How do i tell long-term gf i've deceived her?

i've been dating awonderful girl for 6 months now and we live together in my mothers apt. she is tlaking about getting married because she is carrying my male fetus but i havent told her that i have hiv. it is not aids and there is a difference but i am afraid the doc will want me to get a drug test and i am afraid she wuill think i was a womanizer. i think i got it from a public toilet seat when i was around 12. i am a mothers boy and very good morals.

You gave a girl HIV? Wow, I hope she castrates you when she finds out.

give to her straight

wowowowow. that is something you should have let her know from the very beginning. tell her immediately. or else you will continue to put her and your unborn child in danger. and just explain everything to her.

Text her.

you need to tell her right NOW

just be honest and truthful

you have to tell her... and not just for her sake, but also for your baby's sake. honesty might be hard, but it hurts far less than lies and deceit.

Okay, you need to take this bull by the horns and tell her....if you Love her you'll tell her right now.

That's the least she deserves. It's her and the baby's health at stake? She needs to get tested and if needed the right medicines...

Why would you wait or think about telling a truth to a loved one?

You need to tell her as soon as possible if not for yourseves but for the baby. She may need to see her dr to make sure the fetus is not going to be born hiv positive.

Okay, you need to tell her right away. Being that she is pregnant and hopefully getting prenatal care, then they should screen her for HIV as well. You need to make sure you get her tested. There is no reason for her to argue with you, you have it and that's that. No way to get rid of it now... have to either accept it OR just say what Freddie Mercury said to Jim Hutton: "Listen, you know where the door is if you want to leave." Jim didn't leave by the way.

Wow. There is really no way to tell her that will guarantee that she won't react negatively. How could someone not react negatively to this news?

I understand your being reluctant to bring this up to someone you love for fear of losing her, but you have to admit it was very selfish of you. And that's what you say. That you've been extremely selfish, putting your own pride ahead of someone else's health.

Do this as soon as possible. She needs to be tested and so does the fetus. If you are sincerely sorry perhaps she will understand how hard it is for you and be able to forgive you eventually.

Good luck, hope all goes well.

Just tell her the truth, your explanation just then will work fine.

You should have told her in the beginning. But since you didn't , you need to tell her ASAP because it can turn into AIDS without treatment. Just sit her down and tell her. Explain that there is treatment. Also, there is an immunization that can take away the effectsof HIV and AIDS. Yes, its an immunization, but it takes away the effects of the disease if you already have it. It is very expensive and yes it exists. I saw a documentary on it on Discovery Health Channel

okay, here's a news flash. You DID NOT get it from a toilet seat. You got it from having sex with someone who was infected themselves.

You have to tell her now. You have probably infected her. There is a GREAT danger that she will infect your child as well. Hopefully, you both have good medical care and her doctor will test her and treat her with the correct medications in order to prevent your child from getting during childbirth or afterwards. It is very important that she adhere to the medication schedule and does not breastfeed.

It is also important that you inform her yourself before the doctor does.

In my opinion you are irresponsible and immature. You obviously got it because you are too dumb to practice safe sex. You're in denial and living a lie. She has every right to dump you and even press charges against you for attempted murder because you knew you had it and still slept with her without protection.

Just tell it like it is. It's always the easiest way.

WOW. okay first thing first im sorry that you have HIV and your right there is a big differnce between that and AIDS. There is obviously a reason why you did not tell her. I know your afraid and dont know how she will react but she is the mother of your baby, and you gave her HIV shouldnt she know she has a disease? you have to apologize then tell her. DONT WAIT another minute your wasting time!!!!!!!!!!!

The chances of you getting HIV from a toilet seat are next to none. The chance is so insignificant that people would argue that it's impossible. You need to be honest with her RIGHT NOW, because most likely, she's contracted it too. Not only have you put her in danger, but your unborn child as well. Being that you both are probably HIV positive, you've also put this child at risk for not having both parents sometime in the future. If you both have HIV, then you both need to get on a drug cocktail immediately. You need to be honest with her, and honest with yourself, because you picked up HIV from somewhere else, and I'm willing to bet that you have an idea where. You're going to have to realize that she could dump you, and I hope that she's not infected with the virus, because you've lied to her and put her life in danger. You realize that HIV can turn into AIDS in a very short amount of time right?

Also, six months is not a long term relationship.

Friend, you need to go see a doctor right now and get tested. .

First of all, you can't get HIV from a public toilet. The human immunodeficiency virus cannot live in an oxygen environment of the type in a public restroom.

Secondly, how do you know you have HIV? As far as I know the only way to know you have HIV is if you are already tested, so what difference does it make if you get another test?

Third, I think whether she thinks you are a womanizer is not the issue anymore. If indeed you are HIV positive at 12, then it is most likely that you passed on the virus to your girlfriend through sexual intercourse since she is pregnant with your baby.

Morally, you need to tell her because her life and health, as well as your baby's is at stake. Depending on where you live, it is now too late to have a late term abortion, unless the mother's life and health is threatened. The baby will be born, and the doctor will find out if the baby has HIV when bloodwork is done.

First of all, you cannot pick up HIV from a toilet seat. You can only get it through a direct transfer of bodily fluids, either via unprotected sex, the sharing of needles, an HIV contaminated blood transfusion, or by coming into contact somehow with HIV infected blood. The virus cannot be transmitted by kissing, using the toilet, shaking hands, sneezing, coughing, or any other casual contact.

Secondly, HIV is not AIDS, but it is the virus that causes AIDS. If you are HIV positive, you WILL develop AIDS eventually. You must seek treatment NOW. The sooner you do, the more likely the progression of the disease can be slowed. You could live a relatively healthy life for another 20 years or more, but it will require a lifetime of medicine, doctor visits, and healthy living habits.

You MUST tell your girlfriend NOW that you are HIV positive. There is a significant chance that you have infected her, and an equally significant chance that your baby will be born HIV-positive. But there's also a chance that she will be HIV-negative. She has to know what you've exposed her to, though, so she can begin treatment if she needs to.

Finally, you can NEVER have unprotected sex again with someone who is HIV-negative. You must always wear a condom, and you must always disclose your health status to anyone you plan on having sex with, even if that means the end of a relationship or the chance that you might not get laid.

You are carrying a fatal disease that is highly contagious. If you spread it to someone willingly, it's the same as if you shot them or stabbed them to death. You will be nothing more than a murderer, even if it takes decades for the disease to kill them.

For what it's worth, the chances are you became infected before you met your current girlfriend. And if you come clean to her now, since you didn't know you had HIV before, she might be able to handle it and your relationship might be able to continue. But if she finds out on her own, you'll probably lose her and fast. Tell her and take whatever she dishes out. You'll be a better man for being honest about this.

Good luck to you.

i dont think that there is an easy way to do that. when u do tell her dont sugar coat it, just tell her straight. and count on her freakin out. she might even get really ugly for a while. in fact if i were you i would find some other place to live for a week or so ( till she cools down, depending on what kinda woman she is ) just incase she kicks you out before i told her.

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