Whats the best way to ask a potential mate to have a aids or sTDs test without losing him or her as a friend?

I would tell him/her that it is very important to you... and you would be willing do something if meant that much to them... don't just hall of and say hey you need to do this... Sit down and bring up the issue.

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Wait until you're about to be married, at which point such tests are required by law and no one's feelings will be hurt.

ask if you guys can get tested together becuase you are curious of your status and dont want to go alone

Have you ever been tested should do the trick. Doesn't mean you'll get the truth though, always be prepared and safe if you know what I mean.

tell him ur scared of desease and if he wants to b with u he has to have a check up

Potential mate? Are you being bred by a bull or stallion?

First, grow up.

Second, once you have become an adult you will be more comfortable with adult questions.

This is the best answer.

If you ask someone to do something that's that important, and they blow you off or decide you're not cool or won't hang out with you, you're better off without them.

If you can't communicate your wants and needs, why would you want to date the person in the first place? They should be open and honest about their sexual past, since it will have major impacts on your life. The best way is to say, "I want you to be tested before we start anything physical." If they say no, that's them saying they won't respect you.

If they agree, well, there you go.

Go with them and have the same thing done. My hubby and I got them together before we ever even kissed.

Be straightforward. Ask first if they have had a recent test and if so, may you see the results. If they haven't, ask if they would mind being tested (be sure to explain why you would like this). Most will be understanding of your concern with the relaxed sexual attitudes of today's society. If he or she refuses, he/ she doesn't deserve you.

Make a simple rule:

No sex (Protected or otherwise) without an AIDS, herpes and Hep test. Make it clear that you understand that even virgins can contract these diseases from things like contaminated blood transfusions. Be upfront with this requirement with your friends, and let it be something that's generally known, this way anyone you;re considering dating will know about it well in advance of it becoming a romantic issue.

In this day and age, anyone worth marrying is going to understand and respect such a boundary.

As for the test being required by law, that varies form place to place. For example, the the USA, some states require an AIDS test before issuing a marriage license, while others do not.