Hi there, heres a bit of a story, but I would love some thoughts鈥?.
A few mths ago was delighted to find our that myself and my partner were expecting a bub and due beginning of Dec 08. I was hesitant at first to tell my partner as he had been set up 4 years ago by a women (with slight mental issue that he was unaware of and who is on the sickness benefit as a result, as she is alcohol and medically drug dependant) and lied to about protection her being on the pill and assurances etc and later he faced the phone call many men I guess dread 鈥榶ou are going to be a dad鈥? She was so disturbed she dreamt that she and him were a couple and will one day be together鈥tc etc 鈥?as you can see I am straight to the point and do not have a lot of time for women who set guys up and actually take away from them something that should be very special - to his credit he has done (as I ) everything to help this little baby 鈥?we were wanting to bring her up and let her still have access to the mother etc鈥ut subsequently after the mothers inability to look after her and dumping the baby on my partners parents when she wanted to either drink or get with other men, it all became to hard, stress wise and financially to obtain custody. Unlike the mother who had legal aid and the time to drag this on and to my partners parents who became close to the baby and began to dictate to us our access it became a 3 way battle. Lets say this women has destroyed his family and also brought a child in to this world that will not have a normal upbringing 鈥?which is what we were offering her 鈥?and he no longer has a relationship with his parents who are looking after the child and are treated as babysitters by the mother 鈥?they are blinded 鈥?anyhow as you can see that winds me up and Im getting off the track here 鈥?but it鈥檚 a bit of background to see what stress we have been under the past 3 陆 years 鈥?if I had only met him earlier this would never have happened, poor guy! so was thrilled to think we would have a baby of our own鈥?br>
The day after I had it confirmed I had to go into hospital after I got involved in trying to help my dog from being attacked I ended up with some nasty injuries and subsequently had to have 3 epidurals rather than GA as so not to harm the baby and a week in hospital 鈥?I was 12 weeks at that stage, so it was all traumatic and after having a miscarriage August last year thought all was fine that I had made it that far. 3 weeks later I had a scan 鈥?I went on my own as Im a pretty independent person 鈥?little did I know the news Id be faced with鈥ust on 4mths it was found that everything had developed nicely and I could see 鈥榟is鈥?feet and hands etc, but his brain had not developed 鈥?subsequently 2 days later after a lot of crying etc had the pregnancy medically terminated. We did the 鈥榙eed鈥?several times over the correct time and had fun and just relaxed鈥ust seems unfair when we were wanting to have this baby that we have been through what we have been and yet 鈥楪od鈥?lets women keep pregnancies (as above) that are otherwise soul destroying to families 鈥?he does work in mysterious unfair ways at times!!.
As a result of the termination it was found I have very rare blood and now have a prescribed 5mg of folic a day (recommended does is 0.8mg) which is a great thing to now know鈥?
Since then I have had a normal period and am now late for my second period by 2 days, had no headache (as I usually do when my period is going to happen) 鈥?though I have brown spotting and a bit of a tummy ache there is no blood. I did a First Response pregnancy test this morning and it was negative 鈥?so whats up with my body 鈥?is it just getting rid of the old crape inside鈥?? Or could I be pregnant? I want to be but know if I talk my way into thinking that I will get disappointed鈥?.
Wow! I'm so sorrt about all the apin and trauma you and your family have been through.
It is truly a shame that women like that can concieve over and over again when they have nothing to offer a child. However, women like us, that want a child so bad and would be great mothers have such a hard time with getting pregnant or staying pregnant. All I can say on that situation, is that I will pray for you and your family. And I hope everything works out well for you.
To answer your question, its possible that you could actually be pregnant. Lots of women have some light bleeding and spotting in the beginning. However, don't stress and get your hopes up because it could be your period approaching a little late.
I hope you're pregnant. You sound like you want a baby really badly and you'll probably be a wonderful mother. Good luck and I hope you get all the desires of your heart.
You will be in my prayers. Hey there,
I just want to send positive energy your way. You have been on a journey for sure. Here's hoping that everything turns out well... Good luck... I would wait a week or so and try to test again or see if your real period comes, and if you are that concerned go to the doctor and get a blood test done. well if you have had a normal period since then the brown discharge is not left over stuff. It may be an indicator of pregnancy! Wait a couple of days and take a test or go get a blood test!
Good Luck...sorry for what you've been through! | 