Military Husband wont pay as promised?

My daughter left her husband after only 6 weeks at his new duty station. They had been married only 3 months prior to that with her paying for herself the whole time. (She worked 2 professional jobs--one teaching and one assisting) He even made her pay for lodging when her household goods were shipped to his new duty station. He didn't aid her financially when she moved to their new duty station. After she moved with him to Ft Hood, Tx- He didn't pay any of her bills (actually all of the checks bounced and her total outgoing debt was $150.00) without her knowledge. He took $8000 that was in a checking account and hid the money into several different accounts. After 2 weeks of being at his new duty station-one night he doesn't come home until 4am. He tells our daughter that he was abducted at gunpoint and held up and made to drive three criminals around while they smoked dope and tried to empty out his checking account. My daughter insisted on going to the police and called her husbands first SGT. It was strongly recommended by the police dept that he NOT File a report---in case he wasn't telling the truth. The 1Sgt made him take a blood test. On Oct 31st he came home and was a absolute devil to her. She didn't know what was going on but we suspect that he found out then that his drug test came back positive for Cocaine. She contacted us and asked for help to move back home 2 days later. (She found out later about the positive drug test)
Since then- he was refusing to give her any money for support. The 1SGT has been a total jerk and doesn't return her calls. She wrote the commander and called him but he never returned any calls or email. My husband finally stepped in and called and the 1Sgt wouldn't return his calls and finally the commander did but was very rude. He finally said that the husband would send $500 on a certain--but he didn't. Our daughter contacted the IG- who said she was only allotted $565.00 a month according to the military and that the husband was sending it. She has been with us for 6 weeks now and received a $100.00 payment, then a week later a $200.00 and now its been almost a month and she was told a week ago that the money had been mailed but she hasn't received it. Basically it feels as though the military is protecting him---doesn't follow through with making sure that he is following orders---and is totally ignoring our daughter. Its a disgrace. By the way--her father served for 21 years.
We have been told that her next step is to contact our congressman.
Any advice if this congressman doesn't come through?

Oh, the husband was ordered to provide his LES and last years tax return---something that he wont do. My daughter tells the 1sgt and they say "I will have a talk with him but you need to get that from him".....They say he will provide it but they don't make sure that he does. She needs this info for the Legal Aid and to return back to college.
Also, after leaving him she found info that showed not only did he have profiles at dating sites and listed himself as single---he was also responding to Craigslist for gay men. Oh, and he had his old girlfriend come to Texas 3 days after our daughter left him.

According to the military---she is entitled to BAH II which is $565.00 a month-due on the first day of the following month.
The situation is fair (for those of you who think that it isnt because its his money) because she gave up HER apartment (which she had to vacate early and two jobs) She hasnt been able to find another job since she returned home.
The military provides the soldiers with TRAVEL PAY for them AND THEIR FAMILIES--hence the comment about not helping her pay for her to move to Ft Hood. He kept all monies. Also--the military provides BAH for support of spouse and any children. She is considered a dependent. Why people answer questions they dont have any knowledge of---is beyond me.
He is also being released from the military come January---His rank was dropped down to E-1 and extra duty.
The cheating was going on while she was here living with us and he had already moved to Ft Hood. Then his girlfriend from the past came to stay with him AFTER our daughter left.

Call your Congress Person ASAP...
They WILL get action probably within a week...
Everyone from his CO on down will be kissing your BUTT...
Works every-time...
A Congressional Inquiry does not bode well at Promotion time...
Have the allotment sent directly from disbursing to you
not a Bank account that he has access to...

Bet he never check the address...
Probably mailed it to him self...
Will have to get the Congressperson to make sure that
there is a Direct Alloutment from Disbursing to Her...only way... Report Abuse

Yikes! I feel her pain. I had a USMC fiance... total flake! but anyway, the military thinks she is just after his money and they think that is why she married him so yeah they wont help you. get a lawyer! Tell her to hang in there!

no court order, the military will do nothing.

Um, can you say hire a lawyer?

I don't know why she things she is entitled to be supported. If they had children, and thus the need for child support, it would be different. Without children, she is no more entitled to his money that he is entitled to whatever she earns. If the happy couple have money problems, they can work it out or get divorced, but no court is going to order alimony after such a short marriage.

Find a lawyer familiar with military law, sue him for the documents and the 1/2 of his military pay that is legally hers. His pay CAN be garnisheed and she should also have that done. In the meantime, she should also get in contact with the JAG office at Ft Hood and ask for assistance. In her request, she should make known his contacts with Craigslist, drug dealings and adultery, at a minimum.

you can try suing him for half of hbis military pay which she is entitiled to and then he can sue her for half of her pay, she wont get any alimony for such a short marrige and yall will be bankrupted from lawyer fees if all he has is the military pay and the 8000 then you should cut your losses and move out because the **** you will have to go to will be much worse. and i am sure there is more to this story because this just doesnt sound like the whole thing...and no judge will belive that she is entirly the victim. sorry

The military DOES have his back. BROTHERHOOD.!! however, it does sound as though he needs a good swift kick in the chest, throat and face. but, on his defense (which isnt much) The whole drug and gay thing, I see that EXCACT same thing ALL THE TIME!!! 9 out of 10 times, the soldier is trying discreetly to be discharged. hence the cocaine, not paying his money to wiefe (which is ordered by the military) and the gay thing on the computer. all i can say is divorce this sorry excuse of a soldier, and continue to try to get his deviou, inrespectful ways out of my military.

To me, this sounds like a clear case of hearing only one side of the argument. To start off, unless he explicitly agreed to reimburse her for the expenses, he does not owe her anything. Second, the part about him being the husband being an asshole, it is the most common symptom of PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). It does not mean under any circumstance that the drug test came back positive. As far as of his chain of command, I have seen too many guys be cheated on while they are deployed. A lot of the times, they come back from deployment with nothing to their name but an empty bank account and and maxed-out credit cards. I don't know the exact details of this situation, but Im guessing neither does his chain-of-command. They are probably trying to stay out of it. I would strongly discourage you from going to a congressman. Already, by going to the IG, you have already pissed-off people that you want on your side. If you contact congress, you stand 0.00001% chance of getting anything. You have no idea how the military works and I would imagine a very small portion of the whole truth.

Uh, holy sh**! The best advice: help your daughter out as much as possible financially, get her divorced, and pretend the whole thing never happened! This guy sounds like a total nightmare and if there are no kids involved here, let by gones be by gones. Remember, what goes around comes around! I feel for your situation but it seems the best thing she can do is forget about him altogether. I'm sure they have financial responsibilities together but... wow! Bad credit can be fixed, you know. Please don't take any of this to be rude or sarcastic because I truly do feel for your daughter.

Sorry to hear of your daughter's situation; the guy sounds like a real A$$. However, without a divorce decree she's not entitled to anything other than a portion of his BAH.

All the other drama about Craigslist and old girfriends has nothing to do with what she is entitled to.

Wow I am sorry to hear that and I would not give up just yet. Have you tried to get with Legal Assistance, because if she is still married to him and he receives BAH but she is not there she should receive some money from him. I would not deal with the 1st or Cpt. anymore because they probable will not help you much because they don't want to be involved. If the drug test came out positive he most likely will get kicked out of the service unless someone in his unit is willing to stick up for him. Try legal assistance. Also contact the IRS let them know that he is not allowed to file jointly. Hope this helped somewhat.