How do you cope with being gay?

I've been out since I was 15. My Dad caught me and a guy together, but he didn't care about me being gay. I was even the president of the GSA at my high school. Now I go to college in a different state. I'm a pretty normal guy, not obviously gay, pretty bad fashion sense, I just happen to like guys. I'm a Mechanical Engineering major but I took a few Biology classes for fun. I keep on thinking about how being gay could fit in to the scheme of things in a biological sense. The more I think about it, the more I feel there is something outright wrong with me. I feel like I have some awkward disease. To make things worse, I feel like I have no one I can talk to. I tried to explain it to my best friend, but he doesn't get it because he's straight.

I also hate how hard it is to find guys. The numbers just do not stack up in favor of gay guys. If the estimate is 10% of the population is gay. Then you subtract the guys over 30, aren't completely retarded, are HIV positive, are sluts, are addicted to drugs, and ones that don't find YOU attractive, you get like a small fraction of a percentage of even possible guys. Now the even harder part of being in the right place to meet them just makes it that much worse.

How do I come to terms with this? thoughts?

Well, first off, being gay pretty much sucks. You've hit all the problems with it. It's a very difficult lifestyle we live, but it's not like we have a choice. What you need to learn is that you don't find happiness with someone else, you have to find happiness within yourself. Learn to be comfortable and happy on your own so you're not just begging for a guy to come and sweep you off your feet. Good things come to those who wait, so just wait for the right man. But, meanwhile, you don't want to be unhappy so find things that make you feel complete without a partner. To make your chances greater of finding a partner, try going to some gay bars, be open about your sexuality so people know and can maybe introduce you to some gay friends or family members. I know how hard it is, just don't let it get you down, k?!

I look on the bright side. I have my friends, and I make new friends all the time. I really don't care if I have a relationship or not (even though I would like one) because I have my friends and family. :D

I came out when I was 13 after 2 years of being in the closet, I didn't want my parents to find out. My Mom was worse about it than my Dad, but she's a Christian so lets just say it's not her fault. I lost nearly all my middle school friends but I made new ones so I moved on and being a gay Freshman in high school is actually the greatest thing ever!

oh yeah, I live in Tennessee and that SUCKS!

i agree with you completely on how hard it is...but i like the way you think...you see things clearly like myself...but i'm wondering what your dad said to you once he found you sleeping around like that...i don't know what my dad would say if something like that happened to me...lol...i love my dad he's amazing...anyway one way you cope is just to focus on your career more than focusing on the men...put your passion in what you love to do rather than putting your passion into finding a guy...then when you least expect it the right one may come along...but if he doesn't who cares because you're enjoying your life in what you do anyway right? Focus on doing well in life and doing good to people...to me that's more rewarding...and you'll get more out of life by doing so...penises aren't everything ya know...they don't last forever...and live goes on.