My Husband had a one nite stand along time ago before we got together and now he has a disbaled child?

Well the little girl is 5 years old she cant talk and she doesnt know how to respond or play with other kids. I know she has a serious problem and her mom says it is a phase which i think is bull crap. I want to do the right thing and try to help but she is acting really stupid right now and doesnt think anything is wrong. The lil girl hasnt started school yet and i think she is being abused in that household. They have 7 people living in a 2 bedroom apartment. The mother is hiv positive and is preg again. No my husband doesnt have it she got it from one of the guys she was messing with. The mother doesnt want my husband to have anything to do with the child she filed child support a year ago on him and he paid and like 2 months ago she took it off so he wouldnt have any visitation rights. Its a long story and this aint even the half of it . Im considering calling cps on the mother because i feel she is negiting that child we went to her house and it was dirty. Should i call cps on her

i feel that if i dont something about this no one else will even though she isnt my child me and my husband have 2 kids together. that means she has sibling she will never know about. Also the mothers boyfriend doesnt want us to be apart of her life he says he can be her father. When she filed child support on my husband and a dna test was done and she is his. i think the little girl is being negleted the mother is never home and the boyfriend is always playing video games. My husband wants to establish a relationship with his daughter and they refuse to let it happen. I believe im going to file a report to cps to get her away from that situation

I am the mother of a disabled and terminally ill child. If you suspect the little girl is being neglected (neglect is not intentional) or abused (abuse is intentional) then please call CPS and have them look into it. There are so many disabled children/adults that dont have the voice to speak out and are being harmed daily. If your husband truely wants to do what is best for his daughter regardless of her disablity he should seek custody wont be to hard to find the mother unfit seeing as there are 7ppl living in a 2 bedroom apartment, its dirty and the mom has HIV (shortened life expencity) but if you gain custody please do not put the child away in a nursing or care facility as a mom of a disabled child I view that as abuse.

I see everyone saying "have a DNA test done to make sure "its" his" DNA or not if the child is being neglected or abused you should still call. Did you know in many states if you suspect neglect or abuse and you do not call and something happens to the child you can be held and charged for failure to report abuse?

Since the child id your husbands, you should discuss it with him first. If your husband wants to be an active part in his daughters life, then HE should be the one to call the police and everything, since it is HIS daughter.. unless the child is completly and utterly being abused and neglected, i dont think it is your place to say anything.

Yes you should call the cops on her.. At least they can go in and see what is going on.. The daughter deserves better!

Yes you should call - and FYI - support has NOTHING to do with visitation rights!

Your husband should get a court ordered DNA test done to prove paternity - and then he should file for custody of this child.

In Illinois, regardless of support or not, it is ILLEGAL for anyone to interfere with visitations.

if i was u i would call cps.it defintley sounds like something isnt right.

you deff should call cps.
that lady is not taking care of her children and if care is not takin may effact them with hiv!

Good luck
- NR

Well you sound like you have good intentions knowing that this child was a product of your husband (i'm not sure if it was a one night stand before you were in the picture or not) anyways, alot of women are jealous and treat the kids from previous relationships like crap.........i speak from experience as once being that child,,,If you truely want to help this chld and you believe in your heart that she is being neglected which is a form of abuse.......just know that if she gets taken away she will more than likely be placed in your home since your husband is her father...I hope that you can love her and care for like she needs and always know that she is innocent. She did not ask to be born in these circumstances and doesn't need more abuse from you. May God bless you and your family :)

have a DNA test done to make sure she is his first, then call who ever you have to, to make sure she is not being abused

I don't mean this in a bad way, but it sounds like you are trying to fix a problem that is not yours. It's your husband's and yes you guys are as one, but this is not your problem, and trying to fix it may backfire. I understand your concern, and you have every right to be, but your husband should make this call, whether it's a call to do nothing at all or if it's a call to call cps. All I am saying is when you mess with a mother, and her child no matter how bad the situation is, it's like a lion over her cubs, she will strike back, and not necessarily in a physical way. My mom had some issues, and my step-mom tried to help and I needed the help, but when ever my step-mom tried to help it's as though my mom wanted to go for the jugular so all I am saying is let your husband handle it because remember cps is not always the best thing either. They take kids from their homes split them up from their brothers and sisters, and sometimes put them in a home worst off then where they were because someone is just looking for a check. Leave it alone trust me.

I would not call the cops, I would call the Office Of Child And Family Service, because you have a reasonable cause to suspect that the child is being abuse, you dont have concrete proof but you do have a reasonable cause to suspect. Tell them what you know, you can remain anonymous, or you can give them your name, if you call them with your suspicions they will make an unannounced visit because the call was made. That is the procedure in the State of New York, but again if you have a reasonable cause to suspect that she is being abused, then make the call for the sake of the child. If your husband wants visitation, then he can take her to court and file for custody as well. Good luck and keep me posted