Is it a bad thing to ask?

is it bad when u've just met someone and in the process you let him know that u prefer the both of you having tests done ie, aids to std's. is it wrong to ask a guy such a question? not that one is implying on getting married or anything but just for assurity incase something happens, you know sometimes one may want to have spontaneous sex out there in the middle of the night and all shops are shut. or a condom may burst, just for precaution, coz i told a guy that and he was shocked, why i don't know...... is it a bad qstn, really?

i didn't mean it in any bad way, but i may have asked at the wrong time. the reason why i asked is because i wanted to sleep with him and i found it important to ask. perhaps i was wrong to ask too soon. thanks guys

I wouldn't ask on the first date!
But, if it is something that is important to you, its best to let them know! Be careful how you word it though!

I think you were very responsible to ask. The guy sounds like a jerk and you were lucky you found that out soon.

I don't think it is wrong, you are making sure he is safe.

if there offended they probably have a reason to be ask away or end up regretting it one day

It is ABSOLUTELY NOT a bad question to ask and I commend you for doing so BUT I would only ask him to do so if it looks like we are going to take that route. I wouldnt ask him if I "just' met him.

Not at all if you are in a committed relationship. If he isn't ready to commit to just you, then it is a waste of time.

No, it is a very responsible question.

Kudos for you for being healthy!

for your own peace of mind i guess it's fine to ask, if he gets offended then that's his problem, you are thinking of your own health so it's a good thing...if you are planning on having sex...there are condoms that can prevent STD's and AIDS but best to be safe than sorry....right....?

das a gud question. i fnk it is when you have just met the person because you're asking them quite them to do something quite personal and plus they kind of think you're putting them down cos you think they might have disease. like say if someone asked you that and you only just met them...hmmm yeh, i wudnt be so chuffed

I think it is a mutually responsible question to ask.

i don't think it's a bad question, it sounds like a perfectly reasonable question to me!

It is not a bad question/those who have nothing to hide will appreciate you asking them.Please it keep it up the sky is your limit

Was he planning on having sex with you at the time......?

Joke .... I think you are very clever and wise.... The last thing you want is to catch anything from him.... So yes I think that he acted completely immaturely....

Well done .....

its not a bad thing to ask but its something many people dont ask which is why he may have been shocked. i wouldnt call him a jerk but just try to be on the other end of the question, how would you feel if someone asked you? it may imply that you dont trust the person you are questioning.

not a bad question " but you could be more discrete ask them if they are a blood doner?" you carry a card if you are:::that is a margin of proof

I just wish you hadn't decided to ask me in front of my parents.

The guy should think that's a great question because he knows he has a great chance of scoring with you!! What an idiot!

it is not a bad question it was a very responsible question, as far as him being shocked he may not be used to some one to ask a question such as the one you asked , and did not know how to respond to it. you were looking out for the best interest of both.i would of dune the same thing so i say good for you.i just wish that a lot more people would take that kind of precaution and was more responsible for there well being as well as the other person . there would not be as big a problem with sexual transmitted disease.not saying that it would solve the problem but it would help a great deal,

A good idea to ask. Shows that you are responsible and mature.

I'd say ithat it is a perfectly reasonable question once you are in a committed relationship. Lets face it early in a relationship you are going to scare away most guys. As i would feel if I was asked early on as well.

When you are in the early stages of a relationship you should always be careful when you are spontaneous.

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Certainly not wrong to ask, but how did you ask it? I've been thinking about it and there doesn't seem to be a subtle way of approaching it...

You have a right to protect yourself.

If the guy is smart, he will take this as a good sign -- that you're sexually interested in him!