My dream guy has come along, but he is HIV positive?

I don't know what to do, i want to have sex with him, but am scared to, and i can't tell my parents, i never told them i was gay (30 and in the closet, i am so ashamed), anyway, i don't want to hurt his feelings, and he is everything i ever wanted in a guy.

What should i do?

I'm 30 yrs old and have been with my partner almost 6 yrs now. He is HIV+ and I am still HIV-. This was a very hard decision to make 6 yrs ago. He too was/is the man of my dreams. I say follow your heart and be safe.

If you love him then you should be with him just practice safe sex. You shouldn't be ashamed of your feelings you don't choose who your attracted to it just is what it is. Be grateful that you have met someone you care about because those types of relationships are rare to find and we need to hold on to them when we do find them. If you decide you can't be pysical with him maybe try and keep a platonic relationship. Good luck.

if you do it, use a condom. it's still not safe, though. there's always room for accidents. and get tested regularly.
discuss this with him, and let him know that you really want to have sex with him, and tell him that you're scared as well.
it shouldn't hurt his feelings. he should want to keep you safe, too.
and remember that there are a lot of other gay men around. you don't have to commit right yet.
also, come out to your parents. it will make you feel so much better if you can be open about your sexuality.

I would suggest either not having penetrative sex with this guy or making careful use of condoms, and getting tested regularly.

I know it's hard, but you should try hard to come out, you'll feel so much better when you can be open about your sexuality, and open about your relationship with this guy, which there is no reason for why it should not be a happy one.

Good luck.

HIV, sadly, is common now. But, luckily we have been educated enough to know how to take proper precautions when being around something like that. Look up all you can on dating HIV+ people and you will learn a lot.

I have never been in a situation like this, and honestly, i don't know what i would do if the situation did present itself. It is scary to go into it but, like said, as long as you're careful, you should be fine.

Don't share razors or anything that could transfer the virus
Use condoms, etc.

if u think it's worth it then go ahead if your not sure then don't bother because you'll act funny around him and he'll notice thats when the problems start.me personally i would'nt i know sooooooooo many ppl infected i would'nt put myself through that 4 ne1 i value my life more that a bit of u know what

run, run like hell.. no one is worth the possibility of getting aids. Even if you use protection and are really careful, eventually an accident is going to happen, think about your whole life ahead of you..there are plenty of gay men in the sea XD

Sucks.

A gay relationship does not always have to involve anal sex. If you 'need' it with this guy then use a condom if he is the one. He has feelings too and may not want to put you at risk by doing this.

Come out...

if you really love him, then it shouldnt matter..

However, always use protection and be as safe as possible please

If you love him, you have to keep him around...

use protection. It's worth it.

KILL YOURSELF?

Its always an option.
If you dont want to do that, go shag a sheep.

Normally does the trick.

talk to him people are living longer with hiv and you decide to do something be safe

well, the best thing to do is remain positive.

use a condom
and get tested after
and come out :)
they need to know