What can I do to fix this???Help please???I know its hard but please help me.

Ok, So I'm bi. Ive been talking with this guy that lives in Belgium for almost 4 months. I'm really into him alot. Sometimes though he's hard to deal with, I mean he's controlling. He likes things his way, and basically he tells me as long as I know my place, I can be his. Basically owned. I don't really mind that, I mean it turns me on a bit( I know thats really weird). Thats just been him. He's the jealous type though. If I tell him I was talking to a guy friend online, he gets upset and tells me to go attend to their cocks and other comments like that. I'm a virgin for one, I haven't done a girl or a guy. I would prefer to do it with a girl first though. Second I'm 16, I'm not some man-whore finding people online and doing them.He's 35.I'm not really into young guys, young girls but not young guys. So I tell him a word I learned in a langauge that he speaks, and I made the mistake of saying a friend taught me the word which I a friend did. Well when we talk again he say's he's made a big mistake this weekend. He shares some pics of himself with me, and then a pic of himself and another guy. When I ask who it is, he tells me he had just met him and they got drugged up this weekend and he banged the ***** out him, and was a bit worried because the guy was from a country where HIV is high. I told him that's ******** gross, and he flips the script and goes off on me. I mean goes off on me, it hurt so much for him to tell me he had done someone eles, but then to have him go on the defensive and call me all sorts of names. He told me I was gross too and I should go talk with my online friends about it and how I was a waste of time and full of s hit. I finally did what he asked, I deleted all my friends from Yahoo Messenger, thats what he told me to do before and because I only had 2 other people I talked to I didn't. He says he's through with me, and signed out with that saying I was out his life and he wasted him time on me. This isn't the first time he's flipped out and basically said he's done with me. But this time I don't know. Ive been begging him to forgive me, and sending message after message. I am so into him and don't know what I would do without him.But at the same time I'm hurt with all of the things he called me, said to me, and that he well cheated on me, though were not offcially together he would flip out if I had done that. I don't know what eles to do, I haven't heard from him sense and I'm worried he will never talk to me again. What can I do to fix this???Please help me.
thank you
j~swift

if there's anything thing else I can tell you that will help, email me. please

to fix this, I really think you should leave.
This isn't healthy.
But if you ignore my first advice,
give him sometime to cool down.
I'm sure he's just worried that he doesn't want to
give you HIV or something like that.

I'm sorry to say this but he seems like a jack@$$ with major issues. I think you should try to move on.

He's a controller and he will make you life hell. Find a man who treats you right!

Forget about him

Wait... so have you actually ever met this person?

I'd help you, but I can't, because you insist you need to get him back. I can't give you logical advice when what he does defy all logic. If he got someone "drugged up" and "banged the *****" out of him, that sounds a lot like date rape to me. And he flips out on you for having a problem with it.

And even if he wasn't a rapist, how do you get someone back who drastically cuts you out of his life on such a whim? You've been walking on eggshells for this guy, and he doesn't seem to care at all. If you couldn't make him appreciate it when you were with him, you're not going to get him to appreciate it now that he's blocked you.

So, basically, I can't give you advice on how to get back with him because A) I have a moral problem condoning a relationship with this man and B) he seems to have mental problems making reconciliation require a miracle.

I've heard many people say the day they got dumped they'll never find anyone else like the person who dumped them. Maybe that'll go on for a week. But never in my life have I heard anyone say that five years after.

As appealing as he is to you, it sounds like much of the energy of his appeal is created by his erratic nature.

Maybe if he were not such a nutcase you'd be bored with him by now.

The online relationship can probably teach you about people, yourself, and relationships, though, so it's not all bad.

Consider it a practice for the real world. Let his words hurt you a bit, let it sting and enjoy it. Experience the thrill of the new territory. But just don't have sex with him in real life. I'd probably recommend not seeing him in person b/c he sounds like he's very emotional and nutty and it would probably be disappointing to you if not physically dangerous.

hey hon, there is something u need to know about life and love. people fight all the time, but people forgive those ones he loves. a true love is about both u and ur partner. from what u have been written, I don't think he is kinda guy worthy ur love. he never listen to ur opinion, your life would be really sux . u definitely have ur own rights to talk to someone else, if sex are not involved. its his problem of getting jealous. cuz it just doesn't right. I love this boy, and I really love him. I opened a new account and chat with him. I sent a msg like, I am near u, do u want to date me sometime? he said, yeah, we should meet in the mall, and we head to my house for a little fun. I felt so sad and disappointing. he apologized to me and promised me not flirting with anyone else. I told him, and I knew I love him a lot. but so this hurt always bothers me. but I still talk to him. cuz I think whatever kinda guy and relationship he wants. its his problem. since I love him so much, all I can do is be there for him. so if ur partner love u, he will never be like that. good luck man