I just met a guy who is HIV positive, and im confused, i really need help, what would you do?

Hi
I am gay and i met this wonderful boy on the weekend and we had a blissful time together, feelings of excitement that i had found a mutual connection. Over the weekend we had un-protected se, stupid i know! After he left he called me in a mess and told me that he had just found out a few weeks ago that he had tested positive for HIV. I freaked out. Im now on medication to prevent me from contracting the virus so hopefully i will be fine, but im stilll scared. The guy came to the doctors with me. Now i have all these conflicting feelings, i was blissed out one moment and angry the next, i believe he is sorry, but sorry dosnt take away the fact that he risked my life, but i equally risked mine. Now i feel angry, but for some reason i miss him. We could have had this beautiful thing i know it, and maybe we still could, but im scared to let myself be with someone i know i will watch get sick, this is selfish i know, im so confused, everything is conflicting and i feel sick and depresed

Wow, this is a tough way to fall in love, and also have to come to grips with the reality of HIV.

Look, you already know you shouldn't have had unprotected sex. He should have told you he had HIV before you had unprotected sex. You shouldn't have assumed that he didn't have HIV before you made a similar choice. You both made "irresponsible decisions". But *sigh* sometimes making "responsible decisions" isn't the foremost thing on your mind when you fall in love - or lust. Try not to freak out too much: use this as a wake up call to think more carefully about safer sex. Don't beat yourself - or him - up about this.

Your friend deserves credit for calling you and telling you about his HIV status and going to the doctors with you. That must have taken courage, honesty and guts. He sounds like a good person.

His having HIV does not necessarily mean that you can only look forward to watching him get sick if you choose to end up together. The outlook is often much brighter than that these days.

And seriously, you only met each other on the weekend. Give yourselves a bit of time to sort out your feelings for each other. Talk. Do stuff with each other outside the bedroom. And get some condoms.

okay, if he found out before having sex with you then he is at fault and if i am thinking correctly you could probably press charges. He did knowingly and willingly put your life at risk, not saying you weren't in the wrong though wither. perhaps you should get tested since there really are no medications to prevent the catching of HIV/AIDS, if there was everyone would be on it.

i dont think any 15 minutes of bliss is worth your life.. but if it a risk u are willing to take who am i to stop you.. if he was that caring and loving he would have revealed his positive status before he met you.. if you go into a relationship it will be based on a lie .. and he will betray you again

it doesn't really matter because you are gay your chances of getting HIV are higher i would kill someone if they gave me hiv or even a chance of getting it but if you like this guy then it is whatever just remember once you get it theres no turning back your dead

just as long as you protect yourself and just be there to comfort him and cheer him up

was it worth it