What to do about hiv+ ex-boyfriend who stopped taking his meds?

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up 7 years ago (we were together for 3 years). Even though we broke up I have continued to help him financially through the years (and let him live with me from time to time) whenever he had money problems. His financial troubles are mostly a result from his refusal to live within his means. Even though he doesn't make much money I think he can live on what he makes.

He found out he was positive 3 years ago and since then I have been paying for his meds because he never seems to have any money and threatens to stop taking them if he has to sacrifice other things (e.g. getting less expensive apt and car).

He keeps saying he has lost the will to live and wants to die.
I told him I can't pay for his meds a few weeks ago when he ran out and he has been off of them since.

I have tried to convince him to get help (eg join support group, counseling, financial assistance for meds) but he refuses.

What should I do??

Sadly, there is not much you can do if he refuses to help himself. You have been a very supportive friend. Is there a way you can contact his parents. Perhaps they can talk some sense into him, and help him with his depression. I would not give him any more money, if he continues to spend it on non-necessities. Also, suggest he seek counseling.

You might want to also make an appointment with a counselor for yourself. It seems like you need to work through some stuff, too.

u should get him to get help and go along with him to the sessions. also u need to get yourself checked for hiv since u were with him because u may not be just helping him now, u will be helping yourself.

He's an adult. He has made his choice. If he's a good guy, he knows that whatever awaits him is God's will. If he doesn't want to live, why force him? There may be peace on the other side finally.

Let him stand on his own. You've done all you can do.

I hope your not having sex with him, you will get it too. Just tell him to screw off and keep a ficken job and pay his own bills.

he is not your responsibility, does he have family? some people dont want to live. that is selfish and lazy but some people are just like that. he should make the best of his life while he can. try contacting family that can take care of him , but you are right he should dump the car or other luxury to take care of his health.

wow you suck, really. you are the reason he stopped taking his meds. he kows no matter how hard his life gets he can always rely on you to pick up the pieces which you are doing right now by asking this question, I want to know when people will start being responsible for themselve. if he doesn't want to take his meds so what you are not his mommy. if he doesnt know how tolive within his means so what don't be a a door mat which is what it sounds like you are. there is a saying " give a man a fish feed him today, teach a man how to fish feed him for life."

He's being a total moocher, you can't keep supporting him! It seems as if you still have strong romantic feelings for him or else you wouldnt allow him to take over your life like he is. You need to kick him out and tell him that you can't cover for him anymore. Of course this doesnt mean you have to stop being his friend, be honest with him and try to make him understand that he needs to take his medication! i know this will result in alot of fighting and bitterness, but if you truly care about him, lie i suspect you do, then you will do this.

There's nothing you can do. He was just using you, and you fell for it hook, line, and sinker. Now it's time to break the fishing line. Actually, you should have never cast it in the first place, but, what's done is done.
He'll get financial help when he wants it. Get yourself checked out for HIV or AIDS. You don't know how long it stayed dormant before he got checked out. It could have been 10 years or so.