Is wrong to sleep with my boyfriend if he doesn't know i have HIV?

I've been seeing this guy for a while but he doesn't yet know i am HIV positive. We've been sleeping together and i've been careful, is there any need to tell him?

can aids really get in through my botty?

if you are asking, then I think that you really want to tell him, you just need some re-assurance that it is the right things to do. and I feel that YES 100% you should tell him. then it is up to him not you to continue the relationship or the sexual encounters. if he loves you then maybe he will be able to accept it, and realize that for the moment it does not change who you are. He may accept it, on the condition that he get a test done and that nothing sexual between you both happens until the results are back in, just to be sure. it is going to be hard, but you need to explain everything to him. the fact that you did not want to hurt him, or fear that he may leave you, and you really like being with him, and that you have been careful with him.
But YES you should tell him 100%.
just swallow the bullet, and do it. what is the worst thing that could happen? he could leave you, and you are in no worse of a situation than you were before you both got together anyhow.

I am not trying to be mean here, but WHAT IN GOD's NAME are you doing??????????? You are "being careful", HIV is a VERY serious disease. You ARE putting his life in danger. I am sorry that you have to have this and deal with the reality BUT that does not entitle you to put others at risk. You need to be honest with this person and he needs to get checked ASAP. I am so disappointed that you would choose to be this cruel, I hope you will have a change of heart and correct your actions, hopefully you have not sentenced him to death!

I think you should do that right ...

Do unto others what you would want to be treated...

I remember I was about to have sex with this one girl and she told me to wash my hands and dont touch me down there ( In short she told me she had STD and I should not have sex with her)

There were many many girls in my life but to this day she is my hero -- God Bless Her whereever she is today ...

( I do bash women sometimes but I recognize her to be the one who was a decent person )

Tell him !

Yes. Put yourself in his position. Wouldn't you want to know?

By the way, if he gets infected and finds out that you gave him HIV, then you can go to jail. It's equivalent to murder according to the law.

It is absolutely unethical to have sex with someone without disclosing your HIV/AIDS status.

YES tell him did u like it when u got hiv because the person didnt tell u It is wrong for u to keep that from him and u know it is.. I think ur just looking for some one to say no dont tell him as long as u use protection but I really dont think that is goin to happen so tell him he has a right to know

He wants to play? Then he needs to pay for the condoms.
Just, have safer sex. It is better right?

Or maybe you could just focus your private life on all things oral.

Also, I heard enemas help reduce the amount of AIDS\HIV in your anus. So be sure to douche your anus. Make it nice and clean. No one wants to smell fecal matetr when they have an erection

Of course you should tell him! What the hell is so wrong with you that you're potentially transmitting a deadly disease to him and not being honest? Good grief. If this isn't a joke, you need to grow up and stop having sex with him until you're smart and responsible enough to be honest.

It's a very good idea that you do let him know before things get any further. It's unfair and selfish to withhold such important health information. Not saying you are, but make sure he and any other guy you think you could get intimate with knows.

Yes it's wrong. If you really like him then you should care about what's best for him. You don't want him to contract HIV and go through the hardships you may face. No matter how careful you are he can still get HIV.

Are you CRAZY?! Hell yes it's wrong!!! What is the matter with you?! You should have told him from the very beginning. How do you think he's going to feel if he finds out he have it one day? You could go to jail for that.

YES OF COURSE THERE IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is the right thing to do. How would you feel if you gave it to him? He has the right to know and you NEED to tell him!! Put yourself in his shoes.. wouldn't you want to know?

You have to tell him. What if the condom broke or something. you could never forgive yourself. You are putting in jepordy someone elses life. You know deep in your heart what to do.

Imagine yourself in his shoes, you'd want to know, right?. Don't be selfish by endangering his health with giving him the opportunity to make his own decision about the situation.

no dont tell him he will just overreact and he might brake up with you

yes because in some states you can go to prison for not telling someone you slept with that you have an STD!!!

Yes there is a need. I don't think you like secrets being kept from you. I know I don't personally. So tell him, Even if he dumps you... Then yol were never meant to be.

Are you an IDIOT??? Yes you should have told him from the jump - just like someone never told you - that's how this **** is an epidemic and will never be cured b/c of idiots like this!!!!!!!

Yes defiantly.

Of course you need to tell him. You are playing with his life without him knowing it.

That is a VERY big deal YES you should have told him LONG before you started having sex with him!!!! Don't you know people go to jail for sh*t like that!!!

NO **** ITS WRONG! WTF? How do you think he'd feel if you passed it on to him?? And there's a very high possibility you can so please dont put his life in danger because of something stupid...

you are a dumb *** this is why HIV and STD and AIDS is spreading you need yo tell him NOW so he can go get tested!!!

Um, yeah-what the hell are you thinking? No offense, but you must not be b/c that is really unfair of you.

FFS !! FOKIN TELL HIM BEFORE YOU BOTH DIE OF HiV YOU BASTARD !!

What the **** is wrong with you? YES TELL HIM!!!!!!!

I bet the other guy you slept with didn't tell you.

YES!!!! And ILLEGAL! Courts call it Murder in MS.

OMG DAMN... DO BOTH OF YOUR A FAVOR AND JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE AFFECTED. PLEASE DONT BE A BUTTHOLE!

Are you gay? YOU SHOULD OF TOLD HIM ALOT LONGER AGO! You absolute MORON!

r u gay or a girl?


either way u are ******* up his life, he will probably come shoot you when he finds out.