Advice on safer sex?

My best friend is gay and loves sex...who doesnt?! lol
well he of course like every other guy likes to not wear a condom just because it feels better. yea it feels better but when you sleep with one person you sleep with all the people they have slept with so it adds up. well i know hiv isnt just among gay guys...its just better known to do with gay guys...anyways we have talked about it and i told him i dont want him to die from hiv or any other std... i know his sex life is his own but i care about him too much and i couldnt bare to see a terrible disease like hiv kill him...hes been with a few guys already...yes i know his sex life...but he doesnt want to get tested for stds he would like to know but he just wants to live his life and not worry..i agree i dont want to worry about it either but you need to know just to be safe...well i guess the question is does anyone have any advice for me to give him on how to have safer sex and it bein just as pleasureable?

ok well i cant make him wear a condom when im not there im a girl im not included

If he's going to sleep around, then he really needs to be wearing a condom. One of the biggest issues is that he or a partner could have an STD and be asymptomatic (meaning they don't have any symptoms). Such a person could easily pass an STD along and never know they had done so.

If he wants to have unprotected sex, then he needs to get himself into a monogamous relationship where both partners are STD free.

Two types of safe sex are phone sex, and masterbation.

But, "safer" sex is with a condom, and it's mandatory today, if you have more than one sexual partner in your life, to get your blood tested for STD's.
This should be part of your annual health physical.

And sex cannot be really pleasurable, if you do not trust your partner, nor if you do not know if you are infected or not.

i might be able to put your mind at rest a little bit....when gay men are having sex, the man that is giving is very, very unlikely to contract any STD, whether or not he is wearing a condom. he is, however, very likely to pass it on to the man receiving (if he has an STD to start with). so, if your friend tends to give more than receive, you can rest slightly easier.

You're advice should be "use a rubber or die". Any exchange of bodily fluids, (even getting a HJ), can transmit HIV. Unless he (and his partner) is going to get tested and be in a monogamous relationship with one person, then he's simply playing Russian roulette, and also compromising his partners safety.

he not only likes to have bareback fun, he doesn't care a damn about other people! That one is hard to take as far as I am concerned...If he cared, he would get tested regularly...otherwise, he may be infecting a lot of people..not very nice, and in fact, is akin to murder if you ask me! All this because "HE" doesn't like to wear a condom....talk about the height of self centeredness! Who, in their right mind, would have unprotected sex unless they KNOW they are infected????? peace and love, Goldwing

condom does not FULLY protect hiv or std. the best advice would be not to have sex(unless you have to). its all about taking risks........... i am sure your friend doesnt have any kinds of sex related illness. its pretty nice to wear condoms just in case. its really up to him who makes decision, not you. just talk him about taking risks,,,,, there are some pills out there u can take it to reduce risks.

If it werent for the government request to the aliens, HIV would have never existed.

I dont think theres any other way to have a "pleasurable" moment

i dont like sex and will never have sex lol
am not into guys or girls

Using a condom & using spermicide significantly reduces the risk if sexually transmitted diseases.Apart from not having sex there is no other way of having risk-free sex.He should be using protection & getting tested or his/his sexual partners' health & lives are at risk.Plain & simple.

its up to him. you've told him how you feel. he understands the risk. he's just not smart enough to realize that its not worth it in the long run. hopefully he'll be one of the lucky few that never gets it.

make him wear a condom


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Take him to your local clinic and have a professional tell him what could happen, but you should go also so it won't make him feel like he's the only one going to learn.

your friends is a dumb *** and should get tested and he should use a condom if he doesn't he will regret it in the future when something happens and he gets sick tell him wear it or lose it

If he doesn't want to use a condom at least for (anal) sex then he's not too smart! Other than a condom there's abstinence. It is what it is.

a vasectomy. have him donate sperm in a bank so just in case he does ever want kids.

try a varity of condoms but insist on him wearing one.

W0WWiiE!!

Anal condoms is what you need....

either go strait or dont swallow! jk its his life and if u love him let him take care of him self

cant do it with out a condom or a test, sorry