Advice please?

So, I have a friend who is gay (I didn't know at first, but he told me) but we joke around and have a great time. He's lives in Vermont but he's moving to Florida. I was giving him some advice a couple weeks ago in reference to "protecting himself" etc, because going from a state like Vermont to a city in Florida may leave himself susceptible to bad people, STD's and other things. Not that those things aren't here in Vermont, but they are in more volume in more populated places.
Anyway, I'm also real close friends with his mom. His mom told me a secret and told me not to tell him, which is that he is HIV positive. Now I feel bad for having the whole "protect yourself" conversation. I even went as far as to tell him how some people are sick and don't tell you when you have sex with them...not knowing at the time he's sick.
I feel bad, I can't tell him I know, but I want to apologize some kind of way. I was also joking with him about the recent South Park where Cartman had HIV.

I would have never joked with him about that South Park had I known he was HIV positive or at least unless we had that type of relationship to joke about that.

You didn't know. So, you really have nothing to feel bad about, I think. You are his friend and you showed your love and compassion by taking the time to educate him. I think he probably knows how you feel about him. I bet in time, he will tell you, then you can apologize, if you feel the need.

Don't be too down on yourself. You are a wonderful person and never meant any harm.

Just let it go, and don't feel bad. If he wanted you to know he would have told you. Still, be his friend, don't bring it up again, and hug him good bye from me, twice please, I'm a hug whore,

:)

wow that is tough. how can she hold back this kind of information unless he already know.

I would just drop the chat about STDs to him and talk about other things.

(EDIT: I misread the question, so I'm reanswering.)

Simply be supportive of him and I'm sure he'll know and be able to handle things when the time is right. I would subtly hint at his need for proper protection during sexual activity though.

(ANOTHER EDIT)

You never stated whether or not your friend knows he has HIV. I think that's an important piece of information for us to help you out.

wow wow , sweetie....
you feel bad, but how much worse are you going to feel,
when he finds out his mom told you, when it is supposed to
be secret? You don't want to cause a rift between them!

i would leave it alone....
you are trying to alleviate your feelings of guilt, which is
not a bad thing, but in the process of making yourself feel better, actually would make it worse.

if he's a good friend, he knows you are saying things in innocence...because you care...and regardless of his HIV status, he DOES need to protect himself!

Peace.

The only thing I can say is, don't tell him you know. He probably doesn't want you to know. Did he act strange when you were giving him this advise? That South Park ep. really made me mad, until the end. They do know how to get a point across don't they?

Because you did not know he was sick when you talked about those things, you shouldn't feel bad. If you are a true friend (and it sounds like you are) you should be able to talk to him/her. Everything happens for a reason and although he doesn't know you know, saying what you said may have instilled something in him and you may have just saved someones life. Believe it or not, what we say does get heard even if you don't get a response.

I would just drop it. If his mom told you in confidence it's because he doesn't really want people to know, so , first, she shouldn't have told you, and second, you'll only embarrass him more if you make a comment about it. Go on as if you'd never had that conversation with him, and don't worry about it.

you didn't know, don't feel bad: if he was offended or something I'm sure he'd have told you

now, if you're going to apologize, he may realize you know... it may not be a good idea, just let it go *hugs*