I feel suicidal after being dumped for another girl AFTER MY FIANCE OF 7 YEARS dumped me? please help me.?

I was dumped my BF of 7 yeaars for a younger, prettier woman. me and my supposedly fiance never had sex due to him refusing an hiv test. then i noticed 2 purple lesions/blotches appear on his leg accompanying a huge red rash on his arm and feet with fever, vomit, and diareha. He siad the purple marks were from falling off his bike and a bebe gun shot when he was 10. 4 months later the marks never disappeared. he blamed my food for his flu like symptoms although i ate the same food and never got sick. then the last 9 months he had ginigivits and would bleed from his mouth for no reason so i never kissed him for like 2 years becuause he refused to brush his teeth. when he dumped me he told me i wasnt **** to him and he has a new girl. HOW DO I NOT BE JEALOUS OF THIS NEW GIRL THAT STOLE MY FIANCE FROM ME AND MY LIFE FROM ME? HOW DO I COPE WITH ALL THE LONLEY NIGHTS AND WEEKENDS AND SEE THE POSITIVE SIDE OUT OF THIS VERY DEPRESSING SAD SITUATION. I FEEL SO SUCIDAL LIKE I WANT TO JUST LAY DOWN AND DIE. AND BEING 35 I FEEL NO ONE WOULD WANT ME ANYWAY.

Hi there. I'm sorry to hear your relationship broke down but when you consider all the things you put in your post you have to consider what sort of relationship you had in the first place and how complicated it sounds. It's healthy for their to be trust and mutual respect in the relationship, including when it comes to being tested for sexually transmitted diseases. We are all entitled to feel safe - if you had married would you never have kissed or touched him for the rest of your lives? Would that have been a happy marriage or a happy relationship?

Suicide is not worth it, not for anyone or anything so please put that out of your head at once. You only 35 years old and have so much ahead of you. It doesn't mean you cannot meet someone else and start again. Think of all the experience you can take into the new relationship and all the fun you could have. Get out there and spend time with family, with friends and concentrate on you. On your career, on your free time and go and live. Somewhere along the line, you may meet someone and things may fall into place. Falling in love again can happen. You will need time to get over this, but in the meantime, stay very strong.

Good luck.

okay first of all
u deserve soo much better then this *** hole
yes it might hurt now
but u will findlove again
and u will find somebody who truly loves u
not only for sex
others will want you
i guarauntee it
don't give up hope
this guy is going to be sooo sorry he left you
ur life is worth living
trust mee he is an asshol and a jerk

u ar soo much better than he'll ever be

ohh not soo true there are manyy guys out there.
dont feel bad, ur fiance was a jerk if he dumped u for another girl
u had a right to refusee the things u didnt want to do
its nott ur fault, i thinkk ur better off without him
keep looking forr someone else that will treatt u riteee.
u deserve much better ferr surreeee!!!
i hope u forgett about him and try to move on
best of luck! <33

Ok first off, look at what kind of relationship you had.. no sex, no kissing...looks like he was doing alot of lying. And you kept agreeing with it. You deserve better. No man should make you feel small and invisible. And for being with him for 7 years and not being married? Something tells me you had a really rocky relationship with alot of trust issues. And the fact that he refused the HIV test should have been enough to send you packing. After 7 years you get treated like that?? That's really cold. You should just laugh in his face because he will no longer lie to you or hurt you. He's not your problem anymore. Go find somene that will respect you and treat you like a queen. Yes it hurts now, but time will show you how much you didnt lose. You're just wasting your time missing a creep like that. Run and dont look back. It's your life!! Take control!! There are plenty of nice guys waiting for a chance. Just open your heart, and your eyes.