What did u do b4 having unprotected sex w someone?

1- Ask if they've been tested and test yourself
2- Nothing just assume you're both clean
3- Ask if they've been tested AND ask for a paper with proof?

I know a lot of people would suggest #3.. but who actually does it? Have you ever actually asked for a paper proving that they were tested for HIV etc..? I think people just take the other person's word.

Interesting.. NOBODY has done #3 yet that is what the Dr. recommended lol

I didn't even ask for their name or phone number.

I know that asking number 3 is kind of awkward, but it is very important if you want to be safe before you have intercourse with someone. You never know what they're hiding and could be very easily spread.

I also suggest going to a doctor and having both of you get checked. Sometimes you both might not know whether or not you have something going on. It's always best to make sure you're clear of any signs.

You should also be using condoms, and be on birth control.

Be aware of the consequences of sex. STD's, and children are definite possibilities even with all the protection you use. So make sure you use your protection CORRECTLY.

If either of you are unwilling to do these things, you shouldn't be having sex. They are very valuable and important.

Only if I was in a serious relationship, if we had both been tested for stds and were clean, and if we were trying to have a child. It's just too risky otherwise. I don't want an std or an unplanned pregnancy. Guys lie about whether or not they've had std checks all the time. Also lot of people don't have any symptoms of stds so they just assume they're clean without actually getting checked, but it's possible to be infected without displaying symptoms.

Update: I'm kind of surprised that all of us who exercise caution are getting thumbs down. What is wrong with not wanting to catch herpes or be saddled with an unwanted kid?

Not many people do, because by the time you're ready to have sex, it gets hot and heavy and you stop caring so strongly whether they do or don't. But I'd ask at least. Then if you find out later he lied you can say bye to the lying loser. However, if it's someone you know truly cares about you, and wouldn't lie about it, then asking should be enough. It seems pretty businesslike to ask for papers, but sure sometimes it's worth it I suppose.

I go for #1 and should have trust between both. But anyways, both should be careful. By taking the seriousness of other diseases, both would be ready to take an action in this regards.

I went for testing before I started my married life..

2 because we were already engaged and I trust him, I was a virgin before him and he had a vasectomy!

Well I was with him for 3 months and I pretty much trusted him he told me he had no stds, and we had sex he pulled out...and yeah.
He didn't have any stds, so I'm happy, but now thinking about it I should have been more carfule!

We went together to get tested...

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I would say....if you wanna ask then just play it safe and wear protection!

i didnt ask anything. it was time for us to start a family so we just new and didnt use protection im clean and so is he

just ask