you should. They aren't doing their job as parents by informing you about "the facts of life".

it sounds like there being very over[rotective of you, just tell them how you feel and that you want more freedom, just tell them what you said on here, if they don't listen thenit them that have got the problem and not you but be nice about it because they're only doing it for there own good

That's probably the way your parents were raised, too, so they don't know any better. If they think they're keeping you safe by keeping you sheltered and ignorant, they're not alone, but of course they're wrong. I know a young man whose parents tried to keep him in the dark, and his first year away at a Christian college he got his girlfriend pregnant without even having intercourse with her, while his more street-wise buddies would have known better.

You'll do much better as a parent than your own parents, but try to forgive their ignorance.

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cout yourself lucky then

I grew up in a similiar household. I went to public schools though so at least I learned about sex education. I think that they are just too uncomfortable to discuss it. They may not be ready to face the fact that you are growing up. I found out about puberty from a friend, otherwise I too would have thought I was dying. I was 12.

Seeing as how you are home schooled it is very irresponsible of them not be teaching you about the birds and the bees. They chose home schooling and with that comes the responsiblity of making sure that you get a well rounded education, socially, physically, literature, math and science- bilology, chemistry ect..

I never got "the talk".
But I know the diffirence between whats right and whats wrong.
I found out from all of my older friends.
They told me what they went through, and I just put 2 and 2 together and finally found out.
Now that Im going through it, Im okay with the fact that my parents did not give me "the talk" because, That would have been highly uncomfortable with them and me.
When I'm talking with people around my age [ 5 years older max ] I feel like, I can relate.
But, when it's with my mom and dad. I feel like they lived in a whole diffirent time period so what's happening now is much more diffirent then what happened then.
But that time has passed and all worked out for the best :D
- Ciao.

You just need to sit your parents down and tell them you want to know. They are just scared there Little girl is not so little any more and its hard on the parents. We don't want are children to grow up we want them to stay babies. But my oldest is 8 and he has all ready started to ask me question and I sat him down and answered them. It was hard for me but I want him to know the truth and all the B.S. his Friends come up with. You just have to come right out and ask your parents and make them tell you and have the talk. Good Luck.