Would you date a guy with a past?

I'm interested in this guy. He's 26 years old. He aspires to be a doctor (He's finished school and will be going into residency soon). I'm 23 years old and I'm unemployed at the moment.

Anyway, would you date a guy with a past? He told me that when he was was younger, he used to be a man whore. He slept with guys a lot. I don't think he was a prostitute or anything. However, what bothers me is that, what if he's not clean? I'm really scared of getting anything like an STD or even AIDS. I got tested last month for both seeing as if I'm going to make it a habit to get tested every 6 months. I don't have a shady past - I don't think so. I am a loner and I don't hang around Church St. (That is the Gaytown in Toronto) I don't have many guy friends or gay friends for that matter.

He told me he's clean and he was tested 8 months ago. I really like the guy. I just fear for my safety in terms of my health. I'm very lost and I really could use some input/advice. Thank you very much for your time, i really do appreciate it. Have a wonderful day.

I have to say no. I know people can change, but it's those types of people that are probably going to cheat on you. To me, it's too much of a risk.

In order to be sure about him being clean, have him tested again, and be there when it happens. That's the only way, because I feel as though anyone could lie about their cleanliness and trick you into believing them all the while, they are positive.

If love still overrides the fact that he's positive (if he is), you guys can compromise.

If he's negative, then woohoo!
Good luck.

i would date him...but i would just tell him..you would like if both of you got tested... ( so that way it doesnt seem like it is all on him)

You could talk to him about it and both get tested together, that way both of you know for sure you're both clean.

You could both go to get tested.
Also you might want to play it safe, and use a condom. :)

girl his booty is open, no maam too many men out there.

Can you ask him to have another test? Maybe that would alleviate some of your concerns.

There is a lot of anxiety with any new relationship - so accept how you are feeling as normal. It's hard to trust someone. You may make some mistakes until you learn who is trustworthy and who is not.
What has his behavior been in the past 2 years - has he grown out of his "past"? You can give him credit for being honest with you about it.


I will say go slow .... but it's hard when it's so exciting and you feel so crazy inside.


Good luck!

dude i feel you i went through the exact same thing but when i was 16 and this guy i like that was 18 he had sex ALOT and like he told me how many times he had sex and it was just wow, 89 times with different guys and some of his mom's bf and it's scary and i was scared to hook up with him because of that, but let me tell you what my cousin told me
she said " if he treats you right and he nice to you and you want to believe him and date him, get him tested and make sure you see the results with your own eyes because you don't want to just turn him down and he could be the best thing in your life" and i did that we both went to the place to get him tasted when he got the letter he called me and i came over and he was clean, i set down some ground rules that if we are about to do it that we will have SAFE SEX and im not going to Swallow and he agreed and you know it worked yeah we didn't last long because he cheated on me but i gave him a try.

so what you should do is get him tested again because if he likes you back he wouldn't mine getting retested and then do what i did set some rules if you guys going make love make sure he wears a condom or you wear one, tell him that you won't take him *** in your butt or your mouth, and then you should be just fine, just don't be scared to try and do the work! you know because many peoples with Aids or STD people don't want to try with them and that has to be painful i hope i helped

I have to agree with everyone who is saying to go get tested together. Get HIV tests and whatever you feel is necessary for you to be comfortable with him. He was honest enough to tell you about his past so I doubt he is going to lie to you about other things as long as you do not reject him because of that honesty. A lot of people have pasts they aren't exactly proud of, but people to change as they mature so go and get checked out together just to be safe. After that just enjoy what sounds like it could turn out to be a good long term relationship. It sounds like there is already honesty and you are starting to build trust....those are major clues as to long term potential. Hope things work out for you two.

yea, i would definitely date a guy with a past hon...they all have them lol but a guy with that past? i don't think so...i mean, was he really tested? and i think that's gross. i don't want to judge this guy but he put himself in a very bad position when he decided to do that and i think that you should just be a friend to him. things lik that become a habit...it's just too risky for you hon but if you trust him [and i wouldn't] then give it a shot. telling and showig are two different things. you need to see some proff that he's been tested. word of mouth doesn't work these days. good luck hon.