Would you get offended if a person your dating ask you to take an Aids and Std test?

What if you been dating this person for a while and you supposedly know them. When is the proper time to ask? What if you really like the person, but won't do it, BEFORE you have sex, because they its a sign of distrust.

That is a very good question for one!

Now it would depend on how I was asked. If you approached in a mature and respectful matter on this demand, them all would be well and no offense would be taken.

On the other hand, if that person made you out to look like a whore and demanded a Aids test, then that would obviously be very offensive to anybody.

So it comes down to what the given circumstances are in the situation. There is a right time and place for everything. Anything that is approached in a mature matter shouldnt offend anybody.

It all comes down to respect and self-respect. Thank You.

I don't see any problem with asking your partner to get tested.

While not everybody will see it this way, I feel that caring about your and your partner's health is one of the most positive, caring things you can display in a relationship.

While some people may see the request to get tested as a sign of distrust, I would never see it in that light. It is becoming more and more socially acceptable to have multiple sexual partners over one's lifetime, and no one should risk their health -- especially if you feel that your current partner may indeed be "the one". Distrust should also be nixed as a legitimate objection because having an STD is not always apparent to the infected person...many STD's can show no symptoms, especially in males. Getting tested isn't about trust but about prevention, and treatment or management if something is discovered.

AIDS excluded, most STDs (while all are not curable) can be almost harmless with adequate treatment. Although some of the symptoms can be annoying, even a partner who tests positive for an STD is not "doomed" for life, and easy steps can be taken so that a happy, healthy sexual relationship can develop between any two people.


Tell your partner that you don't mean to offend...you just want to assure that you can keep your health in optimal shape.

On a sidenote...if you can be open and honest with each other about a matter as personally important as sexuality and health, then openess and honesty in other aspects of your relationship will most likely be easier to accomplish. Just make sure you're willing to get tested yourself!

Good luck...have fun! ;)

It's best to ask when sex becomes a proper idea. Definitely BEFORE.

It isn't a sign of distrust - it's a health concern. If they have nothing to hide and understand the importance of such a thing, they won't get angry.

Partners have to understand that they really don't know much about one another in the beginning of the relationship, so getting tested and asking a lot of questions is the smart thing to do. You don't want to be completely trusting, no even bring it up and then find out you have HPV a month later. Most of the time people don't even know they have a sexual disease.

When it comes to matters of health, all bets are off. That is something that will definately throw cold water on an evening of fun, but better to be safe and responsible. Discuss it in advance and insist if necessary.

The question of distrust does not even apply here. Most infected people are not even aware that they are until they have obvious symptoms and unknowingly spread it around to people who "trust."

Ask it anyway. If someone refuses to take HIV and other STD tests, you don't need to be sleeping with them. They either do have an STD or they think they might but have not gotten checked yet. By the way, if everything checks out clean, doesn't mean they can't have herpes or genital warts. If you see a bump down there, pack your stuff and leave. Don't even buy the "it's a pimple" line.

bring it up casually a few times and then say I think it is a good idea for us both to get tested to make sure we don't give each other anything. Tell them it's not them you do this with everyone because you are picky with who you sleep with, If they can't handle that then it's now your choice to sleep or not sleep with them Good Luck

i'd reather be safe then sorry and anyone male or female respects themselves enought to ask a partner this to be 100% sure for one self shows me they care.. it would be an honor to be with someone like that!
i didn't have to go throught that but in this day in age you never know!

id want him to take one too. even my x, ive known him for 5 years and remained good friends through the breakup and have recently started seeing eachother again, b4 we have sex i want him to take one, as will i. weve both been with other people in the last few years

No.
I do not think that asking for such test is the sign of distrust because it gives a level of satisfaction before you can take a major step in your life.
Your whole life is will be changed if you will make a single mistake.

distrust? ABSOLUTELY NOT - you are the one that has to live inside your body for the rest of your life. You have every right to ask and know for sure what kind of things you might be exposing yourself to. If he doesnt understand or refuses, bounce.

Not at all. In this day and time I think its really smart. I don't want to sleep with all the people my lover has been with without knowing for sure. They might not know themselves. Of course using a condom is the smart thing too but that isn't 100% for anything either.

If you have any reason to suspect then it's fine. And I mean ANY reason. Just be prepared to do the same, even if you claim to be the virgin mary!
When me and my fiance first got together I asked him to get one because his ex was cheating on him.

Is it mutual... if you are both going to get tested and start off fair and square, go for it. Share it casually, just one thing to clear up before it is too late.

And STILL use condoms anyway...

I would get offended only if they said "dude, looks funky down there, I'm not touching it until you get an STD test." Thankfully, that's not my case.

If you've had other partners, then it's only smart, for your health and theirs. Some STD's don't show symptoms, but you can still catch them.

No, I would not be offended. I would think that I was spending time with someone intelligent and reasonable.

I would not get offended at all. It just shows you have r-e-s-p-e-c-t for your self which not alot of people do because people are just to scared to ask there partner this.

My first reaction would be huh??
but after that I would say okay I agree you need to also.

That is not distrust because you could have it and not even know it.

Not at all in today's day and age! Remember you should only be asking this if you are having unprotected sex

You are wise beyond your years and will probably live a lot longer too

not in today's society and definitely ask for a herpes check is it true that 1out 5 have ?
thank god i'm married

No I wouldn't because I would want them to take it too.

Hell fire... at my age I'd consider it a compliment... btw, whats a "date"...been so long I kain't m'ember

I'll ask my STD florist.

thats messed up