Help! I'm married to a hypochondriac. What do I do?

I was just diagnosed with a UTI and yeast infection...double whammy. I've been getting a good many UTI's recently. I think my whole family is pretty prone to them. Anyhow, my husband is completely grossed out by this. It happens to women all the time, but he thinks that I get them because I don't wash well. He seems to not understand that sometimes it's fairly easy to get them after frequent sex. And when he does understand that, he gets turned off to sex short term. Anyhow, do I just grin and bear this? He was a virgin when we got married and when we were dating, he refused to touch me unless I got an AIDS test. I'm really afraid he'll never touch me again after I give birth because it'll traumatize him so much.

Already got the AIDS test done 3 months after we started dating...so that's not a concern anymore.

He sounds like he doesn't like germs or disease. He doesn't sound he is a hypochondriac.

It also appears that he doesn't understand a lot about medical and how things can happen. There are a lot of misunderstanding and confusion, especially with the female body.

I would encourage (if you haven't already), get information packets on various things you may get, like UTIs. Also bring him to the doctor's office with you to help him educate himself.

He just sounds ignorant to the point where he doesn't want to be proven wrong. But at the same time, doesn't want to educate himself. It will be his loss and he needs to get over himself.

Other than that, you can't change another person so you may have to grin and bear it.

My husband and I always educate ourselves when it comes to new diagnoses and medications. If one of us has something, we both take responsibility in learning more about it. It's a joint effort.

Yup! I call my hubby a dork too! Other times, I just smile and nod! Report Abuse

There are countless links to medical sites that explain that yeast infections are not caused due to poor hygiene. Have him talk to his doctor or yours. In this day and age were information is available at the touch of a mouse it's frightening how ignorant some people still are. Have him use a condom if he's still worried, of course if your a religious nut he might not go for that.

He's not a hypochondriac, he's germophobic. Hypochondriacs think they're sick all of the time, if someone has something then they mysteriously develop the same symptoms.

As far as his problem goes, until he realizes that he HAS a problem, there's not much you can do but keep trying to get through to him.

Be sure to go pee every time after you have sex. Drink lots of water. It does happen to women all the time, and it has nothing to do with how you wash. What a bonehead. Also, he can be a carrier and might need to be treated so he stops re-infecting you. Tell him to grow up and get educated. He is just ignorant.

I guess you grin and bear it unless pamphlets and websites as others have suggested turn out to do the trick. You've explained the facts of life to him and he doesn't believe them. One day he will grow up and learn them. I thought I was germophobic, but I can't imagine being grossed out by a UTI.

It amazes me how people like this find a partner who is willing to marry them and put up with all this, when a normal average person with no issues like these, can sometimes find it incredibly difficult to go on a few dates, let alone get married!

i think you should show him research showing how normal it is. tell him that all women go through this and that as a husband, he should understand. tell him the only other option he has to avoid this is to turn gay.


good luck!

Just get the AIDS test done for him, your supposed to honest right? Remember the vows? Anyway, just yo make sure, I would get that test done.

I think getting your husband into a little anal action might just be what the doctor ordered. He really needs to get his pecker all smelly. He should use a condom and lots of lube.

it's the thong underwear

Damn, he is paranoid! Get help for him FAST!!

I bet shi**t doesn't come out his ***, right?

When I gave birth to my son, his father had never been near a birthing room little lone a baby. I told him to stand at my shoulder and not look beneathe the sheet. He listened but still saw some things that left a lsting impression.

Anyway, call your doctor and see if there is a pamphlet or something that your husband can read. Show him that women are frequent to getting UTI. It has nothing to do with how often women clean. Show him the variables. If it doesn't get better then maybe try counceling.

Good Luck!

People like your husband can cause a lot of hurt in their spouse. By treating you like you are some sort of toxic waste because you have an infection which can be easily treated. Would you do the same to him if he had strep throat (something I was prone to for years until I had my tonsils out at age 40).

You have an infection, it can be treated. When you are healthy again I say have at it! Just bathe normally and hope for the best, and tell him he needs to wash his worm too!

But he sounds like some sort of wierdo with sex hang-ups that he may never get over and may cause you lots of hurt. I cannot imagine what it would be like to have a WIFE that did not fully accept me and my body.

Getting an AIDS test? That a little immature don't you think? He obviously know nothing about UTI's. If I were you, maybe drink more cranberry juice. I know this is not a cure all but it does work and it helps. You don't mention if you get yeast infections frequently but try eating more yogurt in your diet. There is some stuff called Keefer-pro-biotic drink is a good choice too. Very healthy for you. Sounds like your hubby needs to relax and chill. He's lucky that he doesn't have to go through stuff like this.

See guys!!! It's hard being a woman!!!