"Are our men confused??"?

My 34 yr old gay brother needed a place to stay so I extended an invitation for him to stay with me until he got himself on his feet. We were apart for sometime because he strayed from the family and chose a lifestyle of drugs and prostitution. He has himself together now. I am happy for him. However, now I am learning and starting to realize that this "down low" stuff is so much a reality. I couldn't beleive the average men that creep with my brother behind closed doors. These men know that my brother is a man, though he dresses and acts the woman role (and even gets hormone shots). These guys have girlfriends and wives, but crave men. Do they really view my brother as a woman because he plays the part?? I don't know. These are young men, college men, "thugged out men". I am not prejudiced about the gay lifestyle. I just want women to be more alert, and protect yourselves. Also my brother is HIV positive and tells me that he uses protection, but you just never know.

He does keep a drawer full of condoms. So I surely hopes he uses them. However there is always that chance of breaking the condom or other exposure. I ask him questions just to make sure that morally he uses good judgement, and I hope that he is honest with me, because sometimes what one tells you may just be the opposite of what they do. I also realize that I can't live his life for him, or tell him or these guys that he are with what to do. They like what they like. I just want women to open their eyes to this reality, and be selective about who you are with and remember to always use protection. The sad part is that most women do not know, because men are not honest with them. How can you tell if your man desires other men?? Reality is, you can never tell. It is mostly just a sex thing between these guys and my brother. I also talk to my brother openly and let him know that he doesn't always need the attention of males to feel loved.

Amusingly ironic isn't it?

I hope he informs people that he is HIV positive before he has 'sex' with them.

It's considered illegal in a lot of areas to not inform the partner.

"There are more things in Heaven and Earth than are dreamt
of in your philosophy..."

Yup, there are a LOT of interesting cravings out there. Indeed there
are lots of guys who like guys in dresses MORE than guys in pants
or girls.

However, they are less than 1% of the population.

However, the planet has a BIG population... And, especially with the
Internet, it doesn't take that much for them to find each other.

Generally, if they scratch each other's itch, it isn't a problem...

However, any "deviant" behavior needs to be evaluated separately
to see if it is "dangerous" behavior. Some activities are perfectly fine
while tiny variations can be fatal.

I would note that ye-old-standard heterosexual conformist baby
making sexuality is pretty dangerous without variation!

I hope your brother has a good head on his shoulders and some
common sense.

You're doing a great job of being understanding.

That said, your brother can't play the part of a woman, so these seemingly "normal" guys are all bisexual or gay. Since they're creeping around with him, they crave raw sex with another man, not really companionship. To me, that's the worst.

While your brother is under your roof, be sure he has lots of safe-sex supplies.

It was explained to me that these men are "bored". The point at which the kick of sexual excitment keeps being raised for them. Thus they seek out new and forbidden experiences...which only escalates their need to new and novel activities.

Oh the tangled web we weave.... yada yada.

There men are probably going to him because they want to be with a man, and are so screwed up in the head that they can't let themselves enjoy it, unless the man looks like a girl.

But on to a more important topic: your bother needs more help than a couch to crash on. There are excellent programs in most gay-friendly cities for HIV+ people who are substance abusers. If you are near SF, or can get him there, I recommend one called Walden House. It used to be crap, but it's really better now. You say he has himself together now, but then you imply that he is still working. Is this his plan for now? Because I don't think you can do this kind of work without having a habbit, or at least not most people.

Many people refuse/deny the fact that our corruptament, media monsters, and other such so-called high ranking elite members of our so-called society, have been utilizing propaganda in order to "dumb-down" force others, especially males to be passive, and force us to accept things that are unnatural, thus we become as "Sheople" of which results in them controlling every aspect of our lives via a massive world government...

You know you are a great loving, caring brother who really wants the best for his brother.

But you are enabling him, I know he has had a rough time with life but his sexual promiscuity and your allowing it to happen in your home has brought you right into the picture.

In this screwed up over controlled country we live in I wouldn't be surprised if your brother infected someone that you would or could be held as an accomplice for not telling the people about him or for allowing him to continue as he is. You know how the laws are out there now, you cant even call someone a name with out committing a crime never mind knowing that a guy is going to have sex with your brother who is HIV+ and not tell that person and its in your home!

Sorry I'm not tough (a bit of a door mat myself) but I would tell brother no to sex in your house either that or get out!
Plus morally it is not right! Moral is more then legal in my opinion and you are tittering on the moral edge with this knowledge.

The wives and girlfriends of these DL cheaters, well not much you can do there but keep talking about it every where the more that here it the more may make the connection. You are right on, on that one.