How to NICELY ask my boyfriend to get tested.?

We have been together for over a year now and sleeping together for half of this time. However, we usually pull out instead of condoms, seeing as i am on the pill. I do not however trust him pulling out in time. now I know this is idiotic of me, but we did not get tested before, because we were both virgins, and i trusted him. I Know- my number one mistake.
Well now i am freaking out that he may have some std's (imparticular i am worried about aids! and i have reason to suspect but i am unsure)

I want to ask him to get tested but there's not really a nice way to do this.

I am thinking of telling him it is necessary in order to renew my prescription for the pill.

Do You Think:
A) this would be a good way of getting him to test. AND
B) how likely is it you think i have aids. IF he IS positive??

It is really really scary worrying that you have an incurabale disease that could kill you. Please be nice because i have legit reason to be scared, and it is a VALID concern.

wow... um i think thats kinda a good idea about the renew your perscription cuz he would probably get pissed if you straight out asked him and he believed you didnt trust him.

That's a good idea about renewing the pill but say you both need to be tested. And then to do it. And go every 6 months. Report It

Here is some info on how to do it.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2121338_ask-pote...

You're in a relationship with someone with whom you feel close enough to have an intimate relationship. You should feel comfortable enough to have this discussion with him. Everyone has the right to ask the person with whom they will have a relationship to get tested. Also, pulling out does not keep one from getting pregnant. Talk to your boyfriend. If he loves and respects you, he will understand. Don't trick him into it - that's not honest. You want him to be honest and open with you and you have to return the same. Good luck.

first off don't lie 2 him about getting tested and if he had aids and you were sleeping with him you would of noticed and if he does have aids now he most likely was cheating on you but i don't know...just do the one think that will drive him crazy, say that ur a little paranoid and that if he doesn't get tested no sex for him! trust me it will work every guy wants sex lol....

If you had AIDS you would know it; however, if he's HIV+ then you most likely are also. He doesn't need to ejaculate inside of you to transmit the virus to you as there is enough HIV in his precum to infect you, especially after repeatedly having unprotected sex.

I wouldn't lie to him but neither would I worry too much about being nice. This ain't a dinner party. Your life is on the line.

I would suggest that you offer to accompany him to your county health department so that you can both be tested. Then I would do just that. If he refuses to go then you need to make the decision on what price to put on your life.

Do tell him that mess about the pill renewal. First, unless he's a complete idiot he wount beleive it. Second, you dont wanna mislead him. Just tell him that for both of your safety you wont him to get tested. And you will get tested to. Or say you want to get tested and you'd feel more safe and comfortable if for support he got tested too. You guys have been in a committed relationship. Hopefully you have great lines of communication and he will understand.

If he was indeed a virgin when you two got together and he hasn't cheated the only way for him to have HIV is if one of his parents passed it on to him.

Don't lie. That's not what brings people closer. You are sleeping with him, just tell him you both should go and get tested. OR there will be no more sex. Don't be stupid. Only YOU can protect you! And the moral of this story is... WEAR A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's that easy!

How about the truth. Just tell him since you both have never tested for HIV you need the peace of mind. THEN you BOTH go test together. This way you are not suggesting anything.

The other reason is the CDC (Center for Disease Control) has suggested that everyone get tested once a year. And since you have been together for a year you want to be tested and want him to go with you.

If he is positive, you have a higher chance to be infected as well.

Good Luck

Why don't you go get tested? Let him know you are going to go get tested and just ask him if he wants to go too. If he declines that is his choice. If it comes back positive then you will have no trouble getting him tested I am sure. If you are negative, tell him he needs to get tested as well because it would make you feel safer. This should not make him mad if you have a good relationship.

Another dumb couple having unprotected sex. Have fun with your STD's