I wanted to ask my husband for HIV test since that we haven't seen each other for about 6 month?

He is overseas and he is coming soon

Good idea, especially if the two of you are in an open relationship. He should, likewise, ask you to do the same.

trust him

WOW.
I think I would just ask him if he has been faithful or not first.

Do it.
If you feel your health and safety is in danger, go on ahead.
If he really loves you and nothing is wrong (he's done nothing wrong), he'll do it without a fuss.

Well you need to ask him where he has been. Are you questioning if he has been unfaithful or if he has been in a dangerous area where he may have been exposed to HIV? There are certainly implications to asking the first question. follow what your intuition tells you.

You didn't say but is your husband in the military. If so, he already receives an annual HIV test as part of his required PHA. Also, just because he has been overseas doesn't mean he has been cheating or sexually active with someone else.

Do you have a reason to suspect that he has. If so, forget the HIV test and see a lawyer.

I think it is legitimate to ask for an HIV test, if you are in doubt him being true to you. But you need to see a marriage counselor simultaneously, for there is a major trust issue going on in your marriage.

You can ask him, if you want to. Well, it is a trust issue. I guess if you ask him, then I guess it will probably lead to a breakup. Not sure. I am not a relationship expert.

ask him did he cheat and also tell if you cheated,and why not both of you get tested

What ever happened to trusting each other or am I naive. What if he asks you to be tested. What would your reaction be, I wonder.

The straight-forward approach, for the modern educated person, would be to get yourself tested first and mail him the results. Prompt him to pursue a similar reassurance that all is safe on his end as well.

However, because you are worried about his reaction in the first place, I think sneaky works as well as straight-forward here. I would apply to have your husband insured for over $250,000 dollars. That requires a blood test and one of the things they test for is HIV. They'll do the test before they accept him for the policy and generally it happens within a week of the application. FInd out if his company offers such a policy and it can happen before he returns. Make sure you are the point of contact for the results of the blood test.

If he is military- then you have less to worry about. The Army tests once per year and results other than negative are automatically reported to the spouse (for their protection).

For the time being- use protection.

Really life worths a while. He who calls life nothing is foolish but Dear lady i would like to advice you owing to your trust to your dear husband. If you believe him much i would rather advice you to quit your question and dear in love as ever before but if you did not then go ahead and ask him for a test.
In the other hand hand,if he is an understanding man and you ask him for a test to him that is a sure garanty that his wife were abstainity from sex since his abscence but if he is not i wonder what will happen and how he will carry on with the matter especially if he is of worth cash.
In everything i would like you to make use of your senses towards how your people knew each other.

if you feel you need to ask for a test coz hes been away, then id tell you to ask him for a divorce as theres no trust there...

in order to safely look out for your best interest, its not about trust its about well being. you both should go get tested so he wont feel like u have anything to hide either. best wishes!

IN a person who is believed to be having Multy partner(women) sex is to be subjected to test like HIV &VDRL in due course of time after landing for normal-life ,this could be the procedure,-but such a bad susption WILL BE SOLUVED in this way, IF EVERY ONE START THINKING --this way without understanding inFAITH in married person life, there willnot be any pease