What do you say when someone tells you they are HIV Positive?

If they were a family member or a dear friend I would:

ask if they were already on meds, are they seeing a councilor, have they joined a support group, etc. I would ask them if they needed me to help them in any way. I would remind them that it isn't necessarily a death sentence, and that they still have much to offer the world. I would give them a hug and tell them that it doesn't change the way I feel about them.

If they were a lover I would:

Get tested right away, ask them when they found out about it, pray that I don't have it, have an anxiety attack..etc.....

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ok and......

Just be supportive. If they're your friend, let them know you're there for them if they want to talk.

That you are sorry for them. Thank them for telling you. Then commit it to memory so you avoid potentially dangerous situations, such as if there were to get cut. You would not want to be in contact their blood.

Mostly, be supportive.

comfort them, tell them it's gonna be ok. be there for them. make sure that you never had/have any sexual contact with them. if you have, get tested ASAP.

Don't say anything. Listen and support them. It's 2006, we should all know enough about HIV not to fear it.

first, ask them WHY they are telling you this, then say EWWWWW, Way TOO much Personal Information, I DO NOT need to know this.

then ask them if they are gay.

Say, you are sorry! If they look down and out then remind them of many new better treatments HIV by itself if not a death sentence! Site cases like Magic Johnson. Advise them of their responsibilities towards their sexual partners and people they share needles with!

Wow, now that is a question. You could always start with "I'm sorry", but that seems so pathetic. If they are a good friend or relative, I would ask "What can I do" or "What do you need from me". You are going to need to trust your heart and gut on this one -- sensitive issue, be careful.

be very supportive and always be there for them no matter what .

I would say that I am so very sorry and ask about the medical care and medication he/she is undergoing? I would remind them that the newer drugs are very effective against the virus and although it won't go away, it can be kept in check. Suggest looking into nutrition advice. And tell them not to feel shame even when people who are very unkind attack. Make sure they know about any and all community support groups, even if you find them yourself.

Be honest!!!!!!!Don't feed them any crap about being sorry. If you were a real friend you would offer support and an ear to listen. If you cant deal with it let them know immediately.

maybe... r u 'positive'?... !!! :):)

ok .. on a serious note.... i would try and support him/her... would tell her its the 21st century and HIV is no longer an unknown dread-disease humans have to battle against ---- and scientifically speakin, if u are positive for HIV its not necessary u'll get AIDS.

and if the person happens to be a friend of mine i'll make sure he's aware that i'm there for him if he ever needs someone to turn to; talk to; to reassure him... in short just be there for him....or her