I am not sure if caught my husband cheating?

I have had more than one incidence where I have accused my husband of cheating and he has denied it. I am not sure. I have found condoms in his pocket and car (not used though) and we do not use condoms. Last year a woman called my phone and said she had been sleeping with him for over two years and she knew my first daughter's name. I asked him and he denied it. The this year I saw texts from another woman at 3:00 am saying "she was glad he arrived home safe and that he should be sleeping with her.I confronted my husband who got annoyed because I looked in his phone and vehemently denied it. One night we had sex and I dreamt the woman right after we had sex. I am not sure what to do. He continues to deny. I recently took an AIDS test just to make sure I was alright because I missed my period and I am not pregnant. The doctor has told me I am under extreme stress and have a hormonal imbalance. Last year I was diagnosed with anxiety bordering on depression. I am so confused.

all i can tell u is to listen to your intuition, and why would a strange woman be calling u, unless it were true?look at what this man is doing to u emotionally. and u can't work on something he won't admit. u could have him followed, what i would do is insist he take a lie detector test. chances are that if u can feel it that its true.

seems like you see all the evidence but you refuse to believe them. i think you probably need to look deep inside yourself and see what it is about you that makes you feel you deserve to be treated this way. take the blinders off and quit being in denial. youre husband is cheating. and unless youre okay to accept and live with it, i suggest you move on and leave this relationship alone.

I don't know why you are unsure. Any one of those things alone screams 100% cheater. You need to just leave him because you know whats going on and are in complete denial. If you walked in on him and he was on top of a woman, he would deny it and you would believe him. You know the truth deep down so just leave.

This is what the TV show Cheaters is for.
1st if your right you will be able to Humiliate him on national TV.

if you dont want to go that far hire a private Dic <detective for all you perv's>

2nd If its causing you distress Just Leave Him.. To love and lost is better then to have never loved at all

I'd say you're confused. AIDS tests have no bearing on your period. Plus you're confused if you seriously think your husband isn't cheating on you. File for divorce and take him to the shed.

yeah, the guy is obviously the worst liar on the planet. I'm sorry hun but file for divorice, this man will never be able to be faithful to you.

You already know, but are in such deep denial. Love yourself more than anyone else can. Do you want your daughter to go through what you are? Cause thats exactly what you're teaching her. LEAVE him, he can't be trusted.

I am sorry.
If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck...

End your marriage.
Kudos for the AIDS test though.

He is cheating. And lying.

hes cheating dump his lying *** since he wont bother to tell u the truth. You can do much better no one deserves to b cheated on if they're 100% faithful

I would say you have caught him a number of times. I think its time for you to move on by yourself.

Your husband is cheating you and what to do is your headache !!

He's cheating - leave him or kick him out

if there texting going on he is cheating that all i will say!

hes lying , try to get a professional sspy , so u can get a clear evidence

yes hes cheating

Sounds like he is having sex with other women.

Did you ask him to explain the condoms?

Some people just do not stay faithful in a marriage. Nothing you can do to get this to stop.

You have to decide if you want to stay in this type of relationship - and the impact the stress is having on you - or do you want to move on.

And until you do get things straight - be sure you don't have a kid or catch any sexually transmitted disease.

I once worked with a guy who had a nice wife and 2 little (less than 3 years old) babies. Fred, was also dating 3 married woman - at work - at the same time. He was caught while having sex with one of the women during work hours in the broom closet.

PS, I've been married 24 years.

Honey... look at the signs. Why would he have condoms in his pants, if the two of you don't use them? Let me guess... he must have been holding them for a friend... and a woman texting at the God awful hour of 3am? Hm mm..
Also... if your husband has nothing to hide, then why does he have a problem with you looking at his texts messages, or anything else for that matter?

GF, he IS cheating on you, without a doubt. Don't be a fool like I was; once... listen to your instincts, it's that little voice that's telling you not to trust him.

You'll be glad that you did (my sister in law is going through this right now)... after 19 yrs of marriage, and same reason... he didn't think he owed her anything.
Unfortunate for him, the judge didn't agree with his logic...

And remember, you're entitled to 50%, spousal support, his 401K, child support... etc and whatever else your attorney can get from the lying and cheating S.O.B.

Honey, you're not confused at all. Anxiety is all part of the realization of the truth. The disbelief in what is happening... "I can't believe he's doing this to me, this just can't be true".
I've been there too... I just didn't want to see it at the time.

This may sound bitter... but some men deserve it if they're doing what he's doing. Don't get me wrong, I think women deserve it too if they're doing the same to their husbands.

There are still good ones out there... I can testify to that. I finally met the right one for me, and it's been 12 yrs now. I had to go through alot, before I could get where I'm at today. I promise you, you'll be okay.

Good luck to you... and smart thinking on the AIDS test. Deep inside you... you knew you were'nt preganant, you just wanted to make sure he hasn't passed on any STD's to you... because you know deep inside ... HE'S CHEATING ON YOU.

Easier said than done in a marriage with a kid involved, but dump him honey. I'm sorry, but you deserve better! Agree with another poster... if it looks and quacks like a duck, it is. there are no excuses for the texts you saw and everything else. He's just gonna keep denying! I'd say to consider working it out IF he admitted it, quit doing it, and went to counseling or something to make the marriage better... but its obvious that you are not his priority (His infidelity is!!!) and he shows no signs of shame or regret. And trust me, staying in a miserable relationship will wreak havock on your body because of stress and anxiety. I now have a heart condition... onward and upward dear princess and find you someone who will treat you like one. Life is so short!!!

Hmmmmm........lets see....

We have found condoms, and you guys are married and do not use condoms....we have a 3 am phone message, saying she wishes he was with her, sleeping....and we have a phone call to you from a woman claiming she was sleeping with your husband....unless someone is trying to extort a ton of money out of your husband, I see no other reason these things would of happened, unless your husband was cheating on you....do YOU? Makes no sense to me, anyway.....and of course he is going to deny it.....do cheaters ever just come out and say, "Oh, and by the way, I am cheating on you!"??? No, they DON'T!

from what you've written, i am 99.9 percent sure that he is cheating on you. basically, what more evidence do you need? do you have to come home from work unexpectedly and find him f**king her on the couch? i hope for your sake that that doesn't happen, because nobody knows what they will do until they are in that position and it will be a really ugly scene.

your husband obviously thinks that you're going to sit around and take this. it's time to get your power back. tell him that this is going on, you are not delusional and you won't put up with it. start talking to divorce attorneys as well. that will convince your husband that you are serious. if he wants to save the marriage, he will try to change. if he doesn't care, than he will continue doing what he's doing and then you can work to get out. either way is better than living with this "elephant in the room" like you are doing now.

Sweetheart, you need to see a therapist and keep seeing one until you build your self esteem back up. YOu are so filled with anxiety that its out of control. You need to know once and for all if he is cheating because unfounded suspicions will kill your marriage.
But it sounds like you have valid reasons. There is a little voice inside you that tells you like it is. Learn to listen to it an ddont push it away.
check out:
www.signs-of-a-cheater.com
www.truthaboutdeception.com
www.womansavers.com
good luck and hope you find peace.