Would you allow yourself to fall in love with & marry someone who you knew had AIDS, or was HIV+?

Please be aware - I don't wish to offend HIV sufferers with this Q; however, I wanted to ask it to see what ppl's responses would be; it would be a decision with big consequences.

I think my own response would be a tentative yes, depending on a number of things... If I felt that they were the right person, of course, that it seemed to be a good time and a good use of my life, and also providing that I had the conviction that with God, family & friend's help I'd be able to bear the consequences. (I'd also do some in-depth research on it way before things got at all serious, and talk it through with good friends and doctors.)

What about you?

I think you can choose - to a fairly large extent at least - whether or not you'll "let" yourself fall in love with someone. Even if the attraction's very strong, you still have choices about how much you'll see them, whether you follow your feelings or not...

Honestly, no..

I would have to think twice.

I really don't think I would. but every situation is different.
only you can answer that.

I have a child. So children wouldn't be an issue.

I guess if you didn't want any children. go for it

yes love has nothing to do with sex its all about the person

yes.
is all relationship all about sex? oO

Since when do we allow ourselves to fall in love?

no... i'm sorry... i couldn't possible let myself fall. i mean, just thinking about it makes my heart sink.... i wouldn't want a life full of sadness knowing the person i love the most will leave me soon and couldn't give me a child.

I do not think I could have answered that better myself. I was involved with a Man that has an STD. I loved him for him and accepted his medical problem. We worked around it. If you really love someone you accept the good with the not so good.

I wouldnt ALLOW myself to fall in love with anyone, cuz if it happens, it happens! But I wouldnt put my complete trust in them because you never can be sure these days about anyone.

I would never let something like that stand in the way of love.

you are attracted to the person and not the disease.Just like when people say how can you date outside your race?Love has NO BOUNDARIES.

Yes, if I loved them and we had each others hearts. I could do it, after all it's to love unconditionally.

Ya ya ya. Latex!! For life!!

yes - love is love - after all "love overcomes all boundaries"

if i was really in love with that person!!!!!!

I value my health very much and the answer is a resounding NO! I am genuinely surprised at the people who said yes. They must be very young and naive.

Nah, man, if I was already in love and they diagnosed her with AIDS or HIV+ I would stay with her but if I wasn't in love, I wouldn't let myself fall in love considering the fact, I want a healthy family, including kids and I wouldn't want to have kids who would suffer from the disease and knowing that any minute the love of my life would die.

I would be crushed. & if she was in love with me, she should be able to understand.

If I was seriously in love I would. There are ways around everything. People with AIDs are just like everyone else. They need the same things any person without AIDs needs.

NO I COULNDT AS I DO WANT KIDS ONE DAY BUT THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO HAVE BABIES AND HAVE HIV !! BUT I KNOW ITS SOUNDS SHALLOW BUT I JUST COULDNT DO IT ID BE ASHAMED TO ADMIT IT TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY THAT MY FELLA HAD AIDS !!

To tell u the truth I would try to avoid a realationship with them because I don't want to accidentlly get it too. That is something a person would have to give serious though towards.

I know quite a few people that have fallen in love with and married someone with HIV. They have attended classes on HIV so that they can have knowledge on HIV so at least they will know what to expect and how you can live with someone that is
HIV possitive.

sure if i really loved them but it would be quite a hard decision...

nope..

i'm sure people have.. but well thats down to them..

thats like asking me would i run across the motorway, again something i'd not do.

if it was someone who knew they had it, the should have the respect to tell the other person.

some people don't.. which i feel is very wrong.

yea i would....if i loved the person and he loved me then i don't see why not...we have all been educated about AIDS and we know what precautions to take, so someone who had AIDS would not be a problem for me as long as we used the right precautions....

No.................. no,no,no....

u don't allow yourself to fall in love it just happens but knowing that ur partner has this horrible affliction may bear heavily on ur mind in ur decision, also that having kids would be very difficult or impossible, furthermore there is a risk of catching the infection urself. having said that if ur in love with this person then u will always want to b with them regardless of the dangers. what im trying to say is u r the only person who can decide what u will do from here and i wish u the best of luck

I wouldnt, but i can tell you about somebody i know that has married somebody with aids. She knew he had AIDS when she met him, they fell madly in love and ended up marrying. They are actually pregnant with twins via invitro (they had to "cleanse" his sperm first). They can have sex with good protection and she also takes drugs to prevent getting it herself. But this story is a little different because the guy that has AIDS comes from a rich family and pays close to $5,000 a month on medications to keep the disease in remission so he can lead a happy healthy life until he runs out of money. Without the drugs he would probably be sick lonely man.

If I knew they were HIV+ when I first met them , then no, I honestly would find that a total turn off in terms of a sexual relationship - Of course there are many types of love, so a non-sexual relationship/friendship would be all that i could give.
If I was involved in a relationship and found out that my partener was HIV+ , I would not leave them because of it, though I would honestly find a sexual relationship difficult, the idea that everytime I had sex with them I would be risking my health would be enough to put a damper on things in the bedroom. Condoms do break. But once you love someone that doesnot change just because they are in possible bad health.
I have lived in big cities with large gay communities and have had friends that were HIV+., some carried on having VERY active sex lives even though they were +, don't know if they used protection, but in gay communities there are lots of people who fall in love and marry and are hiv+ and live happy lives

if i really loved them then yes. i would give up alot of things for somebody i truely cared about and loved, and i would put up with a lot of things too, such as this. if they didnt get it irresponsibly (ie drugs, needle sharing) then its not their fault and it shouldnt stop them from finding a partner.
i would however always want protected sex and would want to adopt at child instead. i do realy want a children of my own bt if this is the case then i wouldnt.... good question!

No way I am not prepared to take the risk.

No, not because he is ill, but because he was probably infected by having unprotected gay sex or he is an intravenous drug user. He had his fun without responsibility. Don't you do the same.

You can't help who you fall in love with. I married my husband knowing that he'd already had a stroke at 28yrs. old. Sixteen months later, he died of a brain tumour. The time we spent together was so precious and some of the happiest times of my life. I nursed him at home and counted it a priveledge to do so.
Although the scenario is different in that HIV+ is infectious, I don't think I would do anything differently. I agree that some in depth research would be necessary, but if you love someone, you'll be prepared to go to any length to help them and be with them for no matter how long.