Dated for two years never had sex and now married but my husband discovered he has AIDS should I divorce him?

Yes we have dated for two good years but had no contact at all. We are now recently married but he discovered that he is infected with HIV AIDS. Should I divorce him?

I don't think you should. There are ways to protect your self from getting it its going to be a struggle but if you love him enough you will stay with him. Just use condoms all the time and get tested when needed and when you decided to have kids you can there are so many of ways to now. It's really up to you but just keep in mind you married him for a reason. I bet it wasn't for his health.

Truthfully, I believe your husband/boyfriend at the time knew he had the virus, but liked you so much he didn't want to scare you off.

Then his like for you turned to love and now you two are married. Do you remember this part of your vows "In sickness and in health"?

To place it nicely at least you know your man will NEVER cheat on you because with his virus if he doesn't open his mouth about it he can go to jail for it.

I believe you love him too and you are just confused right now (which is very understandable), but if he is good man to you don't lose him and treasure every moment you two have together.

No you need to stick with him yes it will be hard but you need to help him he needs support and love the same you had for him before you discovered this little problem dont leave him he needs you more than ever now and in return he will be the best husband and lover you ever met or had. there is so much more than sex to a relationship.

only you can answer that question.

did he lie to you about having it or did he only just now find out he had it? If he lied, then I'd say definitely divorce him and get yourself tested.

If you stay, get yourself tested and learn how you can live a life with him and continue to avoid contracting the virus.

its difficult and I am so sorry about this for you. You could stay and always have your life in a percentage of risk - even if you use protection. You would have to use extra strong condoms.
Or you could start a new life. Its hard, if you love him you could stick it out. Or you could start a fresh and not put yourself at risk. Good luck and god bless to you both.

I can asure you he did not just discover that his got HIV he knew it all along but did not want to infect you. I would say he is one in a million for doing such a good deed to you. This is a very hard question to get an answer in this forum, i wish you could talk to your paster or anyone whom you know will give you a good answer. Take heart.

Do you love him? If you love him then you should stick with him and help him through this hard time. Aids is an illness and most people wont leave their spouse because of an illness. If you dont love him then you should leave and you should have never married him in the first place.

that would have to be your decision based on your feelings - I would have to consider if the 'For Worse' is out weighing the 'For Better' - get a counselor and reason things out with someone else who is not your family or friend - don't jump the gun and run the other way until you've lay out all the facts.

No you shouldn't divorce him. He needs you now more than ever. Hitting the road when things get tough does nothing for your spiritual growth and character. If you are only seeking life experiences that bring you great pleasure and happiness you're denying yourself the big picture.

In less than a day you have had a husband that makes you be a prostitute at night, dating a man with 3 unknown to you children with an ex and now this... what next?

Seems like you have a lot of time on your hand.

To answer your question. Do not leave him, just wait around to collect the life insurance.

you dont divorce someone because they are sick. if he cheated on you, and contracted hiv that way, then i would understand where you are coming from.

i would get tested and make sure you are healthy. talk it out, maybe he didnt have sex with you bc he knew he had it..

I personally would and that is something I beleive you can get an annulment for actually under Fraud if you didn't know about it before you got married. But the truth is that it's up to you and what is important to you.

You dated for 2 years w/no contact? How?!?! Don't you get blood testing done before marriage? Your husband didn't "discover" that he has AIDS. He knew all along. YOU just discovered it. For deception rather than the illness, I would leave him.

how did you not know this was a possibility? I don't know if I'd divorce him, but you have to be ready for the possibility that you could be infected one day, if you're not careful

I don't understand how you didn't concemate after you got married. No you should not divorce him. Do you understand what marriage is about? For better for worse, in SICKNESS and health.

Umm holy crap that's rough. First you need to find out when he was infected and see if he had been with other woman while you were dating. have you contracted it? You need to be tested immediatley. Good luck to you.

Depends if you love him or not. If you love him, he needs you beside him more then ever. If you don't love him, just go.

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You should get yourself checked out...
Divorce is a personal choice, if you feel you were betrayed or that your life will be unfulfilled with contentness, then by all means, do what will make you happy....

No, if you married him you hopefully love him. Plus remember the "through sickness and health" part?

if he knew he was HIV positive when he married you, then absoultely divorce him.

IF It happened before you married him you have to think long and hard ............
your vows " for better or for worse "?

I think this is troll.
You mean you didn't have sex even after getting married recently?

well if you really loved him you wouldn't care but on the other hand it is hard to be with a men that has aids it depends on what you feel good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How would you feel if the roles were reversed? How would you react to divorce?

Well, did he get it before he met you? Did you get it from him?

All your questions are a little .......

divorce is never the answer just an ecape plan . work it out and pray

Depends, do you love him?