I was asked by a straight guy this "Do you think gay people are good? They're like sex machines for 24/7. All

they do is just to have sex, going from one guy to another. In fact, the statistical rate is the highest for gay people to catch AIDS or HIV. And, i don't think that there could be any solid long-term relationship that can ever be built by gay or lesbian couples since they just lack of self-control." I was really dumbfounded. What do you think guys?

Please give me your standpoints on the words he said. I just want to know about your views.

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We met in college: he an engineering student and I an economics major. He now has a full fellowship (free tuition) at a major mid-western engineering school in another state. I am a law student. The perceptive among you might have noticed the, "in another state" part.

We see one another about 4 times a year when he flies down to see me. It's a long distance relationship that we are both faithful to. It requires an incredible amount of planning to have two people come together across a continent at the same time. Further, we make the most of the time we have and plan everything out in advance to minimize wasted time and the stares from people we couldn't care less about but hide from because they could make our lives hell. Neither of us have AIDS. We are monogamous.

To that man, I would point out that I help people plan out their lives for decades and after they are dead (wills, estates and trusts). Most people can't balance their checkbooks. He designs buildings, structural steel, and bridges. I compose legal documents. Both require incredible skill and self control
We wait for months before seeing one another and that is incredibly difficult to bear, as anyone in a long distance relationship will tell you.

I doubt this man possesses half the self-control Rob and I have. He would go insane waiting for the woman he loves 4 months without seeing her at all. We plan in months, years and decades. He apparently can't foresee the absurdity of such a comment uttered in a momentary movement of his mouth.....

To those who do have to have such short lived relationships:

A.) Straight people have one night stands all the time.
B.) Most gays cannot legally get married. We are discouraged by society from being married and having long term relationships.
C.) It doesn't matter who you are, the divorce rate is about 50%. Flip a coin: heads you have a long term relationship; tails you don't.

Your supposition and statistics are highly flawed.

Homosexual men are no longer the highest infection group for HIV.

As for gay men being obsessed by sex all the time, those kinds of men DO exist -- just as such men exist in the straight community. And since straights are the majority, there are far more straight men living sexually deviant lives than there are similar gay men.

Holy crap, I'd have punched the guy. Seriously.

OF COURSE gays/lesbians are perfectly capable of having solid, long-term relationships!

It's not a lack of self control...straight guys do it just as bad or worse than the gay men I know (actually, it is the straight men I know that are the "man whores", not my gay friends).

This guy is obviously homophobic as well as being a narrow-minded asshole. I'd completely disregard anything he ever said after this. Even if it's something along the lines of "Gee, the weather is nice today"

Well thats stupied, straight people are as much whores as we gay people are, everyone are a bit off the self controle

we have the prostituetes in the streets saling themselves and the striaght people buying them the same with gay people aswell.

so i dont know hwy he is only pinning all this unself control statment to only the gay people.

all of my friends who are straight, which is pretty much all of . them, think gay men have sex 24/7. that gay men can not be in a monogamous relationship.

i think it's funny. just some silly stereotype created to make straight men jealous of the lack of sex they get. ha ha

I think Beach Bum raises an excellent point....many straight men are quite jealous that gay men are more liberated sexually and generally have more fun. Straight men have to work a lot harder to convince women to have sex with them. Gay men do that have that obstacle.

What an idiot. I have quite a few friends that have been in a homosexual relationship with the same person for many years. Apparantly this guy does not have any type of clue what he is talking about.

He is perpetuating a stereotype. He's a blabbermouth and doesn't know what he's talking about. I do not agree with the gay lifestyle (to put it mildly), but he's an idiot.

I believe the individual that you spoke of should educate himself about the gay issues and not spout unsubstantiated drivel.

Okay I know I'm not a gay man, but I'm really suprised you didn't hit him for generalising like that!!

i think he's pretty much right.. .just that not every1 is like that... he generalized it but pretty much yeah... that's true...

Thats not true, we can have long term relationships, we do not lack os self-control....

stay away from ur "straight" friend :P

Well, I don't agree with his remarks.

But then again, I can't deny.

This is a problem that happens not just in the gay world, but in the straight world as well. People are just being a sex machine. This kind of thing is everybody's problem and it's not fair if you could say that this is just the gay people problem.

The reason why he said that is, maybe, he see gay in sexual way. He know that guys like to have sex (more than girls), and in a gay relationship, there are two guys with the same interest. So, it's sex all the way.

And it's also because of the media expose about the gay lifestyle. He see the world in his own eyes, which is very limited. So, why don't you be a friend for him and make him see other part of the gay world. The one that the media refuse to expose, because nice things don't sell.

I'd have been dumbfounded too. He's just plain wrong. Granted, there is a hookup culture that is very promiscuous and have lots of sex with different partners, just like straight guys would do if they had access. But my relationships - 13 years, 7 years, and currently 9 years - were not all about sex. My 7 year relationship was open, and it STILL was not all about sex. And when the 13 and the 7 broke up, sex had nothing to do with it. We are just like most married couples: we have sex a lot less often than we used to. But it does not make me inclined to cheat, I am committed to my partner.

And HIV is, at the end of the day, just a disease. It does not care who it infects. The current highest rate if new infection is among African-American females. In Africa, it is almost exclusively a heterosexual disease. The fact that it emerged in the gay population in the West is simply an artifact of the opportunistic nature of the virus, nothing more.

It's none of my business what other people choose to do, but being a fag is disgusting. There, that's what I think.