HIV and AIDS- help please!!!?

okay so i have never done ANYTHING with a guy expect make out, im turning 14 soon, but my boyfriend is 15 and hes done everyhting expect had REAL sex.
he has anally had sex with guys and girls.
please i need serious answers here, not you people saying "break up with him"
im scared he may have HIV, and he told me hes going to get tested.
but what happens if he does have it?
will be ever be able to have sex? (in the future, obviouslly)
and how long would he have to live???
i know the basics, like how its spread and stuff...
but can anyone please offer me advise and helpful tips on what we would do if he ends up being HIV positive?

While you have been given some good advice in some of these answers, I feel compelled to correct Jessica (It's My Life's) answers, as she has been grossly misinformed on a few things.

Contrary to what Jessica said, 'An HIV Positive Vagina' does absolutely NOT carry a greater risk than having Anal Sex - whether it between homo or heterosexual couples. Receptive anal sex (meaning the person being penetrated) carries the highest risk for HIV transmission. The reason behind it is that there are many tiny blood vessels around the anus that can provide a clear path for transmission of the virus. This is not to say that unprotected vaginal sex is not risky - it absolutely is.

Jessica also missed the mark when she claims that saliva can spread HIV. That is completely false. There are only 4 bodily fluids that are able to transmit HIV and they are Blood, Semen, Vaginal Secretions and Breast Milk. Kissing, holding hands, hugging - these things will NOT give you HIV. They are the stigmas of the past, and it is unfortunate that there are still uninformed people who buy into these myths.

If your boyfriend does end up being HIV positive, it is not the end of the world for him. It means a change in lifestyle and becoming serious about getting and staying healthy. He'll have to make a commitment to follow a regimen of medicines for the rest of his life, and keep himself as healthy as possible by eating right and exercising. HIV is not a death sentence, and if he commits himself to doing all he can to staying healthy, he very well could live a full life and die of old age. The progression of the disease is different for everyone though, and it will be important for him to have good doctors and stay vigilant.

Best case scenario, his test comes back negative - I truly hope that for you both. However, it is important that he understands that it takes approximately 3 months for a body to start creating antibodies to HIV, and that is what any test will be looking for. Therefore, if he has engaged in any risky behaviors in the last three months, it is extremely important that he get tested now and again three months from now.

Should you decided to have sex with him, please, please, please make sure to use protection (correctly) and understand your risk. For more information on questions about how to protect yourself, Planned Parenthood has a website that is a great resource for teens - go to www.teenwire.com for diagrams and lots of info that may be helpful to you. Remember that it is your responsibility to protect yourself, no one is going to do that for you. Just say NO to unprotected sex.

Sex isn't the issue. At 14 you have your life ahead of you, if he is HIV positive, and he loves you...he will understand that you are young and he should not even put you through this. I know this is hard to understand because you want to be with him, but suppose he is...you can not tell when he will pass away, and then you will get HIV too...it is a big choice for your age! This is not me saying break up with him...this is me saying before you have sex, have a serious discussion with him.

honey there is no set standard for how long he has to live and if he has it , if you really love him your just going to have to stick it out with him go with him when he gets tested and talk to the doctors, make sure you know all the risks and including extra safety precautions you can take IF you ever plan on having sex with him again. MAKE SURE YOU ALWAYS USE PROTECTION and i know you know that but its obviously no laughing matter and if he does have it, then sex between the two of you should be the last thing yall think about.

i think u must focus on your studies baby girl.this menace eating up our society is a deadly disease ,i mean the HIV.
so if u like to live longer on this planet earth,u need to reconsider some decisions of yours.look, there are a lot of problems associated to sexual intercourse.please i hope u will take good care of yourself and will not live a reckless life because your life is valuable.if your friend should turn up positive,don't boycott him,but stay away from sex now ok ?

Don't have sex at least until you see the results of his test and always use a condom.

I wouldn't start worrying about his lifespan being HIV-positive until you know whether or not he has anything. Many STDs show no symptoms on men, but are very dangerous for women, so have him tested for the full list and then go from there.

dude turd burgels guys and girls...and you wanna hook up with him....umm sure have sex with him...thats the smart thing to do.

wow... well alot of gay sex, and gay men have HIV! Because of the sole fact of it being GAY SEX! and if he has never had vaginal intercourse, that slims the chances! An HIV positve vagina is more threatning than an HIV positve a$$! haha! But if he does happen to HIV positive, then no.... do NOT have sex with him! Not even with a condom.... its like saying here I am aids come and get me, BASICALLY! But as we all know there is yet to be a cure for aids! SORRY FOR THAT! and as far as living long, he'll live for about another 10-25 years being HIV positive! And if he sayd hes getting tested, make sure he shows you his report before you have sex with him! And keep in mind, even saliva can have aids in it!!! so dont even kiss him! UNTIL YOU KNOW FOR SURE! saliva and semen are the things to spread aids in a guy... in a girl, its any bodily fluids! I am studying to become a nurse, so trust my answer! But seriously for the sake of your health, do NOT kiss him, do not have sex with him! UNTIL YOU SEE HIS REPORT SAYING NO AIDS! And no dont break up with him! ... but just watch out, because even kissing can you aids!
I dont mean to scare you, but its this world, and this world has come to a breaking point! best wishes and I hope you the best in his answers.... I would like to find out myself, just because I keep up on my askers!

It is actually not as horrific as it may sound. There are many treatments out now that make it somewhat safe for partners with one positive person to have normal sex lives and have children. With the direction that medicine is going in as far as advancement in HIV treatment, life expectancy is very high provided he has the means to pay for the medical treatment. What happens is the HIV positive person goes on a concoction of anti-virals that lowers the virus count in their body to a level that there is a pretty low chance of speading it to their partner(not 100% of corse). They also have medicines that can even prevent an HIV positive woman from passing the virus to her baby if she is pregnant. Now that I have that out I must give you the lecture...........your boyfriend has had REAL sex.....most people would consider anal sex as real as it gets. I've had REAL sex and still never gone as far as to have anal sex. You should be wary of the fact that he has only had anal sex, with both men and women, and I'm assuming unprotected. It sounds to me like he may not be all that interested in women as sexual partners. Just be careful.

ADD: I almost forgot.....you are 13 years old....there is no possible way you are mature enough emotionally to even consider having sex or children. I lost my virginity at 16 and I look back and realize how naive and stupid I was. I was no where near mature enough to have sex at 16 and I payed the price for it by being taken advantage of by people who I thought loved me. I'm not saying he can't be your boyfriend.......but you should really stick to making out for at least a couple more years! please?