My son's mom died when he was an infant, but I still can't get over it to this day, do I need therapy?

My son's mom died when he was 3 years old of hiv infection from a blood transfusion. The sad part about it is that it wiped her out in like 7 months. She needed the transfusion for medical resons, and later found out the blood she was getting was infected with hiv virus. She didin't kast long after that. my son barely remembers being around her, but remembers her through videos, and her pictures. Even to this day I can't get over it. She loved our son, she was a sweet lady, a business woman, and she should still be here. My son is 15 years old now, but he is sometimes like the parent being that sometimes I can't eat or even bath myself because I lapse into emotional weak like states. I just get weak sometimes, he honestly has to bathe at times, and administer my nutrition to me. Sometimes I just wake up from my sleep crying and he comforts me. He acts more like my father than i do to him. he is a sweet gentle kid, but I can't go on this way making myself sick. Advice.

Please get help for you and your son. Let a therapist get through the layers that you have put up over the years.

I am sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you.

Yes it does sound like you do need therapy but know that you will never truly get over it but enough to live your life again. Just think of your son and how he needs you.

Im very sorry to hear about this. You should go to theraphy asap. There is nothing wrong with seeing a consoulor. It would be the best option for you and will make things better. God bless you. I hope things will get better for you.

Man, I feel for you. Sounds like you definitely need some help as this is really ruining your life - and your son's life. There is a hotline that I've heard about that can connect you up with a person that just might be able to help you -- and your son. The number for the hotline is 1-800-help-4-yu. I've heard of others who have had huge emotional set-backs and have been able to pull through. This # can also direct you to therapists who can probably help you ease the emotional traumas you that are breaking you down. I wish you luck, man.

Hi J and welcome to Y!A
I am sad about your loss. Time doesn't heal all wounds, but you do need to address this situation for your own sake and that of your son. Along with the loss of your wife, you carry this tremendous feeling in your heart that what happened was so unfair. You probably feel very much jaded and that you haven't been given the chance to live with her and your son as a complete family. Please I gently ask you to seek professional guidance to recover from it. Do it for yourself and your son. It's time he gets his daddy back.
Wishing you both the best. Take care.

Awww Jelly, i am so sorry for your loss. I really do not know what to say. I am sure that if anything happened to my child's father i would be the same as you. i know i would never get over loosing him! But what i do know is that you need help to deal with your loss. Time does NOT heal all wounds, especially such deep ones. Just keep looking, there is help available for people in your state of mind...