LADIES, if you slept with a guy who had AIDS, and found out afterwards, would you confront him about it ?

Let's say you made out with a guy. It was not really a one night stand.
You got involved with him and you had sex with him 2 months later.
So you call him your new boyfriend. And there was not blood test.
Now here is why I ask this question. Almost half or a little more than
that, of couples in the US, do not get blood tests unless they have to.
And this is among the youngest groups of people, like teens and
the early 20 year olds. And you also have your adults over 30 who do
not always do this regularly either. Now if you slept with a man, ladies,
and you found out later on that he has AIDS. Let's say one of your
girlfriends tell you this and has proof ! How would you feel ? AND
would you confront the guy, or would you just see if you are negative. And then not tell him.
This is of course after you broke up with him due to other reasons.......................

Sassy R. Could you please go somewhere with that. Thank you.

My initial reaction would be to find out if he knew this before we had sex. Considering I heard it from a friend I would immediately seek confirmation from the actual person involved. So many people don't know if they have an STD or even a cold for goodness sake. I would confront him, get myself tested and ask him why he would endanger someone else's life for sex by not telling them about his serious medical issue; if he knew.

Of course!

IF he knew, Oh ***** going down.

If he didn't I'd still ask, but it's a little diffrent then.
AIDS can kill you, this is a serious matter, feelings are trivial. Lives could be at steak.

Yes I would. I mean he should be aware of the situation at least.


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Hell, yes, I'd confront him. Though I don't have bareback sex without blood tests, either.

It's all moot, though, since I'm married.

....I don't jump into bed with guys before I get us both blood tests. There's just too many bad things to catch out there...

I'd be MUCH more concerned with getting me a test and making sure I was clear than comfronting him...

If he didn't know he had the virus, that's one thing. If he DID know, then it's a crime and he should be prosecuted.

i would castrate him with a table knife...

I decided long before I became sexually active that regular STI screenings is a small par of responsible sexuality. While I didn't require that of lovers in my teens and early 20s, I have required that for some time. So if I slept with someone with AIDS, he either lied to me when I asked him about sexual history and health before the first time, or he never tested positive for it before the first time. Before I would react, I'd need to know which was the case. I could deal if he hadn't tested positive before but did while we were together. I'd be hurt, betrayed and furious if he lied. I'd want to kill him or hurt him for it, but I don't really know how I'd act other than verbally berrating him. I likely wouldn't have another lover for at least two years while I waited to see whether I'd eventually test positive or not. And while I'd feel guilty for it, I probably wouldn't be able to allow myself to trust men for a while.

Wow you're asking a tough one today. I would definitely get tested first. Even though I don't have condomless sex unless we're monogamous and have been tested, there's always a chance of infection anyway. Then I would most definitely confront him to find out if he knew he was HIV positive when he had sex with me. If he did, I would not only be infuriated that he didn't warn me, I would probably look into having him charged with a crime for it. Not that it would help me much but hopefully it would keep him from doing that to other women.