I am a femail, 14 years. I Know this is a young age for sex, but i really want sex. I need some help!?

Ok. Well i am 14, and i am not on birth control, and i have never had sex before. I have a boyfriend, and he is amazeing, & weve gone out for a little while now, and the next step further in our relationship would be sex. I love him so much, and even though i have no clue if our relationship will end up in marrage, i want to go farther. please help me, but please dont prech. Ive done some major research on the subject and i know all about unwated pregnacy and aids etc. But i really love him, & im sure that if we had sex, i would be on birth control and he would use a condom. But youh see i have some issues. For one, i CANT get pregant or my whole life will die as i know it, my dad would never forgive me. Two how do i get birth control? like do i need a parent? plus ive never been on it before so i dont know everything about it. & im sure i want it, ive had an orgasim, when we were only fooling around nothing serious. Please i need some good strong advice, also know i cant ask my family

Think about the consequence of being pregnant. What you crave is natural, but it's not healthy for you at your age. That Christmas song about Toyland,blah, blah,blah...once you pass it's portals you can never come back again. You will be thrown mentally into a world grown adults find difficulty navigating with a lot of experience under their belts. In your case you won't even see what just hit you. You may turn against your family and do a lot of other stupid things. It's like a drug. Once you have it, you want more, and for me it never seems enough. It's like having an addiction that could get you pregnant. Also it throws you into a emotional arena(think Gladiator) where you are going to have to question are you being used, trying to be used or want to get out of being used. Dealing with the angry male that demands,begs or manipulates you constantly for sex. At your age your brain is literally still growing. The significance of your age is that you are supposed to be focused on your school studies, so you can provide for your basic needs for survival as an adult. Exploring your sexuality comes when it doesn't threaten your whole scheme of development. You know how the mason is spreading his cement sidewalk smooth? He doesn't want anyone tramping through until it "sets" or "cures." Having sex now would be like letting whoever tramp through your still as yet undeveloped mind, even if it's a little kid like yourself. They still can make a big mess out of the scenario. Telling him "NO" now will be a heck of a lot easier than telling him "NO" after the fact, it will be harder for you to resist because of the addiction thing and because of his pleading, etc. will get more and more obnoxious. Have you ever had a pet dog? You probably knew when to tell him a stern NO that absolutely meant no way. Think of this in the same way. You better train him fast or he will be driving you insane and then what energy or forethought will you have left for your studies, which are of the absolute most importance right now. Hang in there!! For everyone's sake and certainly for your own present and future welfare. If you're considering "safe sex," I'm saying at your age that doesn't exist for the reason I gave above. It doesn't matter if the kid puts on a jumpsuit before he splatters all over your cement. Sure he can peel out of his jumpsuit all nice and fresh, but a mental mess has just been made that will still lead to all the mind-numbing consequences above. Also if you don't follow my reasoning, consider this: Your are 14. You have plenty of time to play around with fire and get burned before you even have a CHANCE of starting college, which you most definitely should be putting at the top of your priorities in becoming a full-fledged adult.

dont do it right now just wait till ur 18 a least

So young...so naive...Don't have sex. You really aren't ready.

first of all the next step in your relationship is not sex, your are an immature idiot. second of all even if you get birth control its not 100% effective, plus the fact of your age, 14 is still puberty age and it will be even less effective.

you need to grow the heck up

im sorry your question is pathetic and no one on here is gonna respect you and give you strong advice. keep dreaming little girl

You are the epitome of America.

Your deff. not old enough for sex if you can't spell "female"
And your only 14, talking about marriage? No you cannot get birth control without an adult/parent with you.

Don't do it you're still too young.

"For one, i CANT get pregant or my whole life will die as i know it, my dad would never forgive me. Two how do i get birth control? like do i need a parent?"
arent these all signs that you are too young, and no i am not trying to preach but it will be better in the long run if you wait. Things could go wrong and are you willing to take that chance for a few seconds of pleasure. Up to you but just think of this in perspective

the rule of thumb is dont have sex unless your able to handle a kid. Cuz there are always chances of getting pregnant. but ok enough preaching. how do you think you are going to get birth control? do you even know where your planned parenthood is? Birth control can be very complicated to use, its not like you just pop a pill when ever and your good, it takes careful planning. Birth control can also lead to infertility. So best bet is to use a condom.

