Married to a man who has cheated on me over and over again and has a child with one of the women.Should I him?

My hubby cheated on me over and over again and eventually had a child with one of the women. He is now HIV positive and this has taken its toll on me especially when he discovred that my HIV status was negative. I have met someone new via internet and despite being 7 yrs younger he is great and has great plans for us. Should I giv myself another chance in life or stay where I am. This young man makes me feel complete and seems to find a way to my children's hearts; I have 3 girls aged 7, 12 and 16. Am 36 and he is 29.

You definitely need to get out of the relationship you are in. It is unhealthy for you AND your children. Their father is not setting a good example for them, whether they know about his infidelity or not (they eventually will find out). You are lucky that you have not tested positive for HIV, however, do NOT believe that you are out of the woods. HIV can be dormant for a long time before it shows up on a test. And you can still pass it on even if you don't know you have it. You should get tested again 6 months and a year after your initial test to be sure you are not infected.
As far as the other man is concerned, I definitely think you should take it VERY slowly. You need to end the relationship you are in and let your children and yourself heal before you jump into a new relationship. If you have found a friend on the internet who makes you feel better about yourself, that is wonderful, but you should keep it at that for now. Don't allow yourself to be swept into a new relationship at such a difficult time in your life, you won't get the real boost of confidence you need which only comes from realizing your own self worth. Once you have ended your current relationship and are on your own two feet and supporting your children, then you can see where this new relationship takes you. Ultimately though, you are the one in this situation and only you know what is right for you and your children. As far as the age difference, who cares!? Seven years isn't that big a difference in my book.

You need to go right NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

You said cheated over and over again. What kept you from leaving him then? Was it because he was the breadwinner? What has changed? He being HIV? Finding someone younger is NOT the real answer. The question should be, "are you really willing to leave your "two timing husband" for good because he is a cheater AND NOT because you found someone of your own. Remember, the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence ...until you get there. Leave him if you must because he cheated on you not because of any other reason. Only you can decide.

You owe it to yourself to have a better life. This situation is very unfortunate given your husband's HIV status, but he did that to himself. Talk it over with your girls and see what they think. If they agree that you should be happier, arrange a civil visitation arrangement with the father and move on.

However, before doing so, check out your new love interest as well. Make sure he is mentally, emotionally, and financially intact. There are a lot of things a person does not reveal over the airways. And make it clear to him that you're a package--accept you AND your girls or nothing at all.

Last, do not feel guilty for wanting to be happy. If you think you don't deserve it, then you have a lot bigger problems than a roaming husband.

If this new man makes you feel complete and respects you and loves you then go for it. I would be careful when dealing with someone over the internet. I almost think that you have made up your mind already and you are just wanting people to give you approval. You don't need our approval, do you? Do what is in your heart. Don't forget that even though your happiness is inportant, your children are number one priority. So maybe you should ask them if you should give this new guy a try.

Your husband cheated on you multiple times, and you are SO lucky you didnt get HIV from him. I'd say leave him and take your chances with a man who thinks he can be faithful and a good father to your children.
Just remember that this will be a weird situation for your daughters, especially if you are going to date a man who is younger than you. Good luck, i hope you find happiness with this guy!

~*~Men only want one thing. Be carefull especially if you have kids. Dont leave him alone wit him. Remember, dont trust any 1. <3.

once a cheater always a cheater. Dumb the old your hubby and move on.

You are co-dependant. You deserve to be treated with respect. Get some counseling and mabye, someday you will love yourself enough to leave.

I am very sorry to hear about this unfortunate turn of events. When people marry (for the most part) they are in love and sincerely believe in their spouses fidelity. I understand how hard it can be to leave someone, especially when you have kids, so it is easier said than done. I think this new guy could prove to be a great facilitator for change. In other words take it veeeerrrrry slowly and first make peace with leaving your husband before getting into something else so fast. History has a way of repeating itself. I have two daughters and I am very apprehensive about dating new men because I dont want them around my girls...Love youself, love your girls and a great guy will be attracted to that

Run as fast as you can . . . and divorce his cheating ***.

Do you want HIV and die . . . no

Do it for the sake of your children . . .

Get your kids out and go!!!!!! NOW!!!!!!!! HURRY!!!!!!! Are you gone yet?????

it sounds like he has ruined you life giving u hiv but if u love him maybe give him another try. but you should look at the fact he cheated on u so many times. and another thing your children should come first so maybe talk to them about what they think of the two men

I think that you should go. You stood by him through everything he put you through and now look what position he put himself in. God don't like ugly, he did wrong not u and you shouldn't have to pay for what he did. He wasn't thinking about you or his children so it's about time u make urself happy

I honeslty can relate to your question. My ex husband cheated on me many times over had a child with one of them.
I felt lost and hurt he beat at my selfesteem. I have 3 children with this man, I left him and found love in a younger man who love me and my children. Now my exhusband has HIV and HEP. C. I've gotten myself checked this will be my 5th time cause HIV can take 6 months- 5years to show in your system. Go with your heart think of your kids, they were hurt too !!!!

Leave and never look back!