Hi guys, please help me with this?

i kept seeing a man and fell in love. it was an impossible love-affair right from the start, like no future, but we both kept seeing each other and i appreciated to know "he was out there somewhere" it kept me cheered up and glad.

i used to be always very careful with protection. though, this guy disliked it and tried over & over to make me forget it. and after long time, i kind of wanted to trust him, even if he is a very unserious guy, we did not use protection several times. yes... i know... bad guy :( and bad me :(

after a long moment of thoughts, i "freaked out" and fell from the clouds. i had fear of not knowing his past and of a possible hiv infection. i called him and asked him to make the test (with me). he cheered me up a little. sweet. wanted to go there if i needed to be sure. i told him he kind of put me back in tracks. i was glad first. but now, since this call where he reassured me and cheered me up, i have not heard from him since 2 weeks :-(

what is it? is he afraid? angry i dared to think such a thing of him? does he feel like i overpassed a barrier & now hiding from me?

i know it is easy to call him coward. but it's not what i want to call him. he does have an own life to care about.. long story. but i want to come clean with him. want to talk and make him realize importance of such an issue. he seemed to live careless and now might be just as afraid as i was. WHAT DO I DO, CALL HIM, MEET HIM OR TEXT HIM I NEEDED TO SEE HIM? i care about him.

If he is clean, why should he avoid you now? I'm afraid to say this but since he can make you do it with him without any protection, don't you think he has done it before with other girls too?

You may never know other girls' health, right? I think he is infected. You better stop having unprotected sex with him or with anyone else no matter how he sweet talk you into it.

At the mean time, have a body checkup for yourself. Good luck!!!

oh well, never mind

Hi ,,, hmmm ,,, sounds like he has taken a powder on you!!! and left ..... go on and have your test done.... if there is a next time,, then be insistent that your pardner wears a condom,,,,

good luck....

did you have an HIV and STD test? If not I suggest you do it right away.
How old is this man? and how old are you?
You have to give as much relevant info as possible, so those who have been through it can help you.
I think he was an older man who just wanted to have a fling with a younger chick and did not give a **** about her.
I may be wrong, because I don't have all the info. You can reach me at va3jrj@yahoo.ca and fill me in. I promise I will not be judgemental, but fair.

OMG,,dear.
Speaking as a woman,you did what you needed to do to protect yourself.
You always wanted him to wear protection,and because he did not like it,you finally give in to him and not using one.
Men who do not wish to use proection,is a walking disease.You do not know who his last partner was,let alone,he does not know who your`s was.
If I were you,go to a doctor,gey YOURSELF checked out,you need to take care of you first,after than you relaize you do not have anything(hoping) than keep those men you are with to wear protectoin,stick to your guns,if men don`t want to use them,than move on to your next man who will.
Not only do us women need to protect ourselves,men need to do same.
Take care

First of all I am not going to lecture you. I thought I was the most upright "wait for marriage" guy on the earth until one girl finally broke me. Only after a month or so we were not using one either. By the grace of God (literally) go I because it turns out she had sex with more people than she had admitted to, so I have been there. The reason you (and me) fall for the people who use us is because in our minds (I'm educated guessing about you here) we equate sex and love. We don't want to hurt any ones feelings and make them think we think they are dirty. We don't want to do anything to risk losing that affection.
I suspect that you already know the answer to your question. Go have a AIDS test, right. The real reason you posted this question is because you want to know how someone you cared about could use you like this and brush you off, and then leave you to worry about your health. Don't give up sex to these people. It sounds so cliche to say "wait for marriage" but this is why they (and God) say this. Sex involves powerful emotions, particularly for girls. Don't ever let another person trample on them again. I know I never will.

First get tested yourself. If he is not calling back you can find out for yourself and if you are clean you do not have to contact him again. I hope for your sake you are not infected. It is a sensative subject but you have to face the fact that you allowed this to happen. In the heat of passion people do stange things. Clear your mind by getting tested. Let's hope you are not.
Mikeypio