WTF?????????? Ur a 14 yr old! U have ur whole freakin life ahead of u!:) u can wait until ur 18 to do that. And yes u should rly talk to ur parents about birth control because wat if ur mom stumbles across the pills??? Wat then?? Talk 2 ur parents and try to wait please! Because after u sleep with one guy u may be labled wrong or treated differently...I would wait if i were u. Do other things with ur bf that girls ur age should b doing!

If you feel you need to give your boyfriend sex to make your relationship better...

THAN SOMETHING IS WRONG.

talk to your boyfriend and take a look at what he really wants.

make sure thats not what he was trying to do in the first place (get in your pants)

respect your body.

and make sure it's really love not lust.


because in the end you may come out broken hearted.

PS. trust me sex isn't that great and
I PROMISE...that your relationship isn't going to become as great as you think it is by having sex.

THINK ABOUT IT. :]
goodluck

if you want to have sex use a condom no birth control you are too young birth control does not protect aginst aids and you are too young to use it u would a parent to go with u so theres nothing wrong with having sex as long as u use a condom very important because its will protect u from aids and pregnancy.please don't be naive birth control is not for u right now sweety

ha, the only thing you spelled correctly is "major research" -- lmfao dude -- get some help

Only a doctor can prescribe birth control. I'm a guy so I'm not sure but I would imagine that some type of parental consent (or notification) is required for an underage girl to get birth control pills.
I don't think that you should have sex with him. Fool around, learn about other sexual things that you can do, besides actual sex.

OK, I pray I am not preaching. I was 14, I am a mother but I am also a youth advisor at a church. I will give you the same advise I gave my girls. Wait, Wait, Wait. If you are really in love he will understand and wait with you. Have you thought if you give up your virginity to him and in 2 weeks he leave? I do understand that most teen relationships last and average 2 months. How long have you been with this one, and how long were you with the last one? Because once you give up your virginity you can't get it back. You will have to talk to your OBGYN for birth control. And talk to your parents. It is just as hard on them as it is with you. But talk to them trust me. I would want my daughter to come and talk to me. Hate it but would want it.

Don't have sex. If you want it so bad, masterbate. It's just not the time yet.

Girl?Dont do it.You are 14.I was 14 when I first had sex and it was the worst mistake of my life.Now 15 yrs later it still haunts me..It is so dangerous out here now adays.Please please wait..There is no need to rush.And later on in life you will be respected alot more by someone you grew up to love.Good luck.

Yes, you do need an adult to go with you to get birth control pills. Not only that, you sound more horny than in love and you said you've only been with your boyfriend for a "little while"? A "little while" does not make sex the next step. Also, comdoms break and birth control pills don't always work.

I personally think your to young to be considering sex. I also know your relationship will NOT end up in marraige and what you feel for this boy isnt "love" because the next boy you will claim you love to and the love you claim to have for him now at 14 wont be what you want or need at age 21.

That being said until you are 16 in most states and even 18 in others you do need a parent to go with you for birth control. All your questions will be answered by the Dr and you do need a vaginal exam. However if this boy claims to love you he will NOT pressure you into anything. Odds are very strong after he has sex with you he'll leave you spread rumors about you and you'll all of a sudden become the town "whor*"

You are so right that a baby at your age would end your life as you know it. If you are not ready to be a mother, then dont have sex its that simple.

I think you are to young to have sex. However I was young and in love myself, and I know you probably won't wait. If you can have an orgasm just by fooling around why do you want to risk an unwanted pregnancy or STD? Please if you must go all the way go to your local Health Department. They will give you birth control pills & condoms. Your parents won't have to know.

please don't do it..for me.
this would be a bad decision on your part because you are 14 if you DID get pregnant the consequences would be hell. you are not old enough to support a child no matter how much you love him. how long have you been dating EXACTLY? hold your horses until you guys are older and would be able to support a child. and if you decide to have sex don't get a abortion, you won't be able to forgive yourself...put it up for adoption. i strongly warn you not to do this. it would screw up both of your lives completely.

sorry if this advice is harsh i just don't want you getting hurt...

