Is barebacking ok in a monogamous relationship?

As all gay guys know, in the gay community barebacking is a very taboo subject, and rightly so because of the enormous risk of HIV infection that gay men face.

The question for me is: Is barebacking ok in a monogamous relationship after both people have been tested for HIV (and other STD's?

I doubt that many married heterosexual couples trying anal sex use a condom for it. Is there too much stigma about barebacking in the gay community to the point that even monogamous barebacking is taboo?

I'd just like some feedback from other gays guys (or gay-friendly straights).

Thanks.

If you think about it, all straight couples with kids have done "barebacking" - if by that, we mean "doing it without a condom", and not necessarily just the anal region. After all, they need to trust that their respective partners are NOT infected with any STD's for them to allow it.

(A sad side note: There are babies who are HIV infected, which means not every person who engages in vaginal intercourse can ever be certain that their partner is 100% STD free.)

Yes, I know words like "I've never cheated, I tested last week, I'm negative" are all wonderful to hear. But we're talking safety here, and I would really advise against letting your guard down, at any time. The only person you can be sure of is yourself, if you have not engaged in extra marital sex. But you can NEVER vouch for your partner, ever.

I'm not being judgemental, I'm being factual, and above all, I'm being safe. The ONLY way you can say that it is iron clad safe is to put on a condom, period.

Yes, you can and may engage in anal sex without a condom. I just wish we didn't have those statistics about babies with STD's like HIV to contend with, because I am SURE one of the parents of that child was certain that the partner was STD free, as they were making a baby at that time.

Think about those facts. It is an unnecessary risk.

My partner and I have not used condoms with each other since after the first year. We have both been tested repeatedly, and I trust him completely. With my previous partner, in an open relationship, we did not with each other (after time and testing) but were scrupulous about doing so with others. It's a decision only you and your partner can make. It takes a lot of trust and confidence in the other person, since you are trusting them with your life. And I have known several people who were positive and did not tell their partners, who trusted them to have done so, and the partner got infected also. That said, I can't imagine having to go back to using one with my partner. It does make sex feel more intimate, and spontaneous, to not have to worry about it with him.

I agree with whomever said about your colon having germs.
EDIT:But heterosexuals do so have anal sex. I'm bi, but I've had anal with a guy, more than once. A few with no condom. The only reason for no condom was stupidity, or too much alcohol.
You could get a bad Urinary infection from fecal bacteria.
That's why women wipe from front to back.
I also worked with a gay guy who's partner was abusive, (many years ago, he's no longer with the jerk) and that abuse continued in the bedroom and my poor friend ended up with an awful intestinal infection for which he had to be hospitalized. I know that is an extreme case, but if you're not careful who knows what could happen.