Can someome give a good reasonable answer? tell them if you are only going to have sex, otherwise its no ones business I wouldn't bring it up unless it's a date you're on...... but for everyday people....... they have no reason to know unless you feel comfortable enough to tell them. Your HIV status isn't relevant unless you are in a situation in which you can infect someone else.
If you are having sex with someone, he/she should be told. If you expose someone to your blood, that person should be told. It really isn't relevant for anyone else (besides the fact that they are trying to be nosy).
There's not really a "good reasonable answer" that I can think of because if you answer "yes," a person knows; if you answer "no," you'd be lying - but does that matter to you or a person who doesn't need to know anyway?
If you provide an answer that isn't "yes" or isn't "no," the person can deduce that the answer is "yes" because a person who is negative would just say no; a person who is trying to avoid answering yes would ask "why do you want to know" or "why is that your business" or "why are you asking" etc.
So, this is a tough one. Without ever having been in that situation before, I can't really provide a great answer; hopefully, someone who knows first-hand will better be able to help you. Well first I want to congratulate that person for their honesty because I know that is a hard thing for that person to do epecially depending on who they have to tell. They have to consider this person's personality. Are they the loud and emotional type who will make a scene? Or are they quiet and calm? They should pick a location that's serene like somewhere by a lake or beach or maybe even a pier. I don't know why but somewhere where there is going to be water always seem best when sharing some bad news because water seems to have a calming effect. I know they don't want to just come right out and say "I got HIV",they should start it off with general small talk but not overly done because they got to remember that they brought that person there for a reason and if the small talk is going on too long,they might lose their nerves. Also they need to consider if this person that they are about to tell is the insensitive or sensitive type. Is this person known to gossip or will they keep it to themselves? Because a gossiper will tell everybody in town. But if is someone they plan on getting intimate with or have been intimate with,they have a right to know. I hope all goes well with this person and that they live a long and healthy life, dont tell no because they will start to treat u very differently. Only if ur going to have sex tell ur partner Hi there,
Disclosing status to anyone is not an easy thing to do. As with most things, it does get easier with time. In a number of circumstances you will find yourself trying to balance honesty with protecting your right to privacy.
Whom do you feel you need to tell? Is there someone you want to tell, but aren't sure what or how much to say? Is there anyone you feel that you must tell like a spouse, a partner, or perhaps someone whom you've been dating? What about informing any sex partners you've been with about your status? Perhaps you're having surgery or you're going to be seeing a dentist. Do you have to advise these or other healthcare providers that you're HIV positive? Do they have a legal right to ask you about HIV status or to deny you care if you are HIV positive? Are there any circumstances when you're legally required to disclose that you're HIV positive?
Along with the many thoughts and feelings you will experience while coming to terms with HIV infection, these are some of the questions and concerns that may arise with respect to disclosing your HIV status. As with so many of the issues about HIV, or many important life decisions, there are no absolute answers that are right for everyone.
It takes time to adjust to being HIV positive. With that in mind, it's a good idea to not rush into disclosing your status without first giving it some thought. Wanting to share this knowledge with someone else is a perfectly natural reaction, especially when it's new to you and you're feeling overwhelmed, vulnerable, and uncertain about your life and your future. The reality is that people with HIV need to be selective about disclosing. They need to be selective about who they tell and when they tell them. This process of selection often involves uncertainty and can sometimes be an anguishing experience.
That old fashioned maxim, "easy does it" is a good approach to consider when thinking about disclosure. Even if you've been living with HIV for a while, you'll likely find situations continuously arising in which you may be forced to think about having to disclose your HIV status. Wanting to tell family members, employers, fellow employees, and friends is very natural. However, the truth of the matter is that it can also create new problems for you. Over the past twenty years of the HIV epidemic, there have been some significant improvements in the general public's awareness about and understanding of HIV issues. Unfortunately, there's still a stigma attached to the whole subject of HIV and to those who have it. Yes, there is more understanding and wider acceptance than in the past, but unsympathetic and prejudicial reactions are still not uncommon in some families, in the workplace, and in social situations.
You don't have to tell everyone. The choice is yours about whom to tell. Be selective.
Be sure to consider the five "W's" when thinking about disclosure: who, what, when, where and why. Who do you need to tell? What do you want to tell them about your HIV infection, and what are you expecting from the person you are disclosing your HIV status to? When should you tell them? Where is the best place to have this conversation? Why are you telling them?
Easy does it. In most situations, you can take your time to consider who to tell and how to tell them.
Consider whether there is a real purpose for you to tell this person or if you are simply feeling anxious and want to "dump" your feelings.
Telling people indiscriminately may affect your life in ways you haven't considered.
Having feelings of uncertainty about disclosing is a very common reaction in this situation.
You have a virus. That doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. You don't have anything to apologize for simply because you are HIV positive.
Keep it simple. You don't have to tell the story of your life.
Avoid isolating yourself about your status. If you are still not able to tell close friends, family members or other loved ones about your HIV status, allow yourself to draw upon the support and experience available to you, through organized groups in the HIV community. Consider the AIDSmeds.com community forums for example.
There's no perfect roadmap for how to disclose. Trust your instinct, not your fears.
Whatever the response you receive in a specific situation, and even if it doesn't go the way you'd hoped, you're going to survive it and your life will go on.
Millions of others have dealt with this experience and have found their way through it. You will get through it too.
Choosing whom to tell or not tell is your personal decision. It's your choice and your right.
Hope this helps.
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