Hiv positive! should i tell him?

last month i felt like going for hiv test. i went there and got terrible result...i got the disease. i havent told my boyfriend of 1 year yet. and there was a stage when we didnt used condoms. i know he may have hiv too. he has cheated m also.

but my cd4 counts showed that i had it long time ago, before i met him, 21%. plz help me. what should i do?
i know you guys may hate m, but i ddnt know!

I'm sorry about your news! Its not nice that your bf cheated on you previously but I think you need to tell your bf that you have HIV. Its his right to know that he may be sick, as if he starts to take medication sooner rather than later it will help to prolong his life.

We have no reason to hate you in the slightest. You have had some shocking news and its a horrible position to be in. I hope everything goes well.

yes you shoulddd tell him!!

we want to stop these disease speading as much as possible, so you need to tell him! also he will need to let who he cheated on you with know as she also could have it, and then the people she slept with!

tell him n get it sorted! yes he will flip when you tell him, just as most people woudl when finding out your partner has hiv and you also might have it

I can;t say I know what you are going tru.But Yes you deff have to tell him he might get mad he might get upset he but he does have a right to know that he might have contracted this from you he needs to know to seek medical health also I would let any other sexual partners you had know I know It's prob hard to but also you have to think about it this way if they had it and you didn't know and might have cought it wouldn't you like to know...Also after he gets tested and if and hopfully it won't be positive make sure you tell him to tell any sexual partners he might have had during your relationship.
Good luck!

I would, for two reasons - 1) if you really care about him then it's your DUTY to tell him and 2) having this problem and knowingly infecting him with it is a criminal offence.
HIV doesn't tend to "go away". It tends to stay in the body, so I think you should tell him and advise him to go and get himself tested too. If he doesn't, then he's probably not the one for you.

You did the right thing by going and having the test done.

You absolutely must find a way to talk him into getting tested and go from there. Your boyfriend has a right to know.

In the meantime, you have to figure out how you got infected.

Are you under the care of a Doctor now? If not, you should be.

Yeah I think you should tell him and, seeing as he cheated on you and had unprotected sex with you, there is a possibility that if he has it, he may have got it elsewhere too.
Hope everything works out for you.

Yes, you should. This is not a matter of where you got it or where he has got it, but to let him know that you have it and you have been engaged with him even before you too have done it. This is to protect his health and the other girls that might get infected as well thru him.

it is actually a criminal offense for you to knowingly have sex with a partner and not inform them of being HIV positive
so yes.. you need to tell him.. and also suggest to everyone else that you have had sex with that they should go get tested

Tell him and work through it. He may need medication now. Plus, you're right, he could infect someone else and break-up with them and the infected person could infect someone else, who'll never know they have it. And so on .........and so on ...............and so on..........

he probably gave you it in the first place by cheating on you and passing it on to you....but yeah id tell him...just lie and said you went to donate blood and they did the finger prick test and told you then.........or summit ...all my best to you.

omg~! i am so sorry for your terrible news! God bless you!
YES you HAVE to tell him, no matter how he reacts you must tell him, he has every right to know. You would be very upset if you knew he kept that kind of news from you.

Good luck and God bless you!!

just tell him

if he cheated on u
there is a great chance that he gonna get pissed at u and probably dump u

or u can secretly tell him by convincing him to get tested and if it is positive tell him if not dont worry about it and just be more careful next time

HELL YES ARE YOU THINKING. DO IT RIGHT NOW, AND TELL ALL OF YOUR OLD BF AND MAKE SURE HE TELLS THE GIRL'S HE MAY HAVE HAD IN THE LAST YEAR.

Well, if you have it you should tell him. By not telling him, you are actually committing a crime.

Well you know now and you absolutely HAVE to tell him, and anyone else you've had sexual contact with.

Yes definitely tell him!

it's illegal not to tell him and to carry on having sex with him. tell him.

Yes,

Its the right thing to do,if you dont your being selfish.

Tel Him.

tell him at 1nce.

yeah tell him, it's the right thing to do!

yes please tell him so that he will be careful not to infect anybody else if he has it..
and no i don'tt hate u take care

i think if u have anything like that u should always tell the person ur with...

By law..you must inform him..and try and contact all the people either of you 2 have been with for awhile....