Where can my sick mother live?

My mother is being tested for bladder and bowel cancer next week. Although we don't have the results yet, she's had a CT scan, blood and urine tests done, and basically the only thing left to test for is cancer. She's passing out, only eating a little each day (maybe one small meal), in terrible pain, and feeling sick all the time. I can accept she has cancer, and although I'll be devastated, I know I'll eventually accept her death. What worries me more is where she and my teenage brother will live now. Her doctor has told her she needs to give up work urgently. She is trying to work at the moment, but she qualifies for the sickness benefit, which is about $200 a week. Her mortgage is $880 a fortnight. I have a husband and three kids, and we live in a two bedroom house with a sleepout, so there is no room here. My other siblings live overseas, and aren't able to help either. We live in NZ, so any American aid programmes don't apply here. I've asked my husband if he'll consider selling our house and buying a bigger one so she and my brother could live with us, but although he likes my mother, he doesn't want her living with us. There isn't enough room in her house for us to move in with her, and if she sold her house, she wouldn't have enough to own another home, in fact, probably not even enough for a deposit. The sickness benefit wouldn't even cover rent for a one bedroom house here. What do I do? I desperately want to take care of her, but my husband doesn't even want to consider her moving in with us. Anyone else been in this situation or have any suggestions?

I think that your husband is kinda being selfish, especially if your mom is REALLLLLY sick and almost to that point. You definitely won't want to regret it in the end. But if she sold her house and basically gave that money to you and your family could buy a larger house with a few extra rooms or something where you can turn the garage into a little "apartment" for her and your brother. I think that would make you and her both feel better. It's your mom and she has provided for you for a great portion of your life the best thing you can do is be there and be supportive of her. I hope everything works out, this is so ad!

How old are your kids?
Are they at an age where they can grasp that your Mum's dying?
If so, then I would suggest that your move her in with you.
It's your Mum's last days of her life and you really need to make those special.
Here's an idea:
I don't know your kids gender, but if you have two boys or two girls, you could let share a room.
And your mother can have that room.
I'm not sure about your brother though..how old is he?
Maybe he could temporarily sleep on the couch??
Don't listen to your husband..it's not his mother.

email me if you want more ideas.