--there's a sophomore that i know...she's pregnant, her dad kicked her out....and she doesn't even know who the father is...

your waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyy ttttttttoooooooooooooooooooooooooo young
wait a bit
and if you really want sex den masturbate or something
dont give it up sssooo soon
you may love him now but youo never know how hell feel the next day


your only 14 yrs YOUNG wait at least like another year

as far as bc
you dont need an adult
if dats yoru decision den do it but make an appointment with a locak womens clinic and you can get some information there

dang hes been fooling around w/ you already
i didn't read dat part
lol
wow
i was 17 wen i did that and we were dating for almost 2 yrs

wow
take it slow theres no need to be rushing
and plus at your age many girls get called names

Well, you can buy condoms at a store... If you were really going to do it, that'd be the best way.

But, don't do it. Your to young. Wait a few years, it will be so much better.

ur too young for all this. sex isnt always the answer for a relationship. stay in school for now and learn how to spell.....

Im only 6 yr older and from my own experience i would wait. I wish i would have waited. I wish i could have given myself to someone that i really did love and not just some guy that i thought i loved. if you truly love this guy then i am happy for both of you but still i would wait. birth control and condoms are not 100% effective. they are very effective but still not 100%. if you are worried about what would happen if you did get pregnant then that is just another reason to wait. wait till you know for sure 100% with out a doubt that it is the right time. also you say you know about birth control condums unwanted pregnancies have you looked up std's. dont give up your life for one night of sex. i did and my life felt sort of empty afterwards.

i know how much you want to...believe me i do.
but it really isnt worth it. you sound like you are really nervous to have sex. i think that you know you are ready to have it, wen u arent nervous anymore. you should be old enough not to have to hide it, and old enough to deal with a baby if you have one, and love the guy enough to know that even if you dont have sex you know you will still stay will him....
please...just wait until you are older
i know how hard it will be, but just try
good luck

Yes girl...They're all right...you can't even spell or write properly yet...so it clearly shows that you need to grow up first...learn harder in school to be a smarter person...so that by the time you're 18 you can have a decent future and have sex with great, good-looking responsible blokes. Be smart bout it please...You got so many things to do in your life right now (such as grow up, passing your exam, polishing your grammar, read more books etc.) rather than start being sexually active! Wait up till you're 18. Trust me sex will me much meaningful when you're more matured and ready from every single angle.

Take this from someone who's way older than you and who has been thru this...you might think this is love but it's most likely not....i know it's not something you want to hear but im being honest. im not trying to preach but i gotta tell you the truth because i don't want you to mess up the rest of your life. but i can't stop you so if this is something your sure you want to do then by all means go...but make sure you use a condom ONE condom...ppl think if you have 2 condoms on there is a less risk but it's actually more of a risk....friction will cause the latex to break. birth control....pretty much any city has free clinics...yahoo a clinic near you and you can even go at the age 14 so don't be scared. and if you do get birth control still wear protect because if you have a father like i do a mother then you kno what'll happen....all i can say is be safe and good luck...

Trust me, I get it. I was in love at fourteen too. With a guy that I'd been dating for six months. The next step as far as intimacy goes was sex. We both wanted it so badly, but some part of me knew that I had my whole life ahead of me to find the right guy and save it for him. So, we waited, and I figured out that he wasn't the right guy. I'm so glad that I didn't give it up to him! Age shouldn't matter with sex, but somehow it does. You can have it now, and sure it'll be good, but will it be the right thing? I think that it would be in your best interest not to have sex yet, just so you can gain perspective on what you want in life. But if you do decide to have sex, make sure you're safe and use a condom every time. Good luck!

First of all, are you sure this is what you want? Condoms and birth control are not 100% effective. And by him wearing a condom you can still become pregnant because some condoms have microscopic holes in them. You should be study and learning how to fill out a resume. Guys aren't always what they seem to be. How does he feel about this. Because neither one of all are old enough to take care of baby. You should just keep it on a simple level. Like watching movies and going to the park.

Honestly, I don't believe anyone is mature enough at 14 to handle the responsibilities or consequences of being sexually active. If you know that you cant get pregnant because of what it will do to your life and to your family then my only advise would be to really consider waiting. Birth control and condoms, they are not 100% full proof.