Scared of marriage?

i'm a female ,but am scared of marriage,ive had bad marriages in my family and the thought of getting married to an evil guy petrifies me.ive never dated or being in a relationship,but theres lot of pressure from my family on me to get married,but am really nervous,i feel ,that after the intial honymoon period ,what if my husband turns into some savage monster or he turns out to be a rapist or a child molester,or an hiv positive(,although ppl who are suffering from such illness i wish them health)but im really worried,sometimes i think i should stay a spinister all my life,then i get all sorts of freaky thoughts,my experiance with men is very limited,im so confused.im 23.

You're only 23 -- there's TONS of time to enjoy life and figure out who YOU are before trying to create a life with someone else. Family pressure can be intense sometimes, but the truth is, lots of women are waiting until their late 20s or early 30s to get married. By then, you know who you are, what you want, and are less willing to settle for less than you deserve.

For the next couple years, do something to make yourself happy. Go to college -- or find a master's program if you already have a degree. Travel and work abroad; if you're under 25, you can usually get a student work visa for Europe or Australia. Get out, meet new people, have new experiences. You'll find out more about yourself and who you want to be. When you're happy with yourself and love who you are, great people are drawn to you.

You're young, and aren't tied down. This is the time to really go for your dreams. Best of luck to you!!

You are only 23 you have plenty of time to work past your issues on marrriage and if you don't ever get married it's not the end of the world.

You feel this way because you haven't found anybody you can love and trust yet.
When you find someone, take your time and get to know him and don't rush into marriage.
You will know if he's a good guy or not. It's called gut feeling.
For now try not to dwell on it and enjoy life. It would be a shame to waste it worrying about something that may never happen.

No one can be sure that your future will be as sweet as before marriage, that's why you are given sometime to find out more about him during courtship.