Is it too early to shop and prepare?

My fiance has been cut out of his daughter's life since she was born. He has filed for parental rights and has a paternity test in the process. There is no valid reason for why the mother has kept him away except out of spite. She is immature and has no business having any children. She thinks that all she has to do is refuse the test and file for child support and my fiance will back off. It isn't like that. She can't refuse the test for long because if she does her state aid will be cut off (we did it through child support) so she will have no way to go to the doctor or collect WIC benefits. She doesn't make much money and she is pregnant again so she needs to go to the doctor. Once the test is complete then my fiance has every right to seek rights to his daughter, and I can't see him being denied at least visitation as long as he pays child support. So does it seem like everything will work out for us? I really can't wait to go shopping and get toys for her and pick out a bed set and clothes and all sorts of things to welcome her into our home. The court date is April 3rd. Should I just wait until after that, or do we have things fairly guaranteed?

Pookie, it's wonderful that you're excited but...wait until you start spending a tremendous amount of $$$. Court decisions can be made, quite sadly, based on issues other than the facts.

One suggestion too...lose the attitude displayed here for believe it or not it could possibly be used against your fiance in a case that means so much to him and you..

I wouldn't get too far ahead of yourself on the bed set. While he probably will get visitation rights, he may or may not get overnight visits.

Think about it, this girl (you don't give her age) has never know him. He, you, and his ex will need to move slowly so the girl can get used to the idea of this stranger in her life.

Move slowly, do what's best for the girl (without any judgment on mom's abilities, which you really can't judge).

Good luck, every child deserves two parents.

First I want to wish you luck. It sounds like you guys are trying to do the right thing and that's admirable. That said you should know that I have no legal background whatsoever. But I would think that getting a bed and a room set up for her in your and his home would prove and show that you're ready to have this little girl in your life and home. So I would say-decorate a room for her, buy toys, set up a bed. It shows that you truly want and are ready for her. And if things sadly don't go your way you can always sell the stuff on craigslist. But i hope they do go your way.