My husband doesent want to take the test why?

I have been talking about this all for a long time en its killing me,When i was pregant i was told it was important to have a H.I.V test but when i went home he keep on saying iam not ready en we shall still go this stressed me alot with other things en i lost my baibe.Ya he has been cheating like three times back en he said he has changed but now i need treatment coz i was told i lost my baibe coz of high blood pressure which is to be controlled before iam pregnant again en i am doing all test inclunding HIV now iam telling him he joins me en take the test but still he doesent want saying its a big thing ,stress full en has he to be ready,he says what if he is positive all his dreams are lost , it tence him so much thtat when i talk to him about it he cant sleep ,Now iam wondering i know its hard thing but till when will he be readyt en i need the treatment and in anycase i must have the test both of us not me alone i need to know his status too.I have been faithfull with him

You are loosing faith for nothing. However you make efforts in articulate manner so your husband get convinced the essential point of test which you are doubting. Remove his fear through counsellor. God will help you.

ooh lady, forget about your husband for a while, if he has been cheating there is a good chance that he could be infected and if you both don't use protection you could as well be infected. you need to get the test done for yourself first just incase you are infected you could get started on H.I.V treatment, don't be afraid you can still be H.I.V negative, be strong for yourself....

HIV is a standard blood test they do at your first office visit. You should take all blood tests preferred by your doctor because if something happened and you did have HIV there are extra precautions you can take to keep your baby from contracting it during the birthing process.
Besides that... why would you be with a guy who kept cheating on you anyway

He should definately take the test with you. Explain to him that he has to take the test not only for his health, but for yours and the baby's as well. If he has it, he could infect you, and your baby. Is that what he wants? To "ruin" all your lives?

Be supportive and tell him that you love him no matter what happens.

What does he mean by "ready"? It's just a poke in a vein! Ask him what is the big deal and what does it mean to be ready for it?
Tell him he's most likely negative and how nice would it be to have it confirmed.

Hold it on the sex with him. Take him to get tested and when he gets tested go with him to make sure you see the results first hand. And talk to whoever is testing him also. Protect yourself and it sounds like he is cheating.

Ready? Sounds to me like he's scared of what the results may be. And you need to have your head read for sleeping with him after cheating on you three times! What's wrong with you? Run now before it's too late.

He would test or he would not be having sex with me. I would think that he thinks that it might be positive and he is knowingly putting you at risk if he does.

He may be hiding something. I would take the test anyway because if he was cheating, you need to make sure. If he refuses to go for testing ... Leave him. Good luck.

tell him you'll sleep with him when your ready and that won't be till you get some test results.

hes positive prolly

He has cheated on you 3 times.
Don't get pregnant by him again.

Tell him he needs to take the test or no sex, get tested yourself, and if he still won't then it's time to move on.

because, he is having an affair.

do not stress right now he might be concealing certain things from you. in routine life take of this situation.

try writing in english

poor grammar

just leave him. that's ridiculous that he is only thinking about how he'd feel and not about your health. this is not only causing you stress but it also may make you a walking disease. and seriously? 3 times? what the hell is wrong with you! one is enough and even when you do stay an intelligent person would make him take a test before he even gets a f***in kiss! are you crazy? god ignorant people make me sick. go on jerry springer and knock yourself out