I fell for a friend of five months and we ended up having a rageful email argument. What do you think of this:

Dear John

I am very, very sorry for the things I have said to you via email and calls.

I take 100% responsibility for everything and I regret all the stuff I threw at you. I blamed you for stuff and it was completely ridiculous that I did that - and I apologize sincerely.

Meeting you triggered some issues (not your fault) and I am working through them with a professional. I know I threw some stuff at you but it really was all my rubbish and I didn't mean to hurt you.

I am very sorry. I screwed up what could have been a genuine, long term friendship.

My door is always open to you to. No matter what. I mean it.

With love,

T


PS We are both gay men in our thirties - I never wanted a romantic relationship: I fell in platonic love and this is 100% true. I was never sexually attracted. It was his face and personality.
I blew up out of hurt and jealousy and got annoyed with him because he started drinking heavily and taking drugs after a recent HIV diagnosis.
I miss him.

I am HIV, too but have more experience with it because I have been diagnosed since 2001

If he is still in denial about his illness you letter may fall on deaf ears, its a lovely letter from the heart but maybe he just needs a little space, xx I hope it all works out for you

I personally think it is a heart-felt apology letter. He has been diagnosed with HIV? That's horrible. I don't think most of us can even being to understand how he feels right now. I myself might be drinking heavily too if I found that out about myself. Tell him you miss you. Tell him back that your door is open too. If he is your friend, try to be there to support him too but I'd imagine it's not going to be an easy road for anyone (him, his family, his friends, his partner if he has one, etc.). It's a horrible horrible thing.

Well shug if you miss him forgive him be a friend he is in a pretty rough spot and he need support and he is reaching out to you by apologizing and letting you know that he was wrong for what he said to him if i were you i would forgive and just be there for him life is short good luck shug

Your friend has offered a sincere apology. It would be great if you were able to forgive him. Forgiveness not only heals relationships, but it also helps the person who was wronged. It helps you to let it go.

If you hold on to resentment it will continue to hurt you, over and over again, for years to come.

It sounds like your friend really took the HIV diagnosis badly, and turned to drugs and alcohol as a way to cope. Maybe you could be a help there, not by lecturing him, but by being an example.
Call him up and get him out, go for a jog or a walk, go to a museum, go play frisbee golf, go do volunteer work. The more you can keep him focused on positive activities, the more time he spends not retreating to his escape mechanisms (drugs and alcohol).

There's never anything wrong with forgiveness or being kind.

Best wishes to you both.

So you met this gay five months ago, and you ended up having a rageful e-mail argument,and you putted one of his letter as detail documentation of what you had suffered through this guy.

The person who abuse you seen that he wasmean to you and he took the blame and responsibility for every thing he threw at you he come to realize that it was him that threw every thing and blame you for all the stuff, and then he realized that it was ridiculous that he did that and apologized sincerely as if he own back every thing to you,

So you only knew him for five months and this triggered some issues, and he is seeing psychiatric help ,and he know now it was his rubbish his own stuff but now he say that he did not wanted to hurt you,Also he said that he feel sorry for screwing up what could of been a genuine relationship,and he adds that his door is always opened for you

Well this man is not really 100% fit mentally, he had some distorted ideas about you, and he was either driven by jealousy or by hatred to act like he did, and not only that but even what he was , and the stuff he did he blamed it no you, all his rubbish so he say that all it was what he did to you, So in a wayhe admitted his wrong judgement, which really was him self all the time

So what it is all about is about homosexuality, both of you are in your thirties, and you did not had any romantic relationship
and what it has been platonic love and nothing else.and This person was very sick mentally, possibly schizophrenic and he
is now getting treatment,for his sickness, and that letter is an assurance that his mental health is getting better and he realized that what he done to you was only a delusion which he was suffering and the moment when he was unbalanced and frantic and deluded with his paranoid thinking, he was truelly deranged and he did not know what he was doing,

Now it is for you to reconsider what is going to be your relation with him whether you trust him as a friend or you do not have nothing to do with him, all this is possible to you, you had the letter of apology and now he is waiting to be forgiven for what he done to you,

I do not thing that gays are violent but if i were you i think twice whether you do or not be friends like you were before it is alright if you talk ,if you met in the street and have a cup of coffee together, but now that you know his sickness keep away but be friends with him, but do not fall for him and be all over him every thing is different,you know now that you were entertaining a very sick man , please i stress my point that the best thing forget that he ever existed

Are you going to send it? What do you think of it? It's nice.